He didn’t go to Tesco?

[purpleparroty]

I’ve been ill with the flu for the past few days and am in the worst of it, asked DH if he could pop to the shops and get some dinner in, and food for dc over the weekend, as we have nothing in and I thought he would stop at Tesco on his way home from work.

He decided to go to our village newsagents which sells no fresh food and spent 50 FUCKING QUID on crap. He got unbranded frozen ready meals which no one in our house would touch with a barge pole. The rest went on crisps / chocolate / ice cream / pot noodles. He didn’t even get bread (which they actually sell). Because i’ve not been happy about this he’s now gone in a mood and said he’s not bothering again. AIBU to be psised off he didn’t go to tesco and get real food the kids actually eat and not just chocolate and crisps. And now he’s moaning saying he didn’t know he wasn’t ‘allowed’ to go to the village shop and that i should have told him. I shouldn’t fucking have to tell people to use their brain.

Oh calm down sally he’s brought crap food home not chlamydia

I am so relaxed by most MN standards but I'd be passed off by this. The sulking is silly too. Yes technically he has done what was asked of him.but in the most incompetent slap dash way possible.
Why waste money like that.

Make a list and send him right back out.

But no one wants to eat the fray bentos bullshit he's brought home.

Well I wouldn't but if I was really hungry I'd make do!

I couldn't be bothered to go out earlier so just had a microwave jacket potato with cheese and beans.

Kids must be starving.

Surely her grown man of a husband could have managed this himself?

The responses on these threads always blow my mind. Some people have such low expectations of men - why are women expected to provide healthy balanced meals but a man goes to a newsagents for food and the responses are ‘Come on now, he tried’!

Why do people want to give men medals for the things women are expected to do as standard?

We played find the meat and guess the lump in corner shop "ready meals"

The kids had CRISPS for dinner. Not sure many Mums would ever go that low!

There's a lot of space he could have aimed for between home cooked meal and crisps and sweets.

Beans on toast FFS!!

She shouldn’t have to make sure he knows what to get, he should be capable of doing it on his own. FFS. I haven’t even got kids but if someone asked me to go to Tesco’s and buy food for four people for three days I could write down a meal plan, make a list and DO IT.

2 words …. Weaponised incompetence. I’d expect this from a teenager. You are absolutely nbu.

he’s now gone in a mood and said he’s not bothering again.

Nah-he obviously needs the practise!

Is this the first food shop he has ever done?

We don’t have ubers or even a takeaway within 10 miles. Not everyone lives in a metropolis!

Luckily my 72yr old DH is perfectly capable of writing out a shopping list and buying decent food. Shame the OP’s DH is a selfish twat. 😤

@purpleparroty hope you feel better soon and give your DH a kick up the arse when you’re well enough.

I would be furious too. Either he did it deliberately, so you wouldn't ask him again or he literally has no idea how to shop for a family, simply because he's not used to it? My husband is the complete opposite! He'd never shop in a village shop because he'd know it would be overpriced and limited choice. He'd also would have made a list of items needed, asked if there was anything in particular I wanted and planned a meal menu for the week! Yes, my husband is probably not usual in men but it doesn't take a genius to figure out a large supermarket would be better value and to ask you if he really had no idea what to buy.

Exactly!

@purpleparroty out he goes tomorrow morning for essentials. I hope at least he's getting you hot fluids to help you recover.

I am with you OP. He sounds pretty useless. It’s almost very child like or behaviour of a teenage boy. You need a partner, not another child. And kids need a responsible Dad.

He's a lazy sod and can't be arsed so put in as little effort as possible. I'd be pissed off.

@TeaNtoast25 I'm with you there. It's not the end of the world is it?

Ye a grown man who she knows to be a fuckwit when it comes to shopping.

OP is on Mumsnet so not at deaths door and clearly well enough to message here
Plus
Is it really such a big deal to start a thread on mumsnet……wouldnt most of us just move on…
No one is going to die because of some ready meals, crisps and chocolate.

at least dh has spent £50 in a local shop and not Tesco!
Support local shops!!!

Nah definitely not, there’s kids out there starving daily being abused people getting a terminal cancer diagnosis, always think there’s worse off people out there and count ya blessings

Exactly! Not sure what part of ‘village’ people don’t understand. We don’t have the convenience of uber eats.

Did you give him a list and say Tesco. Food on your way home is pretty vague and he fulfilled that request.