To think my sibling is being totally unreasonable about sleeping arrangements on this trip?

[jd206]

Posting here for traffic because I need to know if I’m being mad or if my sibling is just being ridiculous.

We (me, DH, DCs, my sibling, and their DP) are going on a family trip soon. It’s been planned for ages, all agreed and booked. We’re staying in a big Airbnb-type place with multiple bedrooms. The plan was that DH and I would have one room, DCs in another, and my sibling and their DP in the third. There’s also a small box room with a single bed, which was just going to be a spare in case anyone needed it.

Now, sibling has suddenly decided that they don’t want to share a room with their DP because “they sleep badly together” (which is apparently news to everyone, including DP!). They’ve said they’ll be taking the box room instead, which means DP will now have to share with one of my DCs (who is 6 and not thrilled at the idea of sharing with an adult they barely know that well).

I told them that’s not fair and that they need to just suck it up and share with their DP as planned. They’re now saying I’m being unreasonable and need to be more flexible, and that the sleeping arrangements aren’t set in stone. But surely you don’t just unilaterally change things like this last minute?!

DM has now waded in and is backing sibling, saying I’m being selfish and that we should “find a compromise” (but what compromise? DH and I aren’t going to split up for the sake of their random issue).

So, AIBU to think my sibling is being totally unfair and should just stick to the original plan? Or am I missing something here?

TL;DR: Sibling suddenly refusing to share with their DP on a trip, wants to take the spare room, leaving their DP to bunk with my child. I’ve said no, now I’m the bad guy. Who’s BU here?

This is even more complicated than the puzzle where you can't leave the fox with the chicken, or the chicken with the corn... how do you get them all across the river? Or whatever the hell it is 🫤

I can’t believe I’ve read this far and there is no explanation or diagram! I’ll be needing a lie down in the box room at this rate! Preferably without the ops DC!

Surely if your 6yo is so 'unwell' that they need to be in the 'spare' 4th bedroom all week (which you'd helpfully kept spare for illness), then you should stay at home and your sister and her partner can use all the bedrooms.

Sounds like you had your eye on that 'spare' bedroom for your 6yo and now your sister has scuppered your plan to use 3/4 of the bedrooms.

Schrödingers bed

Thats not what the OP has suggested. They are suggesting one kid in one room and another kid in a room with sisters partner

How about you all just stay at home. Problem solved.... Probably safer for the local population...

Is this a financial issue? Are you splitting costs on basis of rooms used? Had you intended to use three out of the four rooms? Is this an issue about change in general and you struggle with this? You are insisting that your child will be sharing with an adult despite also saying that your children have their own room - this needs to be explained

Please stop, if l laugh any more l’ll have a nosebleed (and need a lie down in the box room) !!

best solution!

This post is giving me a headache 🤕 it makes absolutely no sense at all 🤪

Can I just thank you @HebeMumsnet for leaving this intriguing thread up!! 😊
The OP may be long gone, but the MN spirit lives on 😁

I'm off to bed, I have no doubt the thread will be full by morning - looking forward to more thoughts and theories 😉

Was a child planning on using the spare room so they didn't have to share? I don't see the need for a spare room for illness or quiet time.

Most unreal post of the day.

Well this thread has cheered me up 😂

I think I’m the first person to suggest this and I may have cracked the puzzle … is the sibling’s DP frightened of sleeping in a room on their own? 😂

what is the sound of a sleeping bed when no one is in it?

Has anyone suggested that her dp stay in the original room? It sounds crazy but I think it might work!

Sorry but you're being ridiculous. There is zero reason to keep a room spare "just in case". The "just in case" has happened - your siblings NEEDS the room and has told you in advance. Just because the reason isn't "good enough" in your opinion doesn't mean it isn't valid. Your 6 year old doesn't need to share a room with anyone - that's just a weird thing to do in order to keep a room empty!

This is the most insane thread ever. Putting a comment here so I’ll get a notification when the OP returns with an explanation for us all!

😂😂😂😂

I've missed this from mumsnet. Batshit crazy threads

If no one is in, does it even exist?

Perfect! 😂😂😂

If your sibling is staying in the room they were meant to share and her DP its staying in the spare room (or vice versa), nobody has to share with the DP.

What you're saying is wrong.

Think makes no sense. The room is spare. Why can't they sleep there? How to make things difficult.

It's late at night. Just 5 mins on Mumsnet I thought. Why of all the posts on the whole of Mumsnet did I click on this one and now my brain is fried! Thanks OP who I assume is not coming bank!

I don’t think @jd206 will be back as they are probably embarrassed at not being able to count the amount of beds available in the 4 bedrooms. Hopefully they will read all the advice re beds and bedrooms given by posters.