Partner Freaked Out By Women Who Fart/Poo (so yes, all women)

[ThatNavyGoose]

Basically the title - I have been with my partner for almost 8 years and he is a wonderful partner and Dad to our children. BUT - he has never farted in front of me and I have never DARED to fart in front of him. I have never heard him fart even once. He is completely freaked out by the concept that women fart/poo. I pooped a lot in labour with our baby and he pretended like it never happened and has never once acknowledged it. He says he feels this way because of how he was brought up - his parents were exceptionally strict about farting/burping and he used to get in lots of trouble for it, so he finds it really rude/disrespectful and it freaks him out. Our sister in law burps all the time and he will literally get up and leave the room because he can’t stand it. I don’t WANT to fart in front of him particularly but I still worry about one slipping out because he’d be totally disgusted and I’d be mortified. Is it unreasonable to think that after 8 years together he would have relaxed a bit?!

Sounds like he needs some therapy

Why only women?

Just fart and tell him to get over it. Don't let him pass on his issues to your children.

I'm with your DH on this one. I'd die a thousand deaths before I would intentionally fart in front of anyone, or pooing in any situation where another person would know I was pooing.
I cannot understand for the life of me, why couples think it's ok to use the lavatory while one is in the bath/abluting.
And as for baths in the bedroom...

Why?

It's remarkable that he's even allowed himself to have sex with a real, grown up lady - one press on the right place on the abdomen and the trauma would have rendered him permanently impotent.

Well it's not only women if he has hang ups about doing it too.

Sounds like he needs exposure therapy :-)

Wait until you get into your sixties, there’s no stopping it. Lol. I swear I never farted ever, haha, well now I do. Nothing to be done about it.

Why on earth would he think that women's digestive and bodily waste-management systems are completely different from men's?

Sounds like he really needs to unclench - in more ways than one.

Completely freaking out at ordinary bodily functions is not normal, that's why.

Oh dear lord OP, never have children with this man.

How will he cope with nappies and winding babies?

What an idiot.

How would you have liked him to acknowledge your in-labour poops? Have them bronze?

Because it's absolutely stark raving mad not to acknowledge that women's digestive systems work in the same way as men's and we fart and poo, as do all humans.

But why? I don't know you and will never (knowingly) meet you... but even I know that you poo!!

Was going to type exactly this!

He’s being a twat in my opinion, but Mumsnet usually seems to be full of people who faint at the mention of farting and insist that everyone should get up and go to the bathroom each time they need to let one go.

Everyone farts. Everyone shits. He needs to get over it and so do you by the sounds of things. Don't pass this on to your kids! It is so unfair. I wouldn't let rip at work or in polite company but in the comfort of my own home if I need to let one go, I will.

oh i missed that you have a baby, does he realise that the little human has bodily functions?

I hate farting and burping.

It repulses me.

But I'm like that with any "personal" things. I don't want to see anyone clipping their toe nails etc!

I'm sure I'm one of these people who has misophonia as I hate hearing people eat. I also can't stand people who eat with their mouth open or get food round their mouth when eating!

Because he’s so repressed, prissy and uptight that he can’t cope with the functions of a normal human body?

Just say you are ripping linen for dusters if he hears you fart.

Thank you for this comment 🤣

LMAO. Yeah I had no idea other women demanded acknowledgement of this 😆

He must fart as well- otherwise he'd suffer colic, and float to the sky like a dirigible balloon.

As a male student, did he never set light to his flatus?

First time I saw someone do that I thought it was a myth... but it's true! a ragged orange flame and the smell of singed underwear.

I don't know how you can put up with this situation. How anal. (pun intended).