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Would you go to a school reunion?

173 replies

SmedSmoo · 15/02/2025 19:50

It's been eight years since the end of school and I'm not in contact with anyone anymore but AIBU for wanting a reunion to catch up/see how people are getting on etc?

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Fromage · 15/02/2025 20:35

Differentstarts · 15/02/2025 20:32

Nope. If you wanna see what people have been up to check their socials

Unless you went to school with me, in which case, fuck off.

😁

tobee · 15/02/2025 20:36

I looked a few up on Friends Reunited all those years ago. The only ones who were on there were not the cool kids.

nongnangning · 15/02/2025 20:36

TrixieFatell · 15/02/2025 20:25

people only want to know who got fat and that they are doing better in life then everyone else. I kept in touch with the ones I wanted to and have no interest to see anyone else

Yep @TrixieFatell has it nailed

AppleKatie · 15/02/2025 20:36

One was organised for my year a few years ago I watched it on FB like one would watch fish swimming in a barrel (I never said I was going!)

a few people went I think but the person organising it lost loads of money on the bar booking and then had a FB rant about how we were all wankers for not turning up

👀

AppleKatie · 15/02/2025 20:37

tobee · 15/02/2025 20:36

I looked a few up on Friends Reunited all those years ago. The only ones who were on there were not the cool kids.

Wow.

Differentstarts · 15/02/2025 20:38

tobee · 15/02/2025 20:36

I looked a few up on Friends Reunited all those years ago. The only ones who were on there were not the cool kids.

Your an adult now what a odd thing to say

CoffeeCakeAndALattePlease · 15/02/2025 20:39

Nope.
I left 29 years ago and never been interested in any reunions. I didn’t hate school but didn’t love it either. Wasn’t in a “cool” group. Anyone I want to be in touch with, I am.

Tisfortired · 15/02/2025 20:39

Christ no.

I am still good friends with one person from school, and between us we keep up to date with everyone else via FB 😂 couldn’t be less interested in meeting up with any of them again.

Taytocrisps · 15/02/2025 20:41

No, I don't think so. It's almost 30 years since I left school. I'm still in contact with my three best friends and loosely in contact with a few others through Facebook. Happy to leave it at that.

Wherehavetheyallgone · 15/02/2025 20:44

My old school has a reunion Facebook page. I'm interested (ok, nosey!) enough to check it periodically. But I wouldn't gp to one of the reunions. From past write-ups and photos, it's mainly the people who left school at 16 and /or stayed local who go along. Most of those who stayed to sixth form /went to uni don't bother. The school had streaming, so the two groups wouldn't have mixed much, even in the lower years at school.

WeekendFreedom · 15/02/2025 20:44

dontsaystuff · 15/02/2025 19:54

Honestly I would go go with the one friend I'm still friends with from school just to be nosey and have a laugh/ gossip at everyone else.
If she didn't go, I couldn't think of anything worse than going alone.

have a laugh/ gossip at everyone else.

Really? Sounds pathetic

IMustDoMoreExercise · 15/02/2025 20:48

I went to one after 25 years and 35 years with my best friend from school.

Not sure I would have gone without her.

sometimesmovingforwards · 15/02/2025 20:50

For me there would just be no point.
I’m still in touch with my old school friends and these days we meet once a year at best 😂

As for the others, I can’t really see the point as we obviously mutually chose not to keep in touch. They were just other people I shared some air space with for a while through coincidence rather than choice. I hope they’re all thriving, but it would be as relevant as catching up with the faces I recognised for years all getting the 6.07am train to Waterloo. Or the neighbours I had 3 houses ago.

I’ve not got the best memory so if I went I’d just be saying ‘hi there, how are you’ without any real sense of connection. One of our group has a year photo from our 5th year after GCSEs, I literally just don’t recognise people or remember their names.

ColinOfficeTrolley · 15/02/2025 20:50

Fuck no! I imagine the people who are desperate to arrange these school reunions, peaked in high school and have had pretty sad lives ever since.

Starlightstarbright4 · 15/02/2025 20:52

Absolutely no … I hated most people at school . There was one a few years ago out of an 8 form entry i think there were about 10 people ..

PaintDecisions · 15/02/2025 20:52

Absolutely fucking not.

I'm in touch with the people I cared about at school.

The idea, nearly 30 years later, of being in the same room as the school bullies and bitches who made my teenage years a misery so they can judge me all over again makes me feel sick.

SnoozingFox · 15/02/2025 20:53

No - it's a lot longer for me since I left school. I'm still in touch with the people I want to be in touch with. Don't care two hoots about the rest.

PaintDecisions · 15/02/2025 20:54

dontsaystuff · 15/02/2025 19:54

Honestly I would go go with the one friend I'm still friends with from school just to be nosey and have a laugh/ gossip at everyone else.
If she didn't go, I couldn't think of anything worse than going alone.

You're the person people like me are avoiding.

Natsku · 15/02/2025 20:56

I would love to, would love to see how people have changed since our school days and catch up with people I haven't stayed in contact with.
Someone actually tried to organise a reunion for my school year last summer but it never really got off the ground, and I wouldn't have been able to go anyway on the date suggested.

tobee · 15/02/2025 21:00

What I mean is @Differentstarts and @AppleKatie the irony being I was on there!! And therefore not a cool kid!! None of the people I wanted to be like, and wanted to know what they had got up to were there.

UlceratedPapacy · 15/02/2025 21:01

No. I have no desire to spend time with people who bullied and excluded me. I look back on my school years with great sadness.

Hankunamatata · 15/02/2025 21:04

Hell no. I hated most of people I went to school with. It's been 30 years and just no

Sunnydiary · 15/02/2025 21:04

PerfectPennyKilledMyHusband · 15/02/2025 19:52

I'd rather gouge my eyes out with a spoon

Me too

Member984815 · 15/02/2025 21:05

No , someone arranged one last year added everyone to a WhatsApp. One friend of mine was added and immediately removed herself . If we wanted to keep up with each other we would . Only a few people turned up in the end

PickledElectricity · 15/02/2025 21:06

Good grief, no. I had a terrible time at school and those cretins rot in hell for all I care.