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Just catching up, some really helpful views on what I could say
Some of the responses are unhinged,
I'm not going to write a list of rules for adults to stick to, including "no going off topic" 🤣 no chatting!
The poster trying to give me a history lesson as if its brand new information where these terms come from historically and that makes them somehow not derogatory?! Of course I know the history but it's not relevant- you could argue that about all derogatory terms. Slippery slope.
The poster saying seek legal advice?!
And the posters clutching their pearls because I state the students age demographic, language used, amount of money it's worth to me personally, these are all things people would then pull me up on not sharing because they're relevant details.
Commenting on the race of the child on the ABRSM books was clearly my limit as I reacted quickly without thinking about it for a second - that's a level up from calling people Frogs.
I'm not virtue signalling. I was genuinely asking for advice on an otherwise respectful person who has two lessons a week which is financially obviously more valuable than someone who has one a fortnight- I think most people would have hopes of salvaging that
If she was out and out bigoted from the moment the lesson began I would drop her regardless of how much money she was paying! Maybe she is, and has thus far been masking it well. Maybe she isn't and is open to hearing my view.
Do I find frog offensive? Yes I think so. I'm not German and find Kraut offensive. If someone called my husband a Taff I would be upset. I grew up hearing the word "p**i" used by my dad a lot about our neighbors and it used to make me angry.
It reduces people to their place of origin in a belittling and demeaning way I think. Even when meant affectionately or in jest - I think it forces a label on someone and reduces them. A bit like when a man calls a woman something infantilising.