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Would you go to a school reunion?

173 replies

SmedSmoo · 15/02/2025 19:50

It's been eight years since the end of school and I'm not in contact with anyone anymore but AIBU for wanting a reunion to catch up/see how people are getting on etc?

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Rocknrollstar · 16/02/2025 07:03

My school has FB group and only a few people from my year are on that. That’s more than enough for me. I can’t imagine why I would go to a reunion with people I didn’t like.

HRTQueen · 16/02/2025 07:09

No

a few I would like to hear they are doing well but from what I have seen the reunions are mainly the ex students I would cross the road to avoid

mjf981 · 16/02/2025 07:12

Never in a million years. I've moved to the other side of the world and have no desire to go back to where I went to school, ever. I never fit in and couldn't wait to leave.

Someone did try to organize one for our 20th anniversary. As it got closer to the date there had not been much interest so she cancelled it. I wasn't surprised - there were only about 75 in our year and we were not a close group. Interestingly the year beneath mine seems to have them every 5 years and have lots of attendees (one of the few people I keep in touch with is a FB friend, and was in that year so I see the pics on FB).

Sheknowsaboutme · 16/02/2025 07:12

No. Im 50 and out reunion was 4 yrs ago. I didn’t do anything with most of them and i have no interest in what they are now up do.

Ponderingwindow · 16/02/2025 07:22

I’ve had the opportunity to attend 3 and I have skipped all of them. I was and remain socially awkward. Despite the fact that I have a successful life, attending a reunion would be awful.

GaspingGekko · 16/02/2025 07:22

DappledThings · 15/02/2025 20:27

"It was just as if everyone had swelled"

A quote from the best film of all time to feature a school reunion.

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I didn't remember this quote, but I instantly knew which film you were talking about.

EleanorReally · 16/02/2025 07:23

no,
i did join friends united some years ago though
and it made me realise who i wasnt friends with

EleanorReally · 16/02/2025 07:24

and there was some kind of school attendees reunion last year, i saw the photos, it did not look appealing

pootleondown · 16/02/2025 07:24

It's a bit soon for a reunion isn't it? We never had any til 20 years later!

Roselilly36 · 16/02/2025 07:27

Probably not, I live along way from where I went to school and school days weren’t particularly happy for me. I hope all I went to school with are happy and healthy and enjoying life though, but I don’t have any reason to be in touch.

LouiseTopaz · 16/02/2025 07:28

SmedSmoo · 15/02/2025 19:56

Those saying no, what's your reasons?

I didn't particular get on with lots of people so wouldn't be going in the hopes of rekindling anything but I think it would be nice for old times sake to see how people turned out!

Because the type of people that would go I'd have no interest in,would rather have a night out with friends

SardinesOnGingerbread · 16/02/2025 07:29

Hell, no.

pinklilys · 16/02/2025 07:40

I did. 40 years. Apart from one person who I've kept in contact with I didn't really speak to anyone. I didn't remember most of them, and my "best friend" just said Oh, yeah and ignored me the rest of the night!

Bloody awful.

moonsunandstars · 16/02/2025 07:41

Never. I was bullied by the whole class.

Well, in 2023 I received facebook messages from old classmates inviting me to a WhatsApp group for a school reunion.

Out of curiosity I joined, but I never posted anything on the group or responded to the WhatsApp surveys they put on the group to organise the meet up .

Of course I didn't attend.

Almost a year after the reunion, people sometimes posted random memories of school in the group.

I then one day just had enough and left the group unannounced 😃

KimberleyClark · 16/02/2025 07:44

63 and never been to one. They don’t appeal. In my 30s I especially wouldn’t have relished being asked over and over again if I had children!

Vettrianofan · 16/02/2025 07:47

arcticpandas · 15/02/2025 19:56

No way. I'm not curious about people I'm not in contact with.

Same. I have no desire to go back in time. I couldn't give a toss what they all do now.

GretchenWienersHair · 16/02/2025 07:48

I would have done had I grown up 40 years earlier than I did, but with social media I don’t see the point. I don’t talk to everyone but I have lots of people on there, so I know how they’re getting on anyway.

I do wonder why so many people imagine it to be such a horrible thing though. Were that many people bullied in school? That’s a really sad thought. I don’t subscribe to the “your school years are your best years” malarkey, but I did really enjoy my school days!

Lovelycupofcoffee · 16/02/2025 07:52

Another team eye gouging here with an added side of toenail sandwich .

Chuchoter · 16/02/2025 07:55

I haven't been to all of mine due to logistics but have been to three and enjoyed them.

I also at least once a year meet up with a smaller group of just women friends that I went to school with.

There's also a school Facebook group that everyone keep in touch with each other on.

My school days were very happy ones.

NattyTurtle59 · 16/02/2025 08:07

GretchenWienersHair · 16/02/2025 07:48

I would have done had I grown up 40 years earlier than I did, but with social media I don’t see the point. I don’t talk to everyone but I have lots of people on there, so I know how they’re getting on anyway.

I do wonder why so many people imagine it to be such a horrible thing though. Were that many people bullied in school? That’s a really sad thought. I don’t subscribe to the “your school years are your best years” malarkey, but I did really enjoy my school days!

We shouldn't really be surprised at the comments on here, MN after all is the home of those who can't open the door without prior warning that someone is calling, everyone was bullied/had a dreadful upbringing/is socially inept, they are only interested in their "little family", have few friends and distrust all strangers, and aren't interested in people outside their own little bubble. In real life these things are much rarer.

Moonnstars · 16/02/2025 08:11

Gosh no. It's just a chance for people to be nosy at how others lives have turned out.
I kept in touch with the people I wanted to (albeit one person 😂).

GlimmerOfGold · 16/02/2025 08:15

I would not go to my school one. But I am going this year to mu university one, a 30y reunion. I am looking forward to it!

mindutopia · 16/02/2025 08:15

I absolutely would go. I think I’m coming up to my 30th in a few years (😳). Unfortunately, I live in a totally different country now and my school is an 8 hour flight away. So I’ve never gone to any of them.

SallyWD · 16/02/2025 08:19

I'd love to go but I'm a very curious (nosy) person. I'm Facbook friends with loads of people from school so I feel like we've kind of kept in touch anyway.

SandalsandPools · 16/02/2025 08:24

NattyTurtle59 · 16/02/2025 08:07

We shouldn't really be surprised at the comments on here, MN after all is the home of those who can't open the door without prior warning that someone is calling, everyone was bullied/had a dreadful upbringing/is socially inept, they are only interested in their "little family", have few friends and distrust all strangers, and aren't interested in people outside their own little bubble. In real life these things are much rarer.

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Don’t be so patronising. People not wanting to attend a school reunion doesn’t tell you anything about how they feel about other social events though we do exist in real life too. We aren’t just MN constructs.

And yes bullying is common, so unsurprisingly a lot of people were bullied at school so why would we want to revisit that? Or are you one of those people who think that they were asking for it?