Being naked in front of DP/DH

[SnowflakeSmasher86]

Are you comfortable being visibly naked in front of your partner? Would you be ok with the lights on/daylight etc and walk around with nothing on?

Or would you have a towel/underwear/a sheet over you?

i’m not bothered about my wobbly bits on a daily basis, and felt just the same way when I was several stone lighter, so I don’t see it as a body image thing as such, I juat wouldn’t walk around naked in front of him. He thinks this says something fundamental about our relationship.

YABU - I think its normal to feel 100% at ease walking about naked in front of my DP/DH

YANBU - I’d rather keep some things undercover and feel self conscious naked standing up and walking about the bedroom/house.

And why are you with him if he makes you think “there is something wrong with you”

I think it's an entirely personal thing and says absolutely nothing about your relationship OP, it's purely about you and your feelings. Your DH is taking it personally when it's not about him at all, how we feel about this stuff is far more about our upbringing and/or life experiences than any kind of reflection on our intimate relationships.

I quite often wander around naked in our bedroom and hotel rooms when we're away.
I'm two stone heavier than when we got married but it doesn't bother me in the slightest and also wanders around naked in our room too

I’d happily be naked all the time if I didn’t feel the cold so much.

Im comfortable with my DH or my DC’s seeing me naked.

I think because my mum was comfortable being naked, it’s one reason I’m comfortable in my own skin and fairly body confident. I thank her for that.

I used to be self conscious about being naked in front of my DH right up until he saw me give birth. After seeing that there really isn't anything to be embarrassed about is there😂😂

Its not pitch black, but I’d rather a low level lamplight. I will usually leave my knickers on, get into bed and they come off when I’m ready. Afterwards I’ll ask him to grab my towel or wait until he’s in the bathroom to get up. If i get up first I’d sit on the side of the bed and put pants and t shirt on, not stride across the room butt naked. I’m not like “close your eyes I’m getting up!” I just try and be a bit modest.

Christ he sounds horrendous OP!

You deserve so much better.

My DP washed my actual arse crack after my C section because I couldn’t do it myself, and you’re fretting about being naked???

We’re a fairly naked family, if I’m not naked I’m usually just in a pair of shorts. But we’re both from cultures where nudity is both fairly normal no matter the body type you have.

I don’t walk around naked full stop.I’m happy for him to see me changing, in the bath etc, I’m just not someone who walks around naked.

At times I am a naturist so yes I walk around naked a lot.

Often in my garden when it's warm weather although I always wear footwear!

Absolutely. But I am a gym fiend, so I work hard to look how I look. And I m proud of it.

no problem at all. Including start jumps and stupid dances. I’m not super slim either haha

Didn’t take long for the naturists to find the thread, 😂

I used to but I’ve put on weight and feel self conscious now.

Yeah if my Dh called me fat he wouldn’t be seeing me naked either. It would make me feel very self conscious and I am actually fat. But because he never has said anything to me I am 100% comfortable being naked around him

I don't 'walk round naked' on purpose for prolonged periods even when I'm on my own, but have always been happy to be seen naked by partners as and when it occurs.

I can see how he would come to the conclusion that you’re sensitive about your weight - I think a lot of men just think ‘weight’ and ‘body shape’ are the same thing. Of course they really aren’t! But if you really don’t like him to see your body in certain ways, to the point where you avoid certain positions etc for that reason, I can see why he’s drawn that conclusion.

I know we all have our insecurities about different things, and that it’s difficult to overcome them sometimes - but it’s obvious to me that your DP clearly massively fancies you! He is absolutely not going to have a single negative thought about your body when you’re on top of him, or on his face, or any of that, because he would too busy having the time of his life. But I completely understand that those sorts of worries about appearance etc aren’t easy to just dismiss - I have plenty of insecurities myself. Mine just aren’t related to nakedness.

@SnowflakeSmasher86
Its not pitch black, but I’d rather a low level lamplight. I will usually leave my knickers on, get into bed and they come off when I’m ready. Afterwards I’ll ask him to grab my towel or wait until he’s in the bathroom to get up. If i get up first I’d sit on the side of the bed and put pants and t shirt on, not stride across the room butt naked. I’m not like “close your eyes I’m getting up!” I just try and be a bit modest.

I've been like that my whole marriage- I'm late 60s now - which is why my husband thinks I have a great body and legs. 😆. I think a bit of mystery works too, and I don't want to flaunt my wobbly bits thanks very much

You do you and don't be bullied into doing anything which makes you feel uncomfortable/ by anyone, including on this forum. I bet there are loads who are like you.

Brought up being comfortable naked around DM (and DF up to a certain age) & absolutely happy doing the same with DH. I was self conscious about my cellulite & he said he loves it because it’s a part of me ❤️

I think it's probably not uncommon to feel uncomfortable with it, but also I think it's pretty tragic that as a whole we're so uncomfortable with our own bodies.

I wander round naked quite a lot, it's convenient. Although less at this time of year when it's colder.

Yes I agree. For me the not wanting to be naked is about me and not DH. I also never display any bits when changing at the swimming pool or if I'm sharing a room with a friend or even sister. I just don't like my body and can't bear anyone to look at it. If we are intimate the lights are usually low but that's different anyhow. You could be someone with no inhibitions during sex and still hate walking around naked. They are not the same thing.

I don't generally walk around naked even if I am in the house myself! Probably just habit and comfort (warmth) more than anything else. If we had just DTD and I was going for a pee in the ensuite I'd go naked for example, but not really any other time.

I put on a towelling dressing gown when I come out the shower to keep warm/dry off totally and would get dressed in front of him i.e. open dressing gown and put on knickers/trousers, then take it off to put on bra/top, but I wouldn't walk about naked. I am mid 50s and huge!

Well I don’t generally walk around naked because it’s too bloody cold in the house. I’m grabbing clothes not to preserve my modesty but to keep warm.
On the odd day we have a heatwave I’m happy to be naked; although DH would probably think whatever I was wearing needs ironing 😂

Well I did think that bit was horrendous. That particular gem came about in an argument which culminated in him saying “well just have a fucking heart attack then, see if I care” and I dumped him on the spot.

But he immediately apologised and we talked about it all, and his point is that even before all that I MUST have been self conscious about my weight because of not wanting to be visibly naked with him, so his words are not the reason I’m sensitive about him mentioning it. He says its can’t be a taboo subject etc and that it makes it worse if he has to be worried about saying the wrong thing all the time. And when I say that in 10 years my ex managed to never say “the wrong thing” because he just didn’t talk about my size, he’ll say I must be lying.

i just don’t understand why its so hard not to make a big deal of it. FWIW I’m size 18 and put full length pics on my dating profile saying “don’t swipe right until you’ve seen my full length photos, I’m plus size, I like cake” etc so its not even like he’s known me any different.