For being rude to an old lady

[ThePerkyCoralPoet]

Doing my food shop at m&s, I was rushing to pick someone up after. I needed some jam. Lady was in the way. I said “excuse me sorry can I just grab that” she just stood there so I proceeded to reach for the jam.

She gave me the most disgusting look I have ever recieved.

So because today has been a long day I said “ I did actually say excuse me and I did actually ask you to move out of the way” to which she responded “it’s such a me first attitude” I said “you do realise you’re in a supermarket. And you don’t own the supermarket. We all have places to be and people to see darling” and I walked off.

am I missing something here. Have I not used correct supermarket etiquette

😀I'm 70 and still very active and don't feel old (I realise I am though).

By 70 there's such variation in how 'old' someone is in terms of health and ability. Glad you're doing well. I intend to not slow down one bit till then at least. Hopefully it works out!

Rude rude rude. And the fact you have to ask if you were speaks volumes. You don’t own the place, everything doesn’t happen on your time and you aren’t more important. Then when someone reacts to your rudeness in a way you don’t like you don’t get to respond in such a rude way. Give yourself a shake.

That lady was minding her own business and had to deal with your rude interaction because you can’t act politely.

You are being mega unreasonable and entitled and were rude multiple times .

Odd that you didn't think to mention that you asked twice in any post before this one.

If it was so imperative that you pick up "someone's son" without delay, why stop to do your shopping at all? It's not as if M&S jam is exactly one of life's essentials.

And you are a perfect example of these people you quote here.

PS just loving your attempts to justify your actions Darling…

You were rude and it was unnecessary.

They do, you know. When I had a fall one cold evening last year on a road where there aren't usually many people, a lady with a small child went out of her way to help me, and another man went into a shop to buy tissues and water for me as my broken nose was streaming blood all over my face and shirt.

Your reaction to this lady suggests you wouldn't have helped, but don't assume everyone is like you.

It just gets worse every time the OP tries to defend herself.

Doesn't it?!

What a supremely daft thing to say. 😆 Did you even read that through before you posted this drivel?

Some weird replies here IMO. I can't imagine being so scared of people that you would just stand there in the background waiting and waiting for "your turn" to get something from the shelf. Your turn? Don't you just, you know, share the space?
I'm not in the UK though, maybe it's a cultural thing. I say excuse me to people in the supermarket ALL the time, as does everyone else, with absolutely no issue or hurt feelings.

It was abit over the top though to rant at her. And "darling" is pretty condescending. But saying "excuse me"?? Absolutely nothing wrong with that!

Brilliant! 😂 100% agree too!

She probably didn't hear you the first time, that's all. In my experience, M&S foodhalls are metallic boxes with horrible acoustics.

I don't think you were in the wrong to reach over her, particularly. Like you say, it's a supermarket, and everyone is just trying to get their stuff done and get out.

The passive aggressive diatribe was the bit that was unnecessary.

Who has ever claimed 60 is middle aged? 😂 No-one that's who. I class as a 60 year old as a 'senior,' but not 'old!' I thought the OP was talking about someone who was about 83!

However old the other lady was, the OP had NO right to speak to her like she did. She has totally embarrassed herself! I find it hilarious that she's still trying to justify herself when most posters are saying she is being totally unreasonable.

I’m laughing at people calling 60 “old.”

I’m nearer 70 than 60 and I still have a kick arse job responsibilities for training many others and I’ll bet I could outrun and outlift the OP at the gym. If I want to take my time choosing jam in M&S I bloody well will, and @ThePerkyCoralPoet can wait.

I've seen middle aged described as ending at 60 0r 65. Wikipedia says it's from around 45 to 65. en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Middle_age

Another ageist post.

I'm 62. Still work 52.5 hrs per week, in a job that is tiring and stressful.

My time is as important as yours. As was hers.

You were very very rude, ageist and you need to understand you're not the main character on other peoples' lives.

If someone said they spoke to an old lady today absolutely nobody would be picturing in their head a 60 yr old.

You wanted her to move.

You preceded this request with "excuse me".

But that doesn't oblige her to jump out of the way because you're in a hurry.

It doesn't entitled you to priority. Because as you rightly said, its a shared space. Sometimes there are other people there first and we have to wait for them.

If 60 is middle age then are peeps expecting to live 110 - 125?? It's senior ffs, don't kid yourselves otherwise.
OP you were actting like a t--t and are sulking because people have quite rightly pulled you up on it. You haven't got the response you expected, you'll be senior / elderly one day then some moron will be moaning about you dithering and taking up space in shops with your pensioner trolley.

It's rife on here. It is as if the people who post the ageist stuff think that by doing do they will never get old and not be on the receiving end of a social attitude they have contributed to

Well, it'll hit them hard one day.

That's very interesting, I didn't know that. Thanks @GRex

Your post reminded me that a few years ago I fell off my bike and broke my arm. While I was lying on the ground wondering what to do, three or four teenagers rushed over to help me. They saw what happened and they rushed to help. They did help. It was fantastic what they did.

100% disagree. If I was standing in front of a shelf of jam or anything else and someone else wanted to get some id squidge up to let them. Absolutely nobody in their right mind wouldnt. Why would anyone wait their turn? There is no need. That's nuts. Unless there was literally a wall or other trolleys or something on the side and behind and nowhere for the person to go.