When a relative bites your child

[Roberta2020]

I don't want to delve into details, because I am still angry about it.
Let's just say that a relative on my husband's side bit my child to teach them 'how it feels when you bite your brother'.
I was raised to be respectful of elders, so obviously I said nothing and consoled my screaming child, but since then I have felt unable to leave my child alone around that relative.
The relative in question, after saying 'I did it for his own good', changed their tune and started saying they did not do it in front of my husband. My child is adamant he was bitten.
I trust my child. I am not willing to leave him alone with that relative again.
Am I being unreasonable? Am I being too much? Should I give them the benefit of doubt?

I really do not understand this bizarre attitude of biting children when they bite others. Surely you can think of many other ways to stop this behaviour without resorting to biting?!!

It’s a bit like when people say they would only smack their child if they ran out in to the road. It’s really just not necessary! A stern voice in both instances, yes. Even shouting etc.

It’s like some parents will find any excuse to discipline in this way.

Also the image of a grown adult biting a child is a mix of ridiculous and very sad

If it doesn't hurt then what does it teach? It won't teach biting hurts.

Plenty of people raise multiple children without biting them.

Plenty of people raise multiple children without biting them

A sentence that you shouldn’t even need to say!

Exactly. It felt odd doing so!

@daleylama

You clearly haven't tried it. No pain necessary. Try raising 4 children and see how you go

If it doesn't hurt then how does it deter them from doing it again?

OMG what's happening here? Some people are saying it's ok? WTF I wouldn't do that too my own child let alone someone else's! Tell the relative too keep their hands off your child ! Gosh your child looks at you for protection , why you even asking advice on this?

I'm unsure why you had to bring the fact that the family was Polish into it?!

This is a zombie thread about biting - coincidence???