For being rude to an old lady

[ThePerkyCoralPoet]

Doing my food shop at m&s, I was rushing to pick someone up after. I needed some jam. Lady was in the way. I said “excuse me sorry can I just grab that” she just stood there so I proceeded to reach for the jam.

She gave me the most disgusting look I have ever recieved.

So because today has been a long day I said “ I did actually say excuse me and I did actually ask you to move out of the way” to which she responded “it’s such a me first attitude” I said “you do realise you’re in a supermarket. And you don’t own the supermarket. We all have places to be and people to see darling” and I walked off.

am I missing something here. Have I not used correct supermarket etiquette

You were fine hut I wouldn't have gone on at her after she gave the look. Life's too short.

If you watch old movies it’s quite startling how much older an average 60 yr old looks and acts in them, in comparison to how they do today. I don’t mean that 60 yr olds look 40 today but their whole manner and attitude tends to be much younger than a 60 yr old from say a 1940’s movie. They seem more like they could be my mother than my own age group. That poster for some reason still thinks 60 year olds are the same as nearly a hundred years ago.

How old are you?

You should have waited untill she finished. I would have given you a look to. I myself carnt just jump out of people way when they ask me due to a condition. It wasnt her fault you where in a rush. Supermarkets are for everyone not just entitled you.

Yep, that’s exactly my point. Everything’s relative and dependent on so many things such as genes, general health and lifestyle, as well as environmental factors. There isn’t any particular age you reach and then bam - suddenly you’re old !!

There was no need to be so rude. I don't know how old the lady was but if retired and on her own you may have been the only person she spoke to that day. I think she's correct about the 'me attitude'

Exactly!
She chose not to move because she was looking at something herself. Why do you think she should have jumped out of your way on your say so?
Wait your turn.

Honestly, the entitlement is all you.

I think I took umbrage because OP refers to a complete stranger, whose age she doesn't know, as an ‘old lady’ and gives her the age of around 60. I mean that is a wtf moment in my book! 😁

Oh OP, it's like you're trying to have people tell you off.

1. Not everyone can hear perfectly and may turn to find out what you were saying by adding lip reading.
2. "Excuse me please" is a request, strangers are not actually obliged to do as you ask just because you ask, they are entitled to decide they will just pick their own jam first. You were not experiencing an urgent health crisis from lack of jam.
3. If you're going to choose to shove your way in, then you can expect dirty looks. You should have left it there, because you shove / she glares was the fair exchange point.
4. Did it occur to you that it was someone similarly impatient to you, who pushed your mum over?
5. Your little lecture made you sound like an aggressive airhead, better to think before speaking next time.
6. 60 an "old lady"?! The reason healthcare define terms like elderly is to provide better care and support. If you use the term to be rude then you're prejudiced and you think someone fits the category but choose to be nasty anyway then you're a bully.

Anyone else dying to know what important places OP had to be, and who she had to see were? And whether she made it (jam in hand)?

Just off to broker world peace, or perform time critical lift saving surgery, but needed to stop en route to make sure there was something in for breakfast?

The older lady had a right to take her time while doing her shopping, but there’s nothing wrong asking to get something if you’re in a hurry either.

The look she gave you makes me think she didn’t hear you. In which case your comment was OTT and patronising. If she did hear you, and just didn’t move, then that’s a bit of an arsehole move.

Though, calling anyone darling in a sarcastic way is unnecessary.

You should say excuse me then you wait and the other person moves - not excuse me and push through. Elderly people take time to move back/step aside. You was unkind

Why are you wasting so much energy on this incident and this thread OP

Just let it go

It’s not about how you age. Everyone ages by time by the same amount. It’s not about how fit or healthy you are or are not. You could have a perfectly capable mobile 80 year old, they would still be old because they are old.
It’s ridiculous to try and claim 60 is middle aged like some posters.

The definition of 'middle aged' isn't actually defined by the mid-point of your life. It's a life stage and 60 is definitely middle aged from that perspective.

Why would that be relevant?

Hope your mum is okay but read your last paragraph, you're the one who is blowing this out of proportion., it's just a jar of jam.

From a health perspective, someone might fit "elderly" definitions in their 50s or not until their 80s. However, just so you know, 60 is actually middle aged by WHO definitions, and bear in mind they have to take global poverty and healthcare into account for their definitions. 65 is where "elderly" starts for WHO.

I think that’s a bad mindset. To decide you are old once you reach 60 is not doing yourself any favours. If you think old you will become old, both physically and mentally. We don’t have to go down the route of trying to pretend we’re still 25 but an aging before your time mentality is not one to be encouraged.

I never mentioned elderly.

Oh was a storm in a tea cup. Just because you said ‘excuse me’ doesn’t mean she has to move. She was there to get jam too and she got there first. Your poor time management isn’t her opportunity to inconvenience herself.

Why is it a secret?

It is relevant. If you're 20 it’s going to seem old, if you're 60 then you have for whatever reason pigeonholed yourself as old and think others should too.

If she was "60 at best" she's more likely tired at the end of the working week and wondering what to cook the family for dinner.

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