Being naked in front of DP/DH

[SnowflakeSmasher86]

Are you comfortable being visibly naked in front of your partner? Would you be ok with the lights on/daylight etc and walk around with nothing on?

Or would you have a towel/underwear/a sheet over you?

i’m not bothered about my wobbly bits on a daily basis, and felt just the same way when I was several stone lighter, so I don’t see it as a body image thing as such, I juat wouldn’t walk around naked in front of him. He thinks this says something fundamental about our relationship.

YABU - I think its normal to feel 100% at ease walking about naked in front of my DP/DH

YANBU - I’d rather keep some things undercover and feel self conscious naked standing up and walking about the bedroom/house.

Surely a loving communicative home is more important than teaching children that bodies are something to be ashamed of?

Surely that's about teaching them about boundaries and respecting people's privacy, not about bodies being shameful?

How is it not "loving" to want to bathe, wash or eliminate in private, ffs??

Bathrooms have doors for a reason. Even toddlers can comprehend that. No one is obliged to be available to their kid every minute of every day. Children need to learn delayed gratification and resilience. Letting mum use the toilet in private is a great start.

No one said anything about being available at all hours of the day, but if you're saying you'd lock yourself in a small room for half an hour and leave a young child to roam around the house by themselves, that's not teaching them resilience, it's leaving them loose to potentially start a fire or strangle themselves in some curtains or fall down and break their leg.

I am very comfortable being naked in front of my husband, even after 2 children and a few extra wobbly bits plus a large scar at the age of 60. He has never made any negative comments. If he did I may feel differently. His body has the wear & tear of life too but I still love him dearly.
If he loves you then he should accept however you look.
How does his body shape up? Would he feel anxious if you made derogatory comments?

That’s silly, obviously no one would leave a young child for half an hour unsupervised, you’d take a young child in with you ffs!

How does his body shape up? Would he feel anxious if you made derogatory comments?

He’s very tall and - I think its fair to say - skinny (i often say to people that we look ridiculous together, which I should probably stop, as that’s not a helpful notion!)

He was less thin before we met, although still fit enough to run marathons, so not overweight at all, but someone pointed out to him that he looked a bit chubby once (he was drinking too much at that time) and that has clearly stuck with him, and he has referenced that as a reason why its ok to be ‘factual’ about someone’s size as it pushed him to stop drinking.

I wouldn’t ever make derogatory comments to him, as I just don’t think any good comes of couples being that brutal, even with good intentions. We all know how we look and feel, and we all know the right things to do to look and feel ‘better’ so I don’t think anyone needs their DP to tell them that they’re overweight, underweight or anything else. His view is that nothing should be off limits to talk about (and I’ve said fine, talk about it, but the consequence of that is that I end up upset, feeling criticised and less confident about my body, which can only be a negative for both of us).

Then it just comes back to ‘this is a me problem’ not a ‘him problem’ and I need to think about why I get so upset when he mentions my weight and “how sensitive I am about it”. 🙄

She specified that she was referring to toddlers being locked out of the bathroom, so it definitely sounds like she'd leave them alone to teach them resilience.

Yes agreed, when we’re talking about children seeing you naked a lot of the posts above are referring to older children (and some posts here refer to teenagers and young adults). I think we’ve all had to shower / bath / wee with a baby or young toddler present at some time to ensure their safety and often there literally is no option but it’s very different when talking about an older child seeing their parents naked when they fully comprehend the situation and this is optional / avoidable rather than necessity

I saw my parents and sister naked up until the time l left home. It didn’t scar me for life. It was never a problem at home.

This is going to burst your gasket, I used to enjoy bubble baths with my dd when she was little. She fondly remembers them. The tiaras and bath bombs and bath toys

I don’t mind if I’m seen by DH in / out the shower , or if I’m getting dressed .
But wouldn’t walk around the house like that 😂 or parade around .
I don't hide away but don’t flaunt either .

Very comfortable being naked around my partner as is he we are 60 and 80 and been together 18years

My husband hasn’t seen me fully naked for about 14 years! I wouldn’t ever be naked in front of anyone. He’s happy to walk round naked in front of me though!

Don't care at all if my DH & my Dds see me in the nuddy .