Being naked in front of DP/DH

[SnowflakeSmasher86]

Are you comfortable being visibly naked in front of your partner? Would you be ok with the lights on/daylight etc and walk around with nothing on?

Or would you have a towel/underwear/a sheet over you?

i’m not bothered about my wobbly bits on a daily basis, and felt just the same way when I was several stone lighter, so I don’t see it as a body image thing as such, I juat wouldn’t walk around naked in front of him. He thinks this says something fundamental about our relationship.

YABU - I think its normal to feel 100% at ease walking about naked in front of my DP/DH

YANBU - I’d rather keep some things undercover and feel self conscious naked standing up and walking about the bedroom/house.

Birth is such a personal thing. You don't have to have him in the delivery room you know.
Sending hugs.

It's turned into a bit of a 'one upmanship' thread imo.

Everyone is different, both in body shape and opinion.
Some gorgeous looking woman will be shy about showing their bodies, some fatter, bonier, less perfect looking women are comfortable in showing it all.

I think the point is ,no man should make a woman feel self-conscious about her body....if you are good enough to allow someone that close, they should be good enough to appreciate what you look like.... no matter what age or shape you happen to be.

Mine wasn't...he fainted. 😃

Oh this thread makes me sad

I am! Flannel nightie buttoned up to my chin and none of that funny business! 😂

It's sad because these women are thinking so badly of themselves and they shouldn't do. It's one thing to say you prefer modesty and completely another to say you fear your husband would leave you if he saw you naked.

😂 Thanks, I'll...um...make an appointment!

Everyone's underwear contains microscopic bits of faeces and urine, but we change it every day. Not so the bed sheets, unless you want a ton of extra work every day.

I stand by my comment about the yuckiness of sleeping naked! Forego nightwear if you must (and get the bedding all sweaty and hairy) but at least wear a pair of pants!

Men don't blot their penises after a wee, do they? So if they go to the loo before bed or in the night, and then get into bed, guess where the urine drops are? 🤢

Ha! I knew sleeping naked was gross!

https://sleepopolis.com/education/should-you-sleep-in-the-nude-heres-the-naked-truth/#:~:text=%E2%80%9CA%20major%20drawback%20to%20sleeping,gas%2Dpassing%20can%20collect%20quicker.

Drawbacks of Sleeping Naked
While all of those benefits sound great, what are the cons of sleeping naked? Let’s dive in.
Bedroom Sanitation
Sleeping naked may not keep your sheets as clean as they should be. “A major drawback to sleeping nude is that now your mattress and sheets are the first line of defense against moisture and bacteria,” says Marchetti.
When you have no barrier between your skin and bedding, dirt, dander, dust, oil, sweat, and even fecal particles from nighttime gas-passing can collect quicker. (18) “People tend to wash their pajamas more frequently than their sheets, so sleeping in loose-fitting pajamas may be the preferable choice,” says Marchetti.

Whatever works for you, where you are

Also, there are various sources, if you google the subject, saying that people who sleep naked need to wash their bed linen more often than the Decent Folk among us who sleep encased in winceyette! 😂

Translation: Your beds are dirtier.

And do NOT get me started on animals sleeping in human beds, especially dogs, who go out with their naked paws on the streets and then wipe them all over your sheets!!!!!!

That says everything about your experience of crap men rather than what most people may or may not think.

I think you have more issues with your mum that her being naked given how you speak about her, I get it I have issues with my own. Curious, would you have felt the same way if she had been skinny?

I don’t think being able to walk around your own home in front of your children is wrong. I do think it’s a fine line topic though with where do you draw the line on body confidence and not being ashamed of the naked body to forcing your self on others.

Ive always been comfortable I front of my DH, however I wasn’t as comfortable in front of my ExH and I had a far nicer body then. Age and being less ashamed of myself has made me this way, as well as having a supportive DH who dosnt make be feel any body shame. Yes I’m very very fat!

As for my DCs we’ve never been ashamed to be naked in front of them, but have always been open in telling them they can talk to us and share their feelings. Also being naked at home is one thing, being naked in front of strangers is something completely different.

My oldest DD told me when she was 11 she didn’t feel comfortable getting undressed in front of DH any more and didn’t like seeing me naked. Wishes we absolutely respected. Then she came into our room wanting my immediate attention when I was naked, I pointed out I was in my room with the door closed so it’s on her if she sees me naked, she’s fine with that and seems to not have issues with talking to me while I’m naked anymore. DD 2 once walked in and said ewww naked boobies, I gave her the same option, I will be naked in my room if they don’t like it they learn to knock and wait. DD 2 is also at a point now where she wants more privacy around DH, absolutely fine.

@RebelStarChild
Many people's value systems prize privacy, modesty and dignity. There's nothing sad or wrong with that.
Pretty sure the posters were referring to women saying they were embarrassed/ashamed/scared their dp would leave them if they saw their baked body.

Nothing about that is to do with being modest or having dignity. And yes. Feeling ashamed of your body or that your dp will leave you over it is sad. No idea how you could think it was anything other than sad.

Nope, I'm very uncomfortable being naked at all tbh. Even if I'm on my own I wouldn't be and have always but I am very unhappy with how I look especially since I gained some weight. It has nothing to do with how I feel towards my partner at all

Some people have standards.

In front of DC??? 😳

I'm not a fan of being naked but I am completely comfortable if I am in front of DH. I certainly don't parade around, but I don't hide if I'm in the shower or getting dressed. My body is far from perfect and I have been a variety of sizes but he's never made me feel uncomfortable, he's usually quite happy as long as he's seen a boob 😂

Significant Others

Yea, I also don't understand this. In front of kids? What do people mean by 'naked' - like totally absolutely naked, tits&bits out in front of the kids or in a tshirt and pants, say? Because if it's the former, then that's absolutely disgusting, vom.

I can't imagine my dad with his dick helicoptering about on a normal day at home or mum cooking tea stark bollock naked. I don't want to see my parents naked (and THANK GOD! never did). That's gross. I'd fully consider that child abuse. Just why? I don't see anything 'normal' about it al all. Show your minge to your partner, not your son and daughter.

Is it - supposedly - 'comfy'? So - say - a long lose sleeping tshirt and pants/loose shorts underneath is so EXTREMELY uncomfy?

As for partner, I'm ok with him seeing me naked, I'm perfectly happy with my body, no hang-ups. Willowy slim, tall, long-legged hourglass, toned, no stretch marks or cellulite. Sex in daytime or lights on - fine, no problem. But I still don't prance about naked just because, not because of my body/shame/dignity/whatever, I just find it yuk and uncomfortable. So if I want to sit down, I sit with my naked ass on a sofa/chair and that's like totally normal? And then my DD sits on the same later? It's odd (and disgusting) to me. I'm not a bitch in heat to be with my ass out all the time.

@TalkingAboutaWolf
Vom? Gross? Child Abuse?

Wow. You really have strong negative feelings around nudity.

I don't think most posters are spending the whole day naked running their genitalia on furniture. Who knows? Maybe some are. I think most people are talking about just being comfortable naked. When I get out of the shower I dry off then walk calmly with no thought or hysteria or panicked covering up to my bedroom from my en-suite and find what I'm going to wear. Then I get dressed. There is no drama. DH may or may not be in the room. No eyelids are being batted.

If when they were younger, my dc came in there was still no drama

I don't understand the hysteria

My dc are adults now but when they were teens everyone just behaved respectfully. We didn't just walk into each other's rooms. We knocked. But if someone accidentally barged in, there was again NO DRAMA. 😂. Just rolling of the eyes.

There seems to be a lot of fussing and hysterical covering up and shrieks of child abuse going on. Not hinged behaviour at all

@BettyBardMacDonald

Some people have standards of what?

Scurrying away in fear and disgust and hiding themselves from their partner is just weird and very very mentally unhealthy

To me the saddest aspect of this thread are the number of women firstly admitting that they find their own bodies disgusting and that they have been harshly criticised by some man and so they don't like looking at their own body let alone let a man see it. And then they go on determined to paint their unwillingness to be naked as some sort of demonstration of their decency/living to a higher standard.

And they can't see the cognitive dissonance in their statements.

Nudity is not disgusting. Feeling relaxed about it is not pornographic. People who are relaxed around their partner are not being crude or constantly on heat. Most people who are relaxed are literally just that. Relaxed. Getting dressed and on with their day not really thinking about it as it's a non issue

Yeah. I saw my own mum naked and my son has seen me naked. It's got absolutely nothing to do with acting like a bitch in heat. You may be unable to look at another naked body without sexualising it or feeling repulsion, but that says a lot more about you than anyone else.

@Wiseoldself2022 @TalkingAboutaWolf
i kind of assuming you live under a bridge but I’ll bite.

I don’t wander round naked all the time, cooking tea naked etc. DH doesn’t helicopter his cock while naked either, it just dangles there! He’d never be naked in front of them if he had an erection as that would clearly be inappropriate - but if it’s just hanging there there’s no problem…. DS has a penis too after all!

But yes, no problem being naked in front of DC. Walking to bathroom, getting dressed etc. Nothing to be ashamed of with nudity in a safe environment.

absolutely not child abuse in and of itself (clearly there may be cases where there is abuse, but it’s certainly not a given).

I don't mind being naked around dh - in the bedroom or bathroom.

In fact we are away at the moment and I didn't bring a dressing gown so I've been wandering about naked more than usual.

Dc aren't here tho! I wouldn't do that in front of them.