For being rude to an old lady

[ThePerkyCoralPoet]

Doing my food shop at m&s, I was rushing to pick someone up after. I needed some jam. Lady was in the way. I said “excuse me sorry can I just grab that” she just stood there so I proceeded to reach for the jam.

She gave me the most disgusting look I have ever recieved.

So because today has been a long day I said “ I did actually say excuse me and I did actually ask you to move out of the way” to which she responded “it’s such a me first attitude” I said “you do realise you’re in a supermarket. And you don’t own the supermarket. We all have places to be and people to see darling” and I walked off.

am I missing something here. Have I not used correct supermarket etiquette

Bloody M&S again 😄

Maybe you're right about the spatial awareness but she asked politely at first. There's only so long you can stand there when you haven't got all day. It boils down to just how long OP stood waiting before reaching for the item. And some elderly people are ignorant and rude, not because they're elderly, just because that's what they're like as people. I think she blocked OP to prove a point.

It's you OP, you are the problem. YABU

You sound like you think you came up with a clever comeback, but really you just had a go at an old lady so you could get a pot of jam.

What is so special about you having a jar of supermarket jam that justifies you showing just how ugly you really are on the inside like that?

You were rude OP. Wait your turn. Why is your time more important than anyone else's?

I'm waiting for the sob-story drip feed, if OP returns.

Some old people behave horribly. I wouldn't engage next time as its a waste of energy.

YABU. "Get out of my way, I am more important than you."

When people linger in one spot too long I simply say excuse me and reach around them at the same time. I think you just met someone who was in a bad mood, like yourself. It happens.

I did ask politely. She looked at me and looked away and carried on.

What point do you think she was making?
Talk about paranoia!

what sob story would I have about my food shop. I asked nicely. She looked. Carried on. I then took what I needed.

OP is not returning. This is a reverse. She is the old lady and ommitted to say that she threw jam on the rude impatient ladies back as she walked away. She just wanted to know if such a response was justified.

Interesting piece of information to miss out in the first post but remember after two pages of people telling you that you have no manners.

Yeah so ugly that I asked her politely with an “excuse me please” to which she looked directly at me ignored me. Then when I reached to grab it because she refused to move an issue was created. So yes I’m the problem

YABU to expect someone to instantly hop out of your way.

Some of us don't move that fast, some of us are tuned out of the world around us whilst focusing on something else and we need a second when someone unexpectedly speaks to us.

Some of us actually can't move out of the way - as the lady who SHOUTED at me (yes! not an exaggeration, I think she assumed powerchair = deaf for some reason) to move out of her way the other day failed to realise - I couldn't as there was a pillar next to me and she was right next to my chair, to move I'd have had to run her over.

She leaned across me without waiting at all, is very lucky she didn't run herself over as she nudged the control stick, grabbed her item and stomped off muttering about entitled scroungers!

Since then, if I am browsing and not sure what it is I need, I turn the chair off, so no one can lean on the controller and crash my chair into a pillar or shelf. This does mean it takes longer for me to move though.

You were rude.

I’m afraid you were rude, patronising and ageist.
Would you have spoken to her like that if she was your age?

I bet she has ADHD and can't help being rude 😂

What are you talking about? I often go around coughing in old ladies faces 😆. In all seriousness, I feel like the original post is not the whole story.

If the woman did stand her ground in an “I was here first” scenario then she was being totally unreasonable. Most normal people perusing shelves in supermarkets stand back so others can get what they want while others are looking.

However, anyone cutting in front purely because their time is more important are self absorbed twerps.

Yeah you sound like and arse

The Great Preserves Hierachy tops out with ‘No 62 Champagne marmalade’.

From Fortnum’s. 😏

I think if you're bothered enough to ask strangers afterwards if it was rude you probably subconsciously know that it was already.

Why couldn’t you have just waited, rather than instruct her to get out of your way?
How long do you think she actually stood there in total? Probably less than a minute…
You absolutely were the problem here.

She may not have heard you, it wouldn't have killed you to wait a minute or two.