To think my sibling is being totally unreasonable about sleeping arrangements on this trip?

[jd206]

Posting here for traffic because I need to know if I’m being mad or if my sibling is just being ridiculous.

We (me, DH, DCs, my sibling, and their DP) are going on a family trip soon. It’s been planned for ages, all agreed and booked. We’re staying in a big Airbnb-type place with multiple bedrooms. The plan was that DH and I would have one room, DCs in another, and my sibling and their DP in the third. There’s also a small box room with a single bed, which was just going to be a spare in case anyone needed it.

Now, sibling has suddenly decided that they don’t want to share a room with their DP because “they sleep badly together” (which is apparently news to everyone, including DP!). They’ve said they’ll be taking the box room instead, which means DP will now have to share with one of my DCs (who is 6 and not thrilled at the idea of sharing with an adult they barely know that well).

I told them that’s not fair and that they need to just suck it up and share with their DP as planned. They’re now saying I’m being unreasonable and need to be more flexible, and that the sleeping arrangements aren’t set in stone. But surely you don’t just unilaterally change things like this last minute?!

DM has now waded in and is backing sibling, saying I’m being selfish and that we should “find a compromise” (but what compromise? DH and I aren’t going to split up for the sake of their random issue).

So, AIBU to think my sibling is being totally unfair and should just stick to the original plan? Or am I missing something here?

TL;DR: Sibling suddenly refusing to share with their DP on a trip, wants to take the spare room, leaving their DP to bunk with my child. I’ve said no, now I’m the bad guy. Who’s BU here?

@Justalittlehandhold

No, no. She deserves the spare room because she's cracked the Spare Room code. Just remind her of this at 3am when she's screaming because Mr Tumnus, Gollum and assorted miscreants come storming out of the wardrobe.

Then she'll have an emergency,

It's this. OP doesn't want to admit it but the box room was never spare, she just wasn't officially claiming it because she would probably have had to chip in more of the property rental cost of her family were having 3 of the 4 rooms.

She clearly planned to use it for her DS along. DS is probably a baby/toddler she was going to claim was sleeping in with her and Dp so she wasn't asked to tip up extra money.

There are 4 bedrooms from your original description?? So you/dh, dc, DS and BIL. Four ..: what am I missing?

Your BIL sounds like a creep. Trust your instincts.

cancel the Airbnb

😀

It's not the BIL saying they need to share with the 6yo - it's the op. And the BIL doesn't- there's a spare.

I'll be sad to see this thread go.

As long as it's a spare bench that the op has determined to be "unallocated". Beware though, an indeterminate random person may come and randomly share it with you.

I was hoping @jd206 would be back by now to explain this. I genuinely don't understand why the original plan doesn't work just with DSis taking the box room. I don't see how this buggers everything up

It’s a mumsnet “family”!! Ie all hate one another but for some unfathomable reason decide to live in each other’s pockets and even holiday together 😆

Don't even bother the op knows this! It's just a wind up.

Hilarious 😂

Please put this in classics @MNHQ !!

It's the funniest thing I've read in ages!

Title should really read, my sibling is changing our plans, and for no good reason I am annoyed about it.

I can’t believe I read as many posts as I did. We are all crazy.

Non-story

The way I read this is:

to keep the spare room completely spare, the DH will have to share one of the allocated rooms with the child. This is her solution to still keep the box room free. Rather than allow the DH to sleep in the box room alone. Determined the special box room will remain empty, she would rather put him in with the child.

I've had supper, gone for a sleep, gone to work, eaten my breakfast, and it's still utterly baffling.

We don't know that there is a BIL.

OP has only ever mentioned 'sibling' and 'sibling's DP'

She has carefully avoided confirming anyone's sex.

Is this post a wind up?

It worked, I feel really annoyed.

The sad thing is, we will never know the truth. Perhaps OP's sibling could start one, telling their side of the story.

It’s just going to be one of life’s mysteries.

Like that mumsnet thread years ago with the riddle about the man falling down the steps and went on for ages and pages, and I never found out the answer. The op kept saying ‘when you see it you will know’ and people then started agreeing with her, and I never did. It was like the Emperor’s new clothes.

Sometimes it still comes into my mind, and I just think ‘why’. Maybe it’s a lesson in life that it’s all a big mystery. This thread is going to haunt me too. Why did I click it!!

This can't be real 🤣🤣 if it is, then you are being utterly ridiculous.

I’m sorry but I really don’t get this. There is a spare room 🧐

Please leave space for the op to come back or @jd206 please start a new thread if you ever decide to confirm why the spare room being used means your dd has to leave their allocated room and share with Dsis partner?

This fucking hilarious.

I think OP needs to draw out the layout of the house, the number of beds in the room and who was meant to go where!

however I still feel I’ll be confused after that!

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

@mnhq classics please!

But it leads to Strange Places