For being rude to an old lady

[ThePerkyCoralPoet]

Doing my food shop at m&s, I was rushing to pick someone up after. I needed some jam. Lady was in the way. I said “excuse me sorry can I just grab that” she just stood there so I proceeded to reach for the jam.

She gave me the most disgusting look I have ever recieved.

So because today has been a long day I said “ I did actually say excuse me and I did actually ask you to move out of the way” to which she responded “it’s such a me first attitude” I said “you do realise you’re in a supermarket. And you don’t own the supermarket. We all have places to be and people to see darling” and I walked off.

am I missing something here. Have I not used correct supermarket etiquette

I have similar experiences in my wheelchair and on my crutches. It takes me a few moments longer to move and to work out when and how I'm getting somewhere and people frequently reach over me and don't give me chance to get out of the way. I imagine this older person might have misheard or be taking a moment to process and move. Complete lack of empathy from the OP unfortunately. I hate food shopping.

How did you say the first excuse me? Based on what you said next, potentially how you said your opening line might have come across as curt. Do you think that might have been the issue why she didnt move?
She could have also been a rude old cow herself. Hard to tell without seeing it in real life?

Some little old ladies would smack her one .

Oooo love it when a post get the MNers riled!!

I would have just reached past the "darling" and grabbed what i wanted.

I don’t know, I’d have to see a replay. How many seconds did you wait until grabbing for the jam? Did your arm go right in front of her face?

I think your parting shot could have been much better.

I don't think either of you were being unreasonable. It's just one of those things. People should have more spatial awareness out in public and others should be more accepting that we're not always on high alert. We've all probably been in both scenarios, either got in someone's way or someone's been in our way.

How?

Children get called young all the time?

The lady is old / elderly. It's stating a fact.

Why should the OP wait? If she knows what she wants, just reach for it, why does she have to wait?

And whats wrong with word darling anyway 😂

You were rude and patronising. It is also bad manners to reach over someone. Try asking nicely next time and throw in 'please'.

Yes, me too! If anyone calls me darling, hun, sweetie, duck, lovey...or any other patronising name they get a 'look' make no mistake.

And just in case anyone thinks I am being unreasonable.......if I see anyone struggling to reach anything in the supermarket I swiftly despatch my OH in their direction to help them......he is over 6 feet tall!

How very dare she not jump to your tune as quickly as you demanded!?

You were necessarily rude! She was an 'old lady' and may therefore be hard of hearing so did not hear what you said properly; she may have been unsteady on her feet and by association, slow in her movements; or just slow in her brain 'computing' what you were saying/doing. I think you need to give your head a wobble to be frank, and stop being so entitled and impatient.

I'm old and I don't have much patience with ditherers or faffers. Keep your wits about you or shop online. But I don't pay any attention to 'disgusting looks'.

So, she looked you in the eye and stood still after you said excuse me? She then had the audacity to say you have no manners. Thereby, she was accusing you of having no manners because you didn’t have time to wait while she dithered over strawberry and raspberry jam. I would have coughed lots and really loudly, in her direction as I left. Hopefully she will think twice about blocking public (germ ridden) spaces and procrastinating over their use the next time round 😆

Let the old lady get her stuff before you go pushing in, asshole.

You are lucky she wasn't German.

Congratulations, you were a bit of a wanker to a lady who probably didn't even hear you. Maybe stick to online shopping.

I'm not old (yet) but know that the older you get the harder it is to have good spatial awareness. Eyesight and hearing falter, balance isn't as it was. All those things mean your spatial awareness may diminish. Common sense, no?
Why do you think more older people
Have falls?
OP was inconsiderate and rude.

Yes, you were rude. If it was a big burly guy or maybe just any guy you probably would have dropped the darling and probably the whole attitude as the older lady said. It was an easy target to blame your rush on a smaller person (older, probably looking more frail). The mini lecture you gave her and ‘darling’ add-on was unnecessary.

I hope this is bad satire

You were just a bitch. There is no need to speak to her like that, a simple "I did say excuse me." would have sufficed.

You were rude and entitled.

She was right.

Your time is not more valuable than hers and there is no reason why you need to elbow someone out of the way because you can't wait two seconds to grab some jam.

Calling her 'darling' on top of that was disrespectful.

Grow up.

Your response was a bit ott but kind of funny too 😅. I couldn't speak to someone like that myself though. Some things, are better said, under your breath

Having read that, all I can think is ‘who gives a fuck?’ I honestly can’t believe you’re giving it so much headspace 🤣

This one would have tripped her up. “So very sorry you didn’t see my foot”.

Standing by a shelf is hardly "standing in the fucking way of everybody."

It's a shop. Everyone is in everyone else's way or where someone else needs to be.

Do you feel you behaved appropriately OP? Doubt you'll get validation here.