To hate holiday with baby

[Greenwich869]

DH insisted it will be great. He was excited. I was the negative nelly obviously but gave in. Well, we're here. 10 hour flight was brutal. Baby is jet lagged. So are we. It's made baby clingy even though he never was clingy with me before. He won't settle for dad now. My back feels like it will snap in two from spending the last 24 hours holding baby to sleep in the airport and plane. Constantly rocking him as if he is a newborn but he's 9 kgs.

It's just parenting a million times worse.

It's day 1, we arrived this morning. DH is insisting it was the right thing to come. He is going the extra mile, trying to do lots and I am trying to put on a good face but I am absolutely miserable.

The right thing to do is snap out of it and enjoy it as there's no quick way to go home. But I hate DH right now. Hate his fucking guts. Could 100% divorce him over this. And I hate myself for giving in to his stupid idea. Hate, hate, hate myself.

Yes, you are. I've asked you nicely, please go away

Are you serious? You are clearly one of the many people who whimper ‘mental health’ when anything goes wrong. Get real! We are not all nutcases. If you can’t be more helpful than that, I suggest you be quiet, or better still, go away!

I lived in the UK and my family was in the US. I traveled with my son from six months old. He was great because I wasn't stressed. I didn't project it onto him. He became an absolute pro at flying. Also, the flight attendants were great back then. Always willing to help. It was great he was so amazing but still. How you feel will project onto your child and he will react accordingly. Relax, mama.

First question is why you’re asking a generally uninformed general public to validate your feelings? More than half of the people have no clue and comment based on personal biases and beliefs that are erroneous but they’ll never do research or seek out the truth. Second thing is, based on what experts say, babies strongly sense the emotions and feelings of their parents, particularly their mothers. Was the change in the child’s behavior due to being on a long plane ride, or was it the mother’s resentment and anger, just knowing that the trip was not going to turn out right. Maybe it was nothing to do with being on a plane, but it was the mother herself that caused things to fall apart. Something she of course blames on someone else now. Take responsibility for yourself! YOU agreed to go, YOU went into it with a bad attitude, and YOU passed your negativity onto the baby…. who just reacted to YOU.

First question is why you’re asking a generally uninformed general public to validate your feelings

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Main premise of MN, seems to be working surprisingly well for them .....

As a mom of three, I took my first flight with my oldest when she was 5 days old. I have taken my kids all over the world, sometimes flew international flights with all three without their dad or the nanny. Sometimes it was tough but it never deterred me to do it again. Memories are everlasting. Even when the idiot at the Panama international airport thought it would be ideal to put my three kids in different seats throughout the plane. Yes I ripped him a new one but he still didn’t change the seats. The people moved around so the kids could sit with me - like who wants to babysit someone else’s kids on a plane. She is overreacting. The kid is too young to be jet lagged. Once he gets a good sleep, he will be fine.