Ask DH to not go on holiday with female friend.

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My DH & DS have gone on holiday with DS’s friend and his mother several times in the past. They all share an interest in basketball and travel to the US to watch NBA games.

This year, despite booking tickets, the children have decided they want to travel with the friend’s father instead - the friends parents are divorced. However, my DH & this woman, are still planning to travel to the US together, as the tickets have already been paid for.

I don’t want him to go on holiday with just her; I have never been 100% comfortable with these trips but decided to keep my mouth shut because I’ve gone on holiday with male friends in the past, which my husband was unhappy about. I regret being so blood minded at the time.

Is it reasonable to ask him not to go?

No, because I observe that men and women tend to behave differently in these matters. Let's put it another way, I know what men are like!

Her husband "only" had to worry whether she would accept the potential advances of another man - she now has to worry whether he's going to be the one making advances.

Ah yes, how could any of us forget. The natural state of men is to be constantly seeking sex while women are merely passive sexual gatekeepers.

But by that "logic," OP's husband could say that he knows he's not going to make any advances on the friend, so it's fine for them to go. But he couldn't say the same about the guys OP traveled with, so not fine for them to go. 🤷‍♀️

Did you go on holiday with just one male friend, just the two of you? Or was it a group of people including male friends? This makes a big difference I think.

Ask yourself how interested you are in having sex with your male friends.

Now ask a man if he would take the chance to have sex with his female friends.

Theory is all well and good - then life teaches us differently.

Yes, he could and would say that.

But…you did it to him? I don’t really think you have a leg to stand on here.

To be honest your relationship sounds weird to me.

They'll fuck for sure

More money than sense.

There’s no way this would happen in my relationship. Either way round. Unfortunately if you have gone on holiday with a man already, i don’t see how you can object to his holiday really..? Because what’s the difference?

Why are you worried about him going away with this woman? Did something happen with one of your make friends, did they make a pass?
To be clear, I would not be happy if my husband went with another woman.
I would tell him you are joining them (whether you want to go or not) see what is reaction is. That will give you your answer

Male friends (bloody sausage fingers ha)

Kind of gross you’d even consider holidaying in the US at the moment.

How weird a marriage! 🤨. They definitely look forwards to their sex holidays together 🍆🏀 don’t be mean and ruin it! 🤣

Honestly piss right off forcing YOUR opinions on other people, they are just that your opinion not facts.

Are you suggesting that the woman he’s going on holiday with doesn’t have any sex on whether sex happens between them? 🙄

Kind of rude and irrelevant.

Where in any of my posts do you get that?

I wouldn't be happy but I'd go with them. Bit difficult if you've gone withmale friends on your own. You didn't say whether it was with others too. My main concern would be as the woman has split with her husband. She'll be looking and your dh will be on tap. So no I wouldn't want him to go.

My jaw dropped to the floor when I read the title. Having read the rest of the post I'm so gobsmacked I can't think of anything to add. 🤦‍♀️

Right. Because she's split with her husband, it means she'll want to shag any man that moves. 🙄

YABU. You previously went away with a male friend, you don't have a leg to stand on.

Depends if you trust him. You sound like you don’t. Might help to ask yourself why. Don’t ignore your instinct.

The best solution is for you to go too.

I thinknaa you went on holiday with your male friend tou haven't really got a leg to stand on but as it's noe an adult holiday I would go too. They can't be just doing basketball stuff 24/7. While they do that you could explore the area, book a spa etc.