Neighbour asking for money

[Redbird3]

It all started a few months ago. Next door neighbour messaged me on Facebook and asked if I could bank transfer her £10 and she would knock on with the cash. I get on with her so I said yes.

Ever since it’s got to the point that she is asking every day. If not every day then every other day. I have started to say no as I do feel like she is taking advantage. When I don’t reply she then messages DH. There’s been times where DH has transferred her money on the promise that she’ll come round with it asap but it’s been next day.

Last night around midnight she messaged me asking for £20. I was just getting in bed so I didn’t reply. She messaged again around 12:20 as I was dropping off to sleep which woke me up. Then around 12:30 she called me on Facebook.

I think it’s getting a joke now but DH disagrees and doesn’t see the problem. A couple of nights ago she messaged DH, he sent her £10, then she messaged again for £20 which he sent her, then again 10 minutes later asking for another £10!

AIBU in thinking this is just pure cheek?

Your husband sounds as dodgy as her.

I'd guess both?

Husband is either buying drugs from her or sleeping with her to be weird about it

Husband sounds as shady as the neighbor.

Watch your back.

YANBU. She’s being a PITA.

Make it clear you’re not lending her any more money, so there’s no point asking. After that, ignore any messages that ask.

What the actual fuck is wrong with your husband?

i turn my moobile off when i go to bed, say you will not be lending any more money you dont keep cash on you and dont bank on line. its taking the mick, harden up ,just say no she will have to budget better

So she’s giving you cash after you’ve transferred money into her account? She’s dealing.

Why on earth would you give your neighbour money unless you owed it or bought something? I have lived next door to the same people for 28 years and we have never ever had a financial transaction.

Quite. My neighbours wouldn’t dream of putting all of us in such an awkward position by asking, either.

Um...why the hell have you been giving her money in the first place? Have I missed something?

Wow!

Your neighbour is definitely doing something she shouldn’t and your DH’s reaction to you saying stop is very odd. Can you ask him if he’d be such a helpful neighbour if it was a bloke next door?

Why would he 'have to?

He's either sleeping with her and she's blackmailing him, or it's drugs as others say.

It seems strange to me that you have been asked a lot of questions about this situation by posters who are trying to help you, but you have hardly answered any of them. When you do answer, it’s by swearing (eg, WTAF, etc). Very weird. Your husband is definitely up to something. I think he is getting personal use drugs from her.
Some posters have advised counselling which is daft because there is a long waiting list and your husband could have been carted off by the police by the time that happens.
Phoning you in the middle of the night to ask for money is unbelievable, but the fact you put up with it is more so. You need to stop this and you do NOT need the daft excuses other people have been suggesting. What, you have to lie now?? You need to tell her straight out, no frills, there’ll be no more money and no more contact of any kind. Insist your husband agrees to this, or he will definitely end up arrested, and then stick to it. Honestly, you are as bad as he is!

Does she have children? Is it possible that he's the father of her child? It definitely sounds like she has some kind of a hold over him.

He has to give her money? He needs to tell you why. Most likely she’s got some hold over him - either sex or drugs.

Have you ever asked why she needs the money? “It’s midnight - why do you need it so urgently?”

She might be receiving cash from questionable sources and then getting you to clean the money for her, Albuquerque car wash style.

Although not sure if that explains the midnight urgency. All very odd

Online gambling is really easy access, many people withdraw cash to help protect themselves then get desperate and find a way to get money in the bank, I think you're that way for neighbour. I could also be she has a daily spend cap and it resets at midnight

My old neighbour was forever doing this around the neighbours and her friends. It was cocaine.

i May be way off here but your dh ain’t done the dirt with her has he? And now she’s blackmailing him and that’s why he is handing it over so easily 🤷‍♀️

This thread is going completely over my head. Your neighbor wants you to transfer money from your bank account to theirs and then they give you cash? And this has been going on for months on a daily basis and she thinks this is normal and is happy to message you past midnight?! It blows my mind some of the situations people on here get themselves into.

If this is real, it sounds like she’s your husbands drug dealer?

You have a major DH problem.

I'm just going to stay here and wait for some answers.

Your husband has secrets. There is no way anyone would give out money on demand like this. Very wierd

Your husband is a big wet drip! What's wrong with him?! Honestly he is only funding her weed addiction. He's best off donating to the food bank, for people who need food.