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Middle-aged professional women doing drugs on the weekend

542 replies

Snookerfan · 02/03/2025 22:12

Is this common now? I was invited to a house party Saturday night and snow was being done quite openly, there were also Mary Jane vapes and Ecstasy passed around.

These were mainly mothers with adult grown sensible families. What is going on, am I totally not with it?

Was it always this way or is this scene infiltrating a different demographic now?

We always knew people like this did this, but was it this open and accepted?

I didn’t partake, still a great night.

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TheBewleySisters · 04/03/2025 19:22

I am very old now, and look like a kindly old headmistress. However during the 80s and 90s I took industrial amounts of drugs, never heroin, but tonnes of weed and acid, sometimes coke, and bloody loved it! I've not touched anything for over 20 years, but I look back fondly on that time. I realise this has nothing to do with the post, but it did make me reminisce.

ChampagneLassie · 04/03/2025 19:25

MidnightPatrol · 02/03/2025 22:19

Whats a Mary Jane vape?

I don’t know anyone really doing this, but we are at the ‘I want to go to bed at 9pm’ phase of parenting.

My thoughts exactly 👍🤣

MayNov · 04/03/2025 19:32

I think after 40 one thing leads to another, passing out after 2 glasses of wine, one’s bed time being at 9 pm in general anyway, plus having time and money.

ChampagneLassie · 04/03/2025 19:32

2021x · 03/03/2025 04:34

Not remotely surprised.

I personally think we should legalise all drugs- remove the harm by increasing the quality but also tax the fuck out of them. I think it would actually reduce harm if we ensure standards during manufacture and dosage.

Humans are always going to human.

i completely agree

Only4nomore · 04/03/2025 19:37

I see this alot where i am. Teachers, solicitors even policemen/women not every weekend or anything usually the summer holidays tbh 🤣 usually with teenage kids not little ones. Not for me I have ADHD wine does the trick I'm wild at the best of times.

JustMeAndTheFish · 04/03/2025 19:39

Panterusblackish · 02/03/2025 22:37

Can they get me some speed? I need a boost

I only have 1.5 days off per week and I have to fit in the housework, life admin, meal prepping and cook a roast. When are they doing their chores, when?!

If you ask about the speed could you also ask for some tips on household management, these ladies are clearly doing it way better than me if they are free to live it up with Molly on the weekends.

I can recommend oral steroids 😂 I was severely asthmatic as a child but with age it’s got much better and the allergies that generally caused it are thankfully much reduced.
Last proper attack over 30 years ago and was given antibiotics for a chest infection and oral steroids … a few days later, after I’d cleaned parts of my house I didn’t know existed, the asthma nurse refused to give me any more… not even one week’s worth every year 😆

xxSusanMxx · 04/03/2025 19:40

Strawberryfruitcorner · 02/03/2025 22:27

And here’s little old me worried about having a coffee after 4 pm 🤣🤣

This made my day 😂I want to be your friend!! Lol

Neurodiversitydoctor · 04/03/2025 19:45

Scrubberdubber · 03/03/2025 10:03

"kids" meaning teenagers who'd beat you up for looking at them. Yeah we had a few "kids" like that when I was at secondary school. Still have a fair bunch of them round here
Such lovely innocent victims.

I became a mum at 15 "kids" that age know what they're doing 🤷🏻‍♀️

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Age of consent was 12 in Victorian England. We know better so we should do better. Children are children county lines is exploitation pure and simple.

CappuccinoChocolate · 04/03/2025 19:46

JadededViewer · 03/03/2025 20:18

Ah, now this is an interesting development. The respectable mothers, the career women, the PTA veterans swapping Sauvignon Blanc for something with a little more… kick. Some might clutch their pearls, but let’s be honest: this isn’t new. The only thing that’s changed is the lighting. What once happened in dimly lit clubs, behind velvet ropes, now unfolds over granite countertops in suburban kitchens.

You see, power is not just about status, wealth, or influence. It’s also about freedom the freedom to indulge, to break the rules, to dance along the edges of excess without consequence. For years, this kind of behavior was the domain of rock stars, Wall Street wolves, and reckless youth. But now? The middle-aged professional woman has carved out her own space. She’s spent decades playing by the rules career, family, responsibility and now she’s realized something that men in boardrooms have always known: the game is rigged, so why not write your own rules?

The real question isn’t why they’re doing it. It’s why now? Maybe it’s rebellion. Maybe it’s escape. Or maybe, just maybe, it’s the realization that control over one’s life isn’t just about respectability it’s about indulgence, too. And as long as they keep their families intact, their careers afloat, and their reputations spotless, who’s really going to stop them? Society turns a blind eye to power when it’s wielded discreetly.

So no, you’re not out of touch. You’ve simply witnessed a demographic wake up to an old truth: The real privilege in this world isn’t money. It’s the ability to misbehave…

Nope it's wanky performative bollocks.

Decorhate · 04/03/2025 19:50

I agree with @SuperGinger Even in my naice leafy part of the country I know kids who have had their lives ruined if not ended through county lines. I despise middle class wankers who seem to think it’s a laugh.

JohnofWessex · 04/03/2025 19:51

What happened when they all drove home or the following day(s) and are over the limit?

Stirabout · 04/03/2025 19:59

Decorhate · 04/03/2025 19:50

I agree with @SuperGinger Even in my naice leafy part of the country I know kids who have had their lives ruined if not ended through county lines. I despise middle class wankers who seem to think it’s a laugh.

Absolutely

Pigwodgeon · 04/03/2025 20:02

Definitely a thing in London with middle aged parents. Bbq, beers and coke. I couldn't now that i have kids. At all. Barely drink.

Stirabout · 04/03/2025 20:03

Greywhippet · 04/03/2025 18:29

Any middle class person snorting coke is at the top of a long and miserable chain of blood, violence, trafficking, crime, gangs, abuse of women, grooming of young kids. In short, an absolute cunt

👏👏👏👏
love this…..

Hwi · 04/03/2025 20:04

If this is for personal use only and they know the risks, it is less creepier/silly than 'dating' or 'boyfriends' or getting married at that age, I think.

Stirabout · 04/03/2025 20:20

Hwi · 04/03/2025 20:04

If this is for personal use only and they know the risks, it is less creepier/silly than 'dating' or 'boyfriends' or getting married at that age, I think.

See above @Greywhippet s post. None of their behaviour stands in isolation.

valentinka31 · 04/03/2025 20:28

Personally I would never behave like this. But I know of women who do and think it is 'cool'. ...

Up to them. I think it's vile.

Laboheme78 · 04/03/2025 20:29

Went to a 50th recently, was drinking but I saw absolutely no drugs. Afterwards one of my friends told me that there had been drugs everywhere (coke and tabs of some sort I think) and that she felt left out she’d not been offered anything. She’s a GP.

I can only assume that I look like the kind of person who wouldn’t indulge in anything (lawyer) so this totally passed me by.

Have since discovered that it’s apparently a thing in some of the circles I mix in. There are certain pubs in my very middle class city that these friends now hang out in where presumably they can get hold of whatever they want to take. I wouldn’t do it, I think it’s a bit tragic really at my age. Also I have teenage kids and I’ve always said drugs are a bad idea so I would never want to be so hypocritical. I actually think it’s a bit weird and it has put me off keeping up with certain friends. I’ve always been really fit and sporty, just can’t imagine doing anything that might jeopardise my physical or mental health. One of my friends did so much weed at uni she had major issues with paranoia for years and years afterwards. Ruined most of her early adulthood.

Spanglishmummy3 · 04/03/2025 20:39

Bluh · 02/03/2025 23:16

I find it really interesting that alcohol is practically a national pastime. Yet drugs taken recreationally, which time and time again have been proven to be not as harmful, are vilified. It’s a bizarre and uneducated position to take

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Right! Lol

Tricho · 04/03/2025 20:40

Snow?

Mary jane?

Hello AI.

Lassango · 04/03/2025 20:48

I would not be socialising with those people any more.

Stirabout · 04/03/2025 20:49

It’s not you OP being ‘not with it’ it’s them leading clearly pathetic lives.
Id feel sorry for them if it wasn’t for the wider implications of their selfish behaviour
Walk away OP,and tell them why

kungfoofighting · 04/03/2025 20:51

I voted YABU for referring to coke and weed as snow and mary jane

PickledKT · 04/03/2025 21:02

ExcessiveNumberOfNinjas · 04/03/2025 19:11

I'm sure the after dinner conversation will be riveting. 🙄

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Yes Chatting absolute SHIT 🤣

CatzeeBat · 04/03/2025 21:20

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