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Why is it not illegal to cheat on someone

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Miratea · 09/02/2025 13:17

I don’t want to give too many details. I found it pretty traumatising to be lied to. The person went on about how great of a person they were and how they weren’t like other guys. They acted like they cared about me and would be supportive of me. They were exactly like the “other guys” they described, they were a cheat with a number of others waiting in line, got with someone new every 5-6 months and I was nothing special like they’d made me out to be. I found it really traumatising and have trust issues because of it. They really rushed things and then moved on and I never saw them again. They turned on me and started being really nasty towards me. It feels like emotional whiplash. I know it wasn’t my fault but I don’t understand why these men do it

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StormingNorman · 15/02/2025 14:58

I don’t agree with it being illegal but it do think there should be financial penalties in the divorce.

JHound · 15/02/2025 17:28

somewhereinsuburbia · 15/02/2025 10:26

@JHound a woman living with a man who pays all the bills whilst she is a SAHP? How well do you think that conversation would go?
Wife: I don't want to be in a relationship with you anymore and I'm actually going on a date next week.
Husband: oh fine, yes, I'll stay in and look after the children. Have fun! Look forward to hearing about it when you come home, hun

Sounds like cowardice and entitlement. Have the conversation even if you “don’t think it will go well”.

Cheating is never an appropriate choice. Ever.

motheroflittledragon · 16/02/2025 09:06

JHound · 15/02/2025 17:28

Sounds like cowardice and entitlement. Have the conversation even if you “don’t think it will go well”.

Cheating is never an appropriate choice. Ever.

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Exactly especially if there is kids involved too. Surely the way you approach this is "i don't think this is working out anymore." "I think we should try couples therapy" "i don't think i feel as happy as I should" etc anything that actually address the issue that is not cheating

GabriellaMontez · 16/02/2025 09:40

StormingNorman · 15/02/2025 14:58

I don’t agree with it being illegal but it do think there should be financial penalties in the divorce.

They'd have to be a comprehensive system though.
10% for a long affair
5% for a ONS
1% for sexting

StormingNorman · 16/02/2025 10:26

GabriellaMontez · 16/02/2025 09:40

They'd have to be a comprehensive system though.
10% for a long affair
5% for a ONS
1% for sexting

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That level of detail wouldn’t matter to me. If you caused the breakdown of the marriage and subsequent reduced circumstances, then you pay to cushion the blow for the wronged party.

HappyMe6 · 16/02/2025 22:18

I’ve, heard it all now

crankytoes · 19/02/2025 17:39

@StormingNorman

That level of detail wouldn’t matter to me. If you caused the breakdown of the marriage and subsequent reduced circumstances, then you pay to cushion the blow for the wronged party.
Then you'd have to apply financial charges for everything that caused damage to a relationship.

Name calling
Mean behaviour
Not doing enough domestic chores
Being a crap gift buyer
Poor parenting skills

It's just ridiculous

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