Colleague just said my husband sounds very Andrew Tate.

[Srepmum1984]

Was having a discussion about some works drinks that will be taking place on Friday and I said husband will be picking me up if anyone else wants a lift home.

My husband regularly picks me up after drinks/meal with my friends and also always offers them a lift home if they have had a drink and they don't have alternative transportation for safety etc.

She asked if he picks me up every time I go out and I said yes. She then said he sounds very Andrew Tate. Not trusting you to make your own way back.

I was very taken aback. Surely my husband wanting to ensure his wife and friends get home safely is not 'Andrew Tate'.

He never enforces he is going to come and collect me like a child, it's more along the lines of....

Me: I'm off out now, see you in a few hours
Him: Do you want picking up babe
Me: Yes pleassseeeee 😂

Also, who says that btw, esp to a colleague? It's so bloody rude. It's not as if your DH said a Tate-ism.

OP, your DH sounds lovely. Don't give it a second thought. So bloody cynical of her.

This is how relationships work, and how men used to look after women - it's not controlling, it's caring.
He's not dictating when you can go out or what time you have to come home. Don't give her opinion another thought.

My husband has given me lifts in similar situations before- and has picked up and dropped off my mates alongside me on occasion! He cares about me and he's happy to help where possible. I get myself home under my own steam a lot as well.

I also play designated driver some of the time & spent a lot of time dropping him off at and collecting him from our local station when he had long- loaned his car to family but was away himself for part of the week for work. I did it as he had luggage, to make it easier, and to spend more time with him. That's what love is. I don't think there's anything Andrew Tate-esque about such a gesture in this context, or in the context of your relationship OP.

Your colleague sounds a bit spiteful. Would it not add to his cause, I'd suggest looking up Andrew Tate and seeing if she has anything in common with him, the more mundane the better. Even if it's just that they both like hobnobs. Then that can be very Andrew Tate of her.

My husband is actually my own personal chauffeur.
he worries if I’m out and about late. I was in London and had to catch last train home on a Friday night. He asked me to put location on just in case

not controlling at all. I am reassured that he would come for me if I was stuck.

controlling people wouldn’t actually let their significant other leave the house in the first place. My husband gets to stay at home and play computer games without me nagging him

My husband not only picks me and my friends up, but he also takes me if I'm off on a night out, I wonder what she'd think of that.. and it's not because he doesn't trust me before anyone jumps that gun.

We live a good few miles away from where I go out, taxis cost around 30/35 pound for a 10/15 min journey home it would be more if my friends jumped in as they live in the town I go out in! But most importantly if he's coming to get us he knows we've all got home safe. We've had a few bad experiences with taxis when we were younger though as well!

I'd do the same for him, but he doesn't drink. And isn't as social as me!

He also comes to pick me up after a busy Friday/Saturday night if we've had an event on at work, even though I can drive myself or we get offered a free taxi home if we want one. It is literally because he knows I'm safe if he comes for me.

Your colleague sounds like she jealous!

I used to have a friend whose boyfriend used to insist on dropping her off when she went out and picking her up afterwards , and there was no choice in the matter l, he was controlling as hell

So I can see how an adult woman always being picked up could potentially be a red flag...

But depends on the situation, your dh is being considerate, he's helping you out. You can have a drink and relax and not having to worry about getting a bus or taxi. He's saving you time and money. I'd say he was being a nice partner..

who cares what she thinks?!

Nag your colleague is a muppet, what a daft thing to say.
If he was Andrew Tite, you would never be allowed to go out for drinks. She is obviously not very smart to compare those two things.
You are lucky lady in a loving relationship.