Friend kissed my baby, feeling upset

[Lurkinmn]

A friend came to visit me and asked if she can take the baby. Baby is 16 weeks old, I gave her the baby and she did a quick peck on my baby's cheek. I was shocked that why would she kiss other people's baby. I was upset and when she left I wiped my baby's face but I am feeling quite upset about her inconsiderate behaviour putting my baby's health risk. Baby has been fussy last night and I am feeling quite worried about my baby's health. Baby has all her vaccines so far.
What should I do and what should I say to her and other visitors coming to our place to see baby?

That poor poor baby

What about the baby's mental wellbeing and development

That is so sad.

I read the post clearly, and so are 97% of the public completely abnormal??! To not kiss your baby ON THE FACE is still not normal! Just because you and 3% doesn’t mean it’s normal! Ffs 🤦🏻‍♀️

Maybe kinder not to share this here when OP is already very anxious?

I kiss my babies on their feet, tummy, top of head etc but not their face/cheek. I didn't realise that it was so unusual.

YANBU, OP. I wouldn't be keen on others kissing mine on their face but thankfully it has never happened. They usually kiss on the top of the head.

Honey, i think you need to see your GP.

If you're breastfeeding, your child already has an immunity to all sorts of things. If not, then your baby needs to build up immunity and so not touching its face within your own family seems bonkers to me. As a mum, I kissed both my babies on the face, but obviously I wouldn't have let a stranger do it or someone who had a cold or illness, someone who was smoking a cigarette, or wearing lipstick etc

Just because a poll on mumsnet says it’s abnormal doesn’t mean it is 😆🤦🏻‍♀️ ffs why are there so many weirdos obsessed with kissing babies faces?! she has kissed her baby just not on the face, whats the problem?! Each to their own and if she’s not comfortable doing that then that’s absolutely fine, I don’t get why 97% of people have been so nasty, so just because you and your 97% crew think it’s abnormal doesn’t mean it is, must be gospel if the people on mumsnet have voted 🥴🤣

You are right Lemonbossy, and I'm sorry if I've stressed you any further OP.
It was more in response to all the posters saying such horrible things to the OP to show that her reasons are valid for worrying. But that is an extremely rare case and the baby will have got a lot of immunity to cold sores from you so try not to worry if you can x

You've not kissed your baby?

Wow, that is so so sad.

I hope you get help for your completely irrational anxiety. I kiss my baby (now 4) all the time. She's just fine.

Yes it’s unusual and really fucking weird

It’s advised not to kiss by the NHS.

Poor kid

I find generally kissing other peoples babies a little odd and the entitlement people feel to do so. They wouldn’t kiss a teenager! I prefer it if people
don’t kiss my toddler, especially non family members.

DC is old enough to push people away if he doesn’t want them in his face anyway.

Your baby, your choice.

OP, I would have been annoyed too. I think most of the posters here don’t get it. I’m guessing you are worried about Herpes Simplex - it’s unlikely but I understand why you are annoyed and upset. I do think it’s weird for anyone but immediate family to think it’s okay to kiss a baby on the face.

Definitely never let anyone kiss your baby, cuddle your baby, breath near your baby. For at least 15 years.

OP, kindly but my mum was like this with germs but she did kiss me. My sister and I have many allergies which make our lives pretty miserable often. My mum blames herself although I'm not sure if they're related.

I remember when a nursery worker kissed my baby on the head when I went to pick him up. She apologised and said it was completely instinctive which I totally get. I couldn't stop kissing my babies.

Op is the one with herpes though, not the friend, so why would she be worried about her friend or other family members kissing the baby?

I think it's far more weird for multiple pp's to act like OP doesn't kiss her baby at all when she has made it perfectly clear that she does.

The baby gets kisses and affection. Why does it matter if it's on the top of the head as opposed to the cheek? A kiss is a kiss.

Because people don’t always know they’ve got it.

MDoes your DH kiss your baby? It's no different.

Did the friend have active cold sores at the time? Otherwise i cannot understand why you're so upset

What the hell has gone wrong in society when even parents won't kiss their babies face? Screwed up world.

Whhaaat?! Why on earth not?!

One of the saddest things re attention I saw was a dear little toddler at a park trying to show his or her older dad some pretty fallen leaves-🍂 🍁 - the dad was just glued to his phone. The little one was trying so hard to get Dad's attention. Then the little one wandered off with their Ball - Dad still head down in phone.

That's made me tear up. Poor child.

It's a you problem op. What a mad wild reaction.