To give consequences to daughter for waking the baby

[sleptlikeababydidnt]

I'm probably just tired but dd is 7 and is constantly waking 4 month baby up either by bursting in our room to ask something when we've just put him down despite being told not to come in our room while we settle him or by raising her voice and waking him when he's napping, it's getting beyond a joke.
We have a 5 year old who manages to keep her voice down and not wake the baby who also doesn't come in our room when asked not to.

Aibu to give consequences for waking the baby or is that a step too far and I just need sleep?

I'm surprised at this. When I was 7 I'd never have woken up a baby if I knew I should be quiet for a bit. There was plenty of other things I could go and do. It's learning some consideration. If she feels pushed out it's natural and that should be considered, but also she needs to learn some consideration.

I really don’t like the tone of some of the posts here .
I was in a very similar situation with 3 small children , similar sort of age gaps .
I was settling baby for naps and at night by myself because husband wasn’t there most of the time when I was trying to do that .
No other help .
He was sometimes there evenings so he would be around when I was trying to settle baby .
He wasn’t necessarily playing or involved but he was there so the other 2 knew they could ask him things but sometimes the middle one would barge in 🤪.
They did get rewarded in some way for just using quiet voices for a little bit .
Oldest one I tried making them feel important by helping, even if it was just getting the middle child something from the cupboard or getting some toys out

But ‘consequence?’
It’s her home and not a time she should be asleep. Why should she tiptoe round?

Ok so although you’re not always doing baby’s bed time together, make sure you never do, so that if possible there’s an adult accessible to dd.

If theres only one if you in the house, don't shut the bedroom door so that she can creep in if she needs you, and you can remind her with a signal when you see her coming. Remind her that if the baby is sleeping, she'll get more of your attention, and make sure this is the case. Give her a vested interest in it working out!

I agree a that a baby should fit round existing children though.

Blimey i thought you were going to say if the other things were the case then she probably needs a lot more attention than she’s getting!

What do you mean by 'we'.
Surely you are not leaving your 7 and 5 year old alone whilst two of you put a baby down to sleep?

reminded me of this…

"Speak roughly to your little boy,
And beat him when he sneezes;
He only does it to annoy,
Because he knows it teases."

😆

Children of 5 and 7 can be left alone in their home for goodness sake.

But no, as has been clarified by the op many times at this point, she does not mean both parents are settling the baby.

Seriously? Because there's a baby trying to go to sleep. It's not child abuse for family members to show consideration for each other and 7 is not too young for a child to be taught to be considerate.

In the real world, it's perfectly OK to leave a 7 and a 5 YO alone while putting a baby to sleep. Good grief. Have you heard of single parents?

She is acting up due to sibling rivalry I suppose. You will be wanting to foster a good relationship with the siblings which won’t be helped by consequences. Seven year olds are able to comprehend responsibility. Perhaps getting little jobs to help around baby care would help a bit.

Our no 3 was sent for hearing tests because she didn't react much to noise. We knew she was okay but .......! She didn't sleep a lot, but neither did her siblings. They helped to look after her, and are close friends.....