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Would you go to a school reunion?

173 replies

SmedSmoo · 15/02/2025 19:50

It's been eight years since the end of school and I'm not in contact with anyone anymore but AIBU for wanting a reunion to catch up/see how people are getting on etc?

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theDudesmummy · 15/02/2025 20:11

I believe i would. It's not going to happen as I live on another continent from where I went to school and I left school 45 years ago, but I think I would find it very interesting.

JerseyCrow · 15/02/2025 20:11

God no. Awful people and awful memories. Anyone I want to be in touch with, I already am.

pinkstripeycat · 15/02/2025 20:13

I doubt either DH (who was in the year above me) or I would recognise anyone.

If I point anyone out in the street he says he doesn’t remember them.

Ididntsaybanana · 15/02/2025 20:13

There was one years ago I think, I wasn't invited (and wouldn't have gone). Which pretty much sums up my school experience.

Cynic17 · 15/02/2025 20:14

No. I am still in touch with the school friends I actually want to see (I left school 40+ years ago!). I'm really not bothered about the rest.

Hedonism · 15/02/2025 20:15

Pass me the spoon....

FionnulaTheCooler · 15/02/2025 20:16

Fuck no. Thats what Facebook stalking is for, with the bonus of not having to make awkward chit chat with people you haven't seen in 20 years.

CurlyhairedAssassin · 15/02/2025 20:16

I honestly can't see the point. Now that we have facebook most people can be traced on there. The people who you wanted to keep in touch with, you already will be in touch with. The people who you are faintly nosey about you can sometimes find out about on facebook or through other people. And the people who you've forgotten ever existed, well it won't make any difference if you see them again or not.

So what is the actual point? It would be far better to get a small group together of people who actually used to hang out, and go for a meal or to someone's house or something. Not a full year group thing.

TheFoz · 15/02/2025 20:16

There was one a few years ago. I didn’t go. Team Eye Gouge and Limb Eat.

CurlyhairedAssassin · 15/02/2025 20:20

And even if you're interested to see some people you haven't seen since school, and catch up with them, you only have a few years' shared history, so it's mainly small talk, or reminiscing. So once that's done, what is there to talk about? And then there is the awkward thing of "oh shall we meet up again?" If you'd really wanted to you'd have done it years ago.

LammasEve · 15/02/2025 20:22

PerfectPennyKilledMyHusband · 15/02/2025 19:52

I'd rather gouge my eyes out with a spoon

Me too, and a rusty one at that.

Loveduppenguin · 15/02/2025 20:22

PerfectPennyKilledMyHusband · 15/02/2025 19:52

I'd rather gouge my eyes out with a spoon

This!

RubyRedBow · 15/02/2025 20:23

I never went to mine. I couldn’t wait to see the back of them all 😂

ohtowinthelottery · 15/02/2025 20:24

Someone organised one just as we were all about to turn 40. They tracked me down as my parents had never moved from my childhood home. I didn't go to it. Just couldn't imagine what I might have in common with most of them that many years on. I've no idea how many people did go.
I am in touch with 2 old school friends on Facebook, and through them, I am aware of what one or 2 others are doing. I am also in touch with 2 other school friends in real life - but only recently. We've met up a few times. But I've no great yearning to meet anyone else.

TrixieFatell · 15/02/2025 20:25

people only want to know who got fat and that they are doing better in life then everyone else. I kept in touch with the ones I wanted to and have no interest to see anyone else

DappledThings · 15/02/2025 20:26

Fuck no.

30 years this year since I left (28 since the second secondary I moved to for 6th form). Have one really good friend from then who i have known since I was 10 and I see 3-4 times a year.

I have no interest in anyone else. It would be so boring trying to remember who people are 30 years later.

Dampfnudeln · 15/02/2025 20:26

I liked school, i think I'd go to a reunion, but I'm not aware of one having ever been arranged (and lost touch with almost everyone). It's been over 30 years and I'm still in contact with my lovely best friend from school. We both never returned to our home town after uni and live in different countries now, so we have our own little reunions just for the two us every now and again. That's enough.

eachpeachpea · 15/02/2025 20:26

Not for all the money in the world.

DappledThings · 15/02/2025 20:27

TrixieFatell · 15/02/2025 20:25

people only want to know who got fat and that they are doing better in life then everyone else. I kept in touch with the ones I wanted to and have no interest to see anyone else

"It was just as if everyone had swelled"

A quote from the best film of all time to feature a school reunion.

rumkar · 15/02/2025 20:30

Yes, I liked school...

Fromage · 15/02/2025 20:31

Everybody hated me, including the teachers. I was bullied relentlessly, nobody gave a shit. My education suffered, I was blamed.

I would literally rather die.

GroovyChick87 · 15/02/2025 20:31

No. Better things to do with my time.

Differentstarts · 15/02/2025 20:32

Nope. If you wanna see what people have been up to check their socials

tobee · 15/02/2025 20:35

Left 40 years ago. I really liked school (social life not work) but I wouldn't go to a reunion. Up to about 20 years ago I quite liked the idea of being a fly on the wall. But now, I think it'd be mostly depressing to see how ancient we all are.

My dm went to one at her school after 50 years and all the nicest and most interesting people were the ones that had died. 😞

Bigbrommieowner · 15/02/2025 20:35

I didn't as I was really pissed that my "friends" didn't bother to contact me, I'm not hard to find as I've never changed my name. Several lads did try to drop me a line about it, which was nice but it was my friends I'd like to have heard from...so I didn't go, too pissed off.