To think my mum over reacted. Photo attached

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I was washing my hands at my mums, a bit of water went on the stainless steel bit where the pots dry. She got annoyed saying she’d spent time doing it today. It was only a bit of water. So threw. A piece of cutlery at my hands whilst they were still under the tap and said I was selfish. Haven’t done anything wrong I don’t feel

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Now she has all the backing of many posters on this thread, which may or may not allow her leverage on another future occasion.

What leverage?

No, it was a perfectly valid comment.

There's little evidence of that on this thread. Quite the opposite.

I want to know why a DM would attack her DD over this issue and wonder what provoked her.

No reasonable person would attack someone over this issue.

There is no reasonable or acceptable reason for attacking someone over this issue.

What makes you think she was provoked?

Do you think all domestic abusers are provoked???

You told a rather irrelevant story about an elderly lady being bruised. So she was attacked/hit/assaulted ..... How come you didn't ask what provoked her DD to hit her??

You're asking what provoked the ops Mum to attack her, so why didn't you ask what provoked that woman's daughter to attack her??

By your "rationale" every attacker must be presumed to have had provocation/to have been provoked to attack ...... So why didn't you talk about what provoked that women to attack her elderly mother?

Your training is not very good, is it?

So far, you feel sorry for us because we can't see the full picture like you.

You feel we should not be commenting because we have not had training, but you have.

But your "training" does not lead you to consistent approaches.

Elderly lady's daughter who attacked her - vicious, evil abuser. No motivation or provocation questioned or mentioned.

Op's Mother - who attacked her for getting a sink wet - what was her motivation, what was the provocation, she could not be just an abuser. We must know the story of how she was provoked.

Strong logic and consistency.

You are a lone voice here.

Is it because you are better at seeing "both sides" than everyone else, is it because you are better trained than everyone else, is it because you are smarter than everyone else?

You apparently believe so.

No-one else believes that, however. We see delusion.

You lose an argument too, once you resort to insults

Then you have lost the argument Lizzie.

Because first of all you said you felt sorry for all the other posters here because they couldn't "see both sides" like you.

A passive aggressive, veiled insult if ever there was one; "I feel sorry for you all".

Then you said other posters couldn't judge as well as you because you are "trained" and they are not.

(But you don't appear to have been trained in domestic violence, dear. Because pretty much everything you've said on this thread demonstrates that).

So that was two insults, off the top of my head ..... Which means you've lost the argument.

Not that one person against an entire thread of posters was ever an argument.

Ah, a legal expert who knows better than lawyers ..as well as a domestic abuse expert who knows better than everyone who's commented here.

Multi talented.

I’m not saying I didn’t have symptoms bc I did but mainly hot flashes that made sleeping difficult but that’s it. Embarrassing sometimes but what can you do. We also can’t get HRT in the USA, don’t understand why but I also know people who have had no symptoms at all. Lucky them.

Ignore the bloke and his silly misogynistic comments, he'll get bored and fuck eventually if he's not fed

Fuck off eventually. Obvs.

I think your mum needs to speak to a doctor - she is likely suffering with the menopause and needs HRT.
last year before I went in HRT I was very angry and would loose my shite over things that shouldn’t have bothered me, but was feeling tired and mad tempered as a result.

Wow. Your mother has some serious self-control issues. My sympathies.

You say 'not physical' but it it clearly is.

I remember learning about one, so I did a quick google. There’s quite a lot on there.

I’m not defending the aggression - I said that in my post- I thought that the OP might suggest her mum sees a Dr.

Honestly, menopausal/hormonal rage is real, and extremely distressing.

So, she's assaulted you twice and then tried to gaslight you into thinking it was an accident.

When are you going to call the police? What a vile woman. She doesn't deserve to be called 'Mum'.

My Mum slapped me across the face when I was 18 - I didn't unload the dishwasher in time. I slapped her back, doubly as hard. She never touched me again after that. It wasn't the first time she had hit me. I had reported her to the school and they did nothing at the time; it was 20 years ago, thankfully.

Oh, Honey! NO NO NO NO NO! I can't believe the way everyone here is downplaying this! Some one actually said you should replace the sink?!!! WTF?!!!! You tell her (over the phone or email, safer that way) that you refuse to be around her again until she gets professional help or takes some sort of responsibility for her own behavior. She is the only one that can control her own actions and if I ever did anything to hurt my own child I would be horrified! Do NOT let anyone try to convince you that you have any responsibility for her violence.

There's a lot on there? Really? You still can't give an example, though 🤨.

A quick Google of my own showed an instance of menopause being used AGAINST women, not in their defence.

Sure, it can lead to rage, but menopausal women are NOT more physically violent than the average person. At all.

Blimey, I'd have to bulldoze my house!

I don't think you're being realistic.