Would you go to a school reunion?

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It's been eight years since the end of school and I'm not in contact with anyone anymore but AIBU for wanting a reunion to catch up/see how people are getting on etc?

My experience was there was a handful who were tormented daily
The majority who went along with/ignored it/pretended it didn't happen
Then the bullies

what would you say?
if you were successful perhaps you want to show off?
if you didnt feel you had made a success of you life you might not want to meet people from your past

Heck no! If they couldn't be bothered to be friends with me thirty years ago I can't be bothered with them now. I have lots of wonderful people in my life. I don't need a shared history.

I can see how this would be the case. Most of us probably fit into the middle group (although I would add: “too wrapped up in their own worlds to notice the torment of others” to that category.) Surely everyone gouging their eyes out can’t have been a part of that handful?

my dm has been to a few school reunions, ex boarding school, all very well to do women, apart from her, who divorced my ddad. the rest seem to be still married and well off
<<in their 80s and 90s so a different generation>>
she still manages to blag it though

Ugh, no. It'll be 30 years next year and if anybody organises something I wouldn't go (despite having stayed local).

From a year of 100 girls I have about 20 on FB, and there are 3 who I still meet up with occasionally (once every year or two). Anybody else, if I haven't stayed in contact with, I wouldn't be remotely interested in seeing.

50s. I would and have done. I'm still friends with people from school, and I meet with some of those a couple of times a year. I'm FB friends with more.

I've also been to a couple of uni ones, but again there are people I've stayed in touch with.

My father used to go to school reunions, and I met people he was at school with, plus a teacher when I was quite little, so ot seems normal to me.

I am not particularly successful in any way, and no one else seems to brag, either. It's just a nice catch-up.

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I wouldn't want to go because I have no interest in socialising with people I haven't seen or bothered to have contact with in 20 odd years. It would be boring as hell and a waste of a precious evening. I don't care what a bunch of strangers have been doing since we left. Anyone I had an interest in I've kept in touch with. I wasn't bullied, was popular and had no issues. I can open my front door 😂 Not wanting to go to a shite party with people you don't know doesn't make you weird. Quite the opposite actually.

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No I wouldn't. I was bullied at school. My last 2 years there were very lonely. There's no one I would want to see again.

I would gladly attend to see how many have failed in life. I don’t really need to as I know from Facebook but it would still be nice to meet up and understand how everyone took such drastically different paths in life - with the majority failing from looks of it.

Well that sounds like a very shitty disposition.

This is completely reasonable. I suppose the ones I’d want to stay in contact with, I’ve kept in contact with. The ones I wouldn’t necessarily keep contact with but be interested in, I already have (or can at least find) on social media, and the ones I wouldn’t care to see, I don’t!

Considering the background I know and you don’t, it isn’t. I do delight a little bit.

I was horrifically bullied virtually every day till 5th form

They were absolute bitches and most of the boys not much better (one or two exceptions obvs). I wouldn't spit on them if they were on fire

I had a much happier life when I started work.

Oh, and this is 55 years ago and I'm still bitter...

Absolutely not. I left school in 2007 so we’re coming up to 20 years and no no. I’m still very good friends with some school friends - 3 of my bridesmaids are my best friends from school. But as for everyone else absolutely just no - school was miserable for me.

I’m sure I don’t! It’s still pretty shitty baggage to carry around with you. What would you do if you saw them and they were, in fact, happy and successful? That surely would send you into further turmoil. It’s never a good idea to let people who have made life shitty take up headspace.

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Same here

I was bullied and instead of stopping it,the teachers joined in

And my parents blamed me for 'allowing' it to happen

I opened this thread and my first thought was 'I'd rather eat my own liver'

I still have nightmares about the mean girls,the sex pest boys and the pervert teachers

At least 5 where pedophiles and the rest where either nasty,narcissistic,bullies or just too dumb not to see what was happening in front of their own faces

I hope it burns down with them in it

I dins have enough time to spend with the people I love, so there's no chance I'd spend time with people I vaguely knew

No

Sure, why not? I would give it a go and catch up