For being rude to an old lady

[ThePerkyCoralPoet]

Doing my food shop at m&s, I was rushing to pick someone up after. I needed some jam. Lady was in the way. I said “excuse me sorry can I just grab that” she just stood there so I proceeded to reach for the jam.

She gave me the most disgusting look I have ever recieved.

So because today has been a long day I said “ I did actually say excuse me and I did actually ask you to move out of the way” to which she responded “it’s such a me first attitude” I said “you do realise you’re in a supermarket. And you don’t own the supermarket. We all have places to be and people to see darling” and I walked off.

am I missing something here. Have I not used correct supermarket etiquette

Maybe she didn't hear you. Old age doesn't come alone you know. It comes with pain, deafness, crippling loneliness, the inability to move or think as quickly as you once did and a whole host of other very unpleasant things. I never thought for one single moment that any of that would apply to me because I was sharp, witty, healthy and invincible and probably immortal too. I admit I was once occasionally guilty of viewing "old people" as a homogenised group that deliberately walked slowly, made a fucking big deal of their arthritic hands when counting out change and who generally relished the opportunity to just get in the way of me, because you know, I was busy and more important. You should have stomped on her bunions for good measure OP, that would've taught her.

YABU

Rude and nasty to an elderly person who could well have been hard of hearing, or just taken a little longer to process what you said?

And as for your retort, I'm cringing for you 'darling'.

So, you were in such a rush that you couldn't wait for her to make her selection from the shelf........ but not in that much of a hurry given that you made time to give her an ear bashing for her shortcomings.

@MyUmberSeal they have an excellent cherry one which is lush on thickly buttered fresh white bread, closely followed by the blackberry and apple preserve, and then their seedless raspberry is beautifully sharp and excellent dolloped on rice pudding

You won't believe me but I'm really not a sweet toothed person - I just really rate M&S jam

This. Old lady here. I hate that. Be rude to me all you like, but don't call me darling, dear, love or any other shitty patronising passive-aggressive form of address..

Just coming on to say the same.

Surely she didn't hear you?

Shame on you OP

It’s a shared space so you also can’t rush someone out of your way simply because you’re too important to wait!

Op let it go ive said some things to old and young they bloody ask for it at the times.
Tbh i think we have all said something to someone that as pissed us off at some point in our lifes if you have never what planet are you from as need that structure as my mouth runs faster than my brain.

She gave me the most disgusting look I have ever recieved.

Given your attitude, I actually find this really hard to believe.

Well it does depend how long someone stays looking

The other week I walked up the first aisle
Couldn't get past people to grab the stuff I needed
Did the rest of my shop
They were still there so I had to ask them to step aside
As far as I know it was a polite exchange

Of course it was Lidl if that matters

You were very mildly rude to start with,

you then were overtly rude

finally you were comically awful.

At least you have given her an anecdote to laugh about.

She could have been trying very hard not to fart in public........... especially if she's on the same medication as me! 😉

Don't do it again darling

What an exciting life some people lead!

I have to say I agree with the old lady. You projected your bad day on to her and you should have shown some courtesy to wait your turn. Your behaviour was confrontational and unkind. I guess now you’ve reflected you might regret your actions and hopefully be more patient next time.

You were rude.

She has an equal right to you to stand in front of the shelf.

Some people need more time for any one of a multitude of reasons. They are not deliberately trying to upset you.

You then proceeded to lecture her in a way which I think many would find patronising

Being elderly doesn't exempt you from being rude.

There's such a notion that we must respect our elders. No we don't. Not if they're rude. It's such an entitled attitude.

I was on your side till the last line

If you’d shrugged and walked off (with jam) after her “me first attitude” you’d have been in the right

I’m deaf, I might be considered old in some circles.
I don’t hear people, especially those behind me, because of my hearing loss. Hearing aids are helpful but not a total solution.
Whether she be deaf/hard of hearing or whatever, I’m not saying the lady was right or wrong with her response but you come over as a bully.

You were rude...and very cringe

You're full of yourself and it wouldn't have hurt to wait until she has moved on. Maybe she needed to stop and gather her thoughts or felt unwell.

Darling, you must simply tell the Daily Mail this