To think my sibling is being totally unreasonable about sleeping arrangements on this trip?

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Posting here for traffic because I need to know if I’m being mad or if my sibling is just being ridiculous.

We (me, DH, DCs, my sibling, and their DP) are going on a family trip soon. It’s been planned for ages, all agreed and booked. We’re staying in a big Airbnb-type place with multiple bedrooms. The plan was that DH and I would have one room, DCs in another, and my sibling and their DP in the third. There’s also a small box room with a single bed, which was just going to be a spare in case anyone needed it.

Now, sibling has suddenly decided that they don’t want to share a room with their DP because “they sleep badly together” (which is apparently news to everyone, including DP!). They’ve said they’ll be taking the box room instead, which means DP will now have to share with one of my DCs (who is 6 and not thrilled at the idea of sharing with an adult they barely know that well).

I told them that’s not fair and that they need to just suck it up and share with their DP as planned. They’re now saying I’m being unreasonable and need to be more flexible, and that the sleeping arrangements aren’t set in stone. But surely you don’t just unilaterally change things like this last minute?!

DM has now waded in and is backing sibling, saying I’m being selfish and that we should “find a compromise” (but what compromise? DH and I aren’t going to split up for the sake of their random issue).

So, AIBU to think my sibling is being totally unfair and should just stick to the original plan? Or am I missing something here?

TL;DR: Sibling suddenly refusing to share with their DP on a trip, wants to take the spare room, leaving their DP to bunk with my child. I’ve said no, now I’m the bad guy. Who’s BU here?

Of all the batshit spare rooms, in all the batshit world, you had to share this one (except you didn't as there is literally a room for everyone!)
Come on OP, what is the actual deal here? There is zero drama.

Love the clear diagrams! This thread must be a wind up. No one can be so truly clueless, can they?! It’s so annoying that the original post wasn’t clear, but on the follow up posts, OP was just repeating themselves and providing no follow up clarity!

I'm high again aren't I

Maybe the spare room is being used by the dead wasp? Did anyone try throwing wine at the wall yet?

What ‘better arrangement’ would you have worked out op? Renting a 5 bed so your family could have 3 bedrooms?
How are you sharing the cost for the current accomodation? What percentage are you paying? I think the answer to this would clear all the confusion that everyone here has been experiencing

OP this is classic mumsnet...hilarious 😂

I don't really know what's going on but from the looks of what I've skimmed I'd sleep on the sofa and leave everyone else to their battle royale and then clean up the bodies the next day.

How do you know they’ve been banned?

Well your DC need to sleep in with you. Sisters DP on the sofa. That way you keep 2 spare rooms 'just in case'.

But honestly if 'just in case' happens. Someone should sleep in the car.

I’ve just woken my husband up with my laughing. This thread has really cheered me up! However, I’m very puzzled why a room has been allocated in case people might need a break? Maybe OPs sibling needs a break from their OH and so the spare room is actually being used for the purpose that OP has allocated.

You’re saying that there are 4 bedrooms. The 4 th being a box size room and no one is staying in it but she wants it now. I think the you should split cost per bedroom then and if someone shows up and needs a bed they can sleep on the couch or your sibling goes back to the original bedroom while you have an additional guest.

I don’t think there’s even an Airbnb. Possibly not even a sibling..

You need to burn the air bnb down and emigrate to the moon. It's the only solution.

<screams into pillow>

There was a post from MNHQ a couple of pages back saying the OP has been 'shown the door' or 'sent on their way' or something similar.

That doesn’t make sense bc you said they’re are four bedrooms and you had an empty box room unless I’m missing something. You said they’re extra bedroom you wanted to keep empty bc someone might show up.

Anyone sussed it out yet? I’m waiting to go to bed (with OP’s sibling)

Oh wow, I must have missed that when I went to brush my teeth and 24 more pages of comments appeared!
Do we know why she was sent on her way? Trolling us with a crazy thread?

None of this makes sense but I wouldn't be letting any 6year old share a bedroom with an unrelated male.
They say most SA occurs in families and I can well remember my creepy uncle and his wandering hands.

The spare bedroom door hopefully.

Bizarrest holiday I've ever heard off. Box room or no box room why you want a spare is so weird, glad you don't join our family trips where there's 4 families together and if by chance someone is ill that's what sofas are for 😆

Wish AirBnB would fuck off and enable people to be able to rent somewhere with a normal rent, all over the world.

Not the topic of discussion, I know.

I have never done AirBnB while travelling and never will. Or other platforms that rent out a house/apartment.

What a total non event. The room is spare. A bit old that they don’t want to share with their partner but the sleeping arrangements work.

I don't get how this is even a thing....it's simple, it seems like OP is just purposely being awkward. Nobody goes away with the insistence of having a spare room. If somebody needs a break or sleep elsewhere surely that's where the sofa comes in to play. This seems extremely petty.

Ahhh I've loved this thread :-) Definitely needed after a v long day. Sad if OP can't reply though, although I don't think it'd clarify matters much!