Being naked in front of DP/DH

[SnowflakeSmasher86]

Are you comfortable being visibly naked in front of your partner? Would you be ok with the lights on/daylight etc and walk around with nothing on?

Or would you have a towel/underwear/a sheet over you?

i’m not bothered about my wobbly bits on a daily basis, and felt just the same way when I was several stone lighter, so I don’t see it as a body image thing as such, I juat wouldn’t walk around naked in front of him. He thinks this says something fundamental about our relationship.

YABU - I think its normal to feel 100% at ease walking about naked in front of my DP/DH

YANBU - I’d rather keep some things undercover and feel self conscious naked standing up and walking about the bedroom/house.

I like being naked. Like @MyUmberSeal i also do stupid dances for my husband and I’ve also always liked my SOs to watch me shower as it’s a nice time to have a chat.

I don't think shape is the issue, I think its more weight/post dcs bodies that make some women feel insecure. Some women have prefect figures, and still feel insecure!

I’m perfectly happy for my partner to see me naked. It’s never really occurred to me that this might be a problem for someone and I’m amazed by some of the replies on this thread. I don’t like my own body very much but I’ve no wish to hide it from my own partner.

I can’t imagine any sexual relationship in which I wasn’t comfortable being naked in front of the other person.

Serious question for those of you who can’t bear for your partner to see you naked: does this not have an impact on your sex life? Are you covering up during sex as well?! Or only doing it in complete darkness?

Absolutely each to their own, and of course people should only do what they’re comfortable with. But I know I’d feel pretty sad if my partner didn’t want me to see him naked.

What does SO, stand for? Usually know most abbreviations on here, but cannot work this one out 😂

I love my body and so does my husband! I didn’t used to but am confident now. I’m a size 8 and toned with tiny boobs but I happily let my husband see me naked! Not so much my son as don’t want to embarrass him!

I’m 100% comfortable.

I used to happily walk around naked with him around. He, however, decided to call me fat during an argument a few months ago so that has very much changed. I know he regrets it but he can never take that back & I can never kid myself about how he seems me again - my hatred of my body is made worse by being heavily pregnant and I’m dreading him seeing me giving birth 😔

How have you managed to go near enough 40 years without uour DH seeing your stomach?

Significant other 😂 not all at the same time though obviously.

Yeah I suppose anyone can feel insecure, even women who are 'flawless'.

My fiance has never seen me naked, i hate my torso so its always a baggy as possible shirt on. I dont care about how my genitals look, but my stomach i hate so no.

Thank you for all the replies. To be honest i was expecting far more like me and far less completely comfortable so I’m happy for you all and need to have a think about why I feel the way I do.

It does have an impact on sex, in that I’d rather have low light and don’t like going on top (I will do it but i’m very aware of my stomach being on display! TMI but he’d love me to sit on his face and I absolutely couldn’t ever!!)

Like others, its not necessarily weight related, its the saggy wrinkly “mum tum” that is my biggest issue. I love my boobs being bigger and don’t care about thighs etc.

Its come about because he’ll mention my weight in passing, trying to be sensitive eg booking tickets to see a comedian and DP ‘warned’ me that there is a segment where this comedian jokes about his weight gain and DP says “I just didn’t want you to be uncomfortable as he talks about how he’s overweight too, and I know you’re sensitive about your weight”

When i protest that I’m not sensitive about my weight, I just don’t really want it brought up out of the blue, he cites my reluctance to be ‘on display’ as evidence.

I just thought it was quite normal not to be 100% comfortable being naked, but apparently its not as common as I thought.

He checked my piles the other day. No issues with nakedness here 😂

I'm baffled by the practicality of this??

The thing is, I just never wall around naked. Even if I'm alone in the house, I don't walk around naked because I've never done it and it feels weird. Our house is a bit chilly and I'm someone who likes to be warm and cosy so I'll always have something covering me.
However, I don't mind DH seeing me naked. He's often in bathroom when I'm in the shower for example and he sees me getting dressed and undressed. Neither of us have the perfect body but that's ok.

this is one of the saddest things I've read on here 😔

He doesn't have to see you give birth if you don't want him to.

😳🫣

I wander around naked in front of my DH and my DDs. They don't with me though, thinking about it ,they laugh at me and think it's sweet l think . It certainly doesn't bother them and it doesn't bother me that they don't follow me tbh . Each to their own.
Live and let live l say .

Not really.

I would change clothes, or have sex with light in the room, but not walking around the room.

I was brought up in a prudish household.

I'm a widow but didn't mind getting changed in front of my DH and I wouldn't be horrified if he walked into the bedroom/bathroom to find me naked but it's fair to say that I'd rather he didn't. I definitely wouldn't saunter around deliberately naked (with or without a partner). I would feel uncomfortable. I never liked stripping off in front of other women at the gym or swimming either though.

We are the same here, it's nothing.

I’m so sorry, thats awful of him. It is hard to let something like that go tbh. My DP has said things in the past about my weight, always dressing it up as concern for my health etc but “its just a fact, you are overweight and you have a higher chance of xyz, its not a judgment, just data shows etc” Its very hard to unhear that stuff, even when said in an argument, so I do feel for you. I don’t know how you get past feeling like that.

I think I’m more sensitive to it with this DP than previous ones a) because he’s so skinny and b) because it wasn’t his babies that made me look like this!

With XH I was really ok because I figured he’d seen me grow these babies in my body so he couldn’t be surprised by the toll they took on my shape.

My next DP had his own weight issues so he would never have pointed it out.

Current DP feels very offended when I say I didn’t feel so self conscious in front if exes, as he insists it isn’t him mentioning it thats upsetting me, its internal, so it must be how I’ve always felt about myself.

I guess its a bit of both, but the worst thing is him insisting I must be lying when I say they didn’t make me feel like there’s something wrong with me, because <gestures at my body> obviously they could see what I look like.

What do you do for sex then, get undressed under the covers and then dressed again under the covers? Or do you wear a nightie or something? I can’t work out how it works if you don’t let your partner see you naked.

DH and me are happy to be naked in front of each other - we sleep naked, sometimes share a shower or bath & often wander around the house in a state of undress.

I love him despite the paunch & man-boobs that he has developed. He loves me despite my mummy-tummy, saggy breasts & bottom.

No-one can expect to have a perfect figure at our ages (neither will see 60 again) 😉