Am I being unreasonable to give birth away from the child’s father because he doesn’t want to get married?

[Donesomethingsilly]

My partner has two children to a previous relationship, we have been together for a while. We have discussed getting married but he was reluctant as he wants to protect himself financially. I understood that, and took a risk and decided to have a child with him as we had a great relationship. Since getting pregnant it’s been rocky. I’m not a uk citizen, my family is on the other side of the world. I’m with family at the moment as I needed to get away. Am I being unreasonable to stay here and have the child with my support system around me? He can’t move here, or even visit because he has his children. I feel stuck between doing the right thing for all the children involved, or the right thing for myself.

There is literally one person to blame when a woman purposely gets pregnant with a shit man

Are you for real? You think there’s “one person to blame” when a “shit man” conceives a child . And that one person is….- the woman?!

Says it all really. 😂

Yes, because she went ahead and got pregnant, knowing who he was. What an idiot!

I think poster just wants to see OP punished no matter the impacts on the child. Still notice how not one bit of blame or accountability has been accepted on behalf of the ex. It is sad. And I hate to see women picking bad men/bad situations that do not serve them but I still can think past that.

No she decided to have a child in a relationship that was working knowing he didn’t want to marry but then the relationship deteriorated. She doesn’t say how intentional the pregnancy was on his part but assuming she wasn’t deceiving him about contraception he was willing to have a child with her. If he has since changed his mind then that’s his problem but the responsibility for creating it is still partly his and he needs to have some balls and take responsibility for his actions. If he isn’t willing then personally I think the unborn child is better off not having contact with him

I think it's safe to say that neither OP or her partner have made the best decisions. And now a real life human child is going to have deal with the consequences of that for the rest of their lives. It's just crap.

It's completely pointless playing the blame game. Shoulda, woulda, coulda, it's all in the past.

The only question the OP should be thinking about is this - can she give the child a better life in the country she's in or in the UK? That's it, really.

She says herself that what she has done is not in her child's best interests.