For being rude to an old lady

[ThePerkyCoralPoet]

Doing my food shop at m&s, I was rushing to pick someone up after. I needed some jam. Lady was in the way. I said “excuse me sorry can I just grab that” she just stood there so I proceeded to reach for the jam.

She gave me the most disgusting look I have ever recieved.

So because today has been a long day I said “ I did actually say excuse me and I did actually ask you to move out of the way” to which she responded “it’s such a me first attitude” I said “you do realise you’re in a supermarket. And you don’t own the supermarket. We all have places to be and people to see darling” and I walked off.

am I missing something here. Have I not used correct supermarket etiquette

Can't see the relevance of the supermarket being M&S either

surely You could have waited a minute until she had finished what she was doing?

Was there any need for that diatribe?

Did she definitely hear you say excuse me? I'm sometimes in my own world and don't register others talking to me. But actually I don't think you were rude.

So someone doesn't move out of the way quick enough and you just decide you'll go ahead anyway? It's nobody else's fault you're in a rush, why couldn't you have waited the 30 seconds it would presumably have taken her to pick up whatever she was looking for?

I was on your side until the word ‘darling’ was used.

I've been around long enough to know that no matter how much of "in a rush" you are or how "important" you are, you don't push past people at the shelves of a supermarket, the reaction will be as if it's an act of total anarchy....
I just wait.

You were rude. Your schedule is not more important than hers.

The only relevance I can see is that hearing issues can increase with age.

I’m not elderly but am deaf and have sometimes been accused of being rude, by some impatient fucker, when I haven’t heard them.

Depends what flavour jam tbh, there's a clear hierarchy of M&S jams

Assuming that it was obvious that the woman heard you and just chose to ignore you, I would absolutely have just reached around her to grab what i needed.

It's a shared space, you don't get to just stand in the fucking way of everybody.

You were very rude.

Tell me more about this? What comes in at number 1 please?

She may not have heard you.
Or she herself could have had a busy day and may have been preoccupied. Just because someone is old doesn't mean they're not busy. She could have been having a blessed break in the supermarket away from caring for a spouse with dementia. Who knows?

Think you were quite rude tbh.

That was rude of you. She is elderly have some respect

The "darling" thing is going to get you a smack one day, unless you save it for little old ladies exclusively.

You could have made a more dignified decision. You sound awful 'darling'.

My m&s is full of gormless people standing around in the way, painfully choosing their products but no awareness of the space they're in. I always make sure I'm aware of my surroundings and am happy to jump out of the way with a smile, but equally if someone insists on standing in front of what I need and won't move/expects me to wait indefinitely then I'll just lean around them.

I wouldn't even register a "filthy look" as I'd have been on my way and forgotten about it. I certainly wouldn't have got into a sanctimonious speech when you're not sure if she was hard of hearing, deep in thought, or just rude.

You were rude and entitled

Since when does the OP have more right to an area in a shared space than someone else? Surely lesson no.1 of sharing is to wait your turn.

Sorry but I think YABU! Annoys me when people say excuse me when they want to stand where you are stood in the supermarket, not get past you. I get it, you need to grab something but wtf do you think I'm doing? Unless she was dithering massively, but I think you sound rude and smug with it!

atleast you know you were rude.