Friend kissed my baby, feeling upset

[Lurkinmn]

A friend came to visit me and asked if she can take the baby. Baby is 16 weeks old, I gave her the baby and she did a quick peck on my baby's cheek. I was shocked that why would she kiss other people's baby. I was upset and when she left I wiped my baby's face but I am feeling quite upset about her inconsiderate behaviour putting my baby's health risk. Baby has been fussy last night and I am feeling quite worried about my baby's health. Baby has all her vaccines so far.
What should I do and what should I say to her and other visitors coming to our place to see baby?

You’ve never kissed your baby? 😮

Jeez I feel for this kid unless you get your anxiety under control. Babies should be kissed.

Absolutely 💯 bonkers!
It just gets worse on here!

Yes I have!

My nieces and nephews, my godchildren, friends babies.
They all get a snuggle.

Sorry but you are odd to find this weird and even odder that you admit to not having kissed your own baby.

Batshit madness.

OP very clearly states that she has never kissed her baby ON THE FACE.

I'm not sure why people keep dramatically leaving off the last part and acting like OP doesn't kiss her baby at all.

It's bizarre.

OP, speak to your GP about your anxiety as this is far from normal. I believe that if you can relax you'll enjoy your baby far more - and enjoy kissing her lovely soft baby face.

But only if she gives them cheeks a squeeze first!

I kiss my niece on the top of the head. I've never kissed any other babies except my own.

I wouldn't be keen on a cheek kiss, it's completely unnecessary.

Mil use to kiss dds hands that did my head in as it's far more unhygienic.

I agree with a previous poster just a gentle request citing immune system as a reason.

Oh OP this is so sad. You will never get this time back with your baby, they will never be so little again. Give them a kiss!

Have I kissed other people’s babies? Yes I kissed my niece when she was tiny, I know I shouldn’t have and I felt bad after but it was just a human instinctive reaction! I cannot believe none of you have kissed your poor baby on the face.

OP kisses her baby on the top of the head. What's the difference between a head kiss and a cheek kiss that makes it so very sad?

I just don't get it.

Quite a lot to a baby! There is a reason we have instincts to kiss on faces/mouths. It's a bonding experience. It releases seratonin and oxytocin. The baby will not experience a head kiss in the same way at all.

Exactly.

The reason that kisses on the face are less hygienic is the same reason that they are better for the baby.

You're SUPPOSED to get all close and gross, if you will.

Get a grip is what you should do.

You can transmit the virus even without an active cold sore as the virus can lie dormant on the skin.

You're being absolutely ridiculous

that is abnormal for you as a family not to have kissed the baby and you are overreacting to your friend.

Do you have OCD?

If its any comfort the healthiest babies with the strongest immune systems are those exposed to normal bacteria.. Of course that does not mean people with a streaming cold or a bad cough kissing your baby, but otherwise its fine.

Then I must be broken because I've never had an instinct to kiss mine on faces/mouths.

I fail to see how it's only a bonding experience if you kiss them on the face/mouth. From the reaction of mine when they get kisses on their head, tummy etc they don't seem to agree.

You are extremely unusual if you've never had an urge to kiss your baby on the face. Very rare.

Do you not even snuggle into their face? I don’t see how you can do that without then kissing their cheek or nose etc

I do but if I kissed them after, it would be on top of the head. That's where my broken instinct tells me to kiss them.

If this is really you should think about getting some help

Hold on. YOU as a family. So that's including you and the dad haven't kissed your nearly 4 month old baby on the cheek yet?

I fear the problem won't be that your baby gets some disease I'm more worried that your baby will suffer some psychological trauma from bizarre restrictions on affection

Bloody hell, some on here would have heart attacks if they lived in the Med, everyone and anyone kisses babies. Sit in a restaurant and your baby will be cuddled and kissed by a dozen different people.
We have new mums with anxiety over having close family visit in the first 10 years of a child's life. anxiety over sitting in the front seat of the car and leaving their baby in the back, having anxiety over the child's own father looking after the them. I think some mums need to get off all SM.

How can you resist their little squidgy cheeks?