To think my mum over reacted. Photo attached

[Lou989]

I was washing my hands at my mums, a bit of water went on the stainless steel bit where the pots dry. She got annoyed saying she’d spent time doing it today. It was only a bit of water. So threw. A piece of cutlery at my hands whilst they were still under the tap and said I was selfish. Haven’t done anything wrong I don’t feel

I didn't expect you to agree with me. Why would you?

I said I just like to see both sides of an argument. I think there is more to it than is stated in the post.

A woman gets angry and without any provocation or cause, throws a fork at her DD and doesn't miss. It causes an injury resembling a burn.

The DM had hit the OP once before, so immediately she must be menopausal, crazy, need locking up, prosecuting, you name it, posters have recommended it.

She should be arrested and prosecuted. She is like a dangerous animal and should be contained somewhere safe and the OP can live in peace and safety.

If that is what you all think, fine. I just know that things are more complicated than that, and they don't just lock people up for throwing a fork.

You’re making up a story that suits your narrative, it was a knife and not a fork. You’re not trying to say that the injury isn’t caused by the knife.

Why not just scroll on by, if you think it’s not real?

*Knife. When you throw a knife at someone, people need not turn themselves inside out wondering how it could have possibly been the victim's fault.

When have I ever said violence is justified? Nowhere have I said that.

I am trying to look at the situation from both sides, rather than accept one side only. I want to know why a DM would attack her DD over this issue and wonder what provoked her.

Your mum needs professional help for overwhelm/stress/whatever is going on in her organism and you need to know it’s not ok for her to physically (or for that matter verbally) abuse you.

Unnecessarily silly comment.

You're not going to find that out by insulting the OP and saying they're both "as bad as each other".

If you don't understand domestic abuse, there are plenty of places for you to learn.

And you should be pleased I have kept you away from the kitchen sink with my posts.

Hit a nerve have I?

A sink has taps, used to dispense water, is that correct? Is it by nature going to get wet?

Soup tureens on the other hand….

I think you know it’s because the mother is a violent abuser, surely?

and I think you are wrong. There are too many people in the world who judge too quickly.

Violence is always wrong, but so is provocation, and when two people have known each other for 32 years, one doesn't turn on the other for nothing.

Lizzie - kindly, you're coming across as someone who should get off online forums.

And I think you’re

An abuser yourself, you’re divorced and I’m guessing this could’ve been part of it. I mean reading between the lines, as you have that is probably the cause. You condone violence for not even minor misdemeanours, but complete non issues.

You argue incessantly, no matter what is said and justified to you.

So, I’ll bid you farewell and I’m off to wash my hands lavishly in the sink, splashing water everywhere, then cooking dinner and dirtying the hob, all that my DH cleaned today! I hope he’s aim at throwing knives at me is not good today!

Have you indeed! did it make the floor cleaner to throw something at them? My children had horses, and believe me, you wouldn't want straw and pony nuts dropping off their clothes every time they came in, and I bet you don't know what a muddy field is.

Once you lose your temper you lose any dignity you may have had. Life is too short. I have almost lost mine too many times to throw it all away in a huff.

You lose an argument too, once you resort to insults.

Nothing excuses violence, but then nothing excuses provocation either, does it?

Don't return I would go low contact. You deserve to be treated better.

Now why aren’t I surprised you lose your temper often 🤔!

Oh thank you. If I don't know something, I keep my mouth shut.

Likewise, one doesn't have to walk across a floor in muddy boots, one can remove the boots

One can't use a sink for ots purpose without getting it wet. And it's very likely to get wet in indirect places too.

And again, getting a sink wet doesn't dirty it

But all this is crazy BS of the highest order.

I think we need to stop indulging this poster.

but then nothing excuses provocation either

This was not provocation.

Not to anyone sane and reasonable.

Her mother is not sane or reasonable, and I'll leave you to draw conclusions re. a person who believes the mother is sane or reasonable.

When you are alone in your opinions ...... You need to wonder why. It's probably not because you are superior to everyone else.

You feel sorry for all the posters who disagree with you, what do you think we feel for you.

How is washing your hands in a sink provocation?

I think at this point we need to stop engaging with this bat shittery.

Op, there's always at least one "interesting" poster on here.

Look at the majority of posters comments for perspective.

Perhaps I should explain why I choose to hold judgement until I know both sides. If all you who oppose me had any training, you would better understand why I insist on knowing two sides of an argument.

A DD complained that her DM was suffering from dementia and was becoming violent. She wanted her put into a residential home. The mother was poor enough to be entitled to a free place, and she lived in a council flat.

One day, a carer also backed the daughter's claim as she too had witnessed some loss of temper. In the event, the elderly woman when undressed was found to be covered in bruises, and not just any bruises either. They were whole hand prints, palms and fingers. It was truly shocking.

Dementia is said to be increasing. It is not unknown for some sufferers to be so glad to be away from abuse they take to dementia as a defence.

Now I am not saying there is anything like that going on here, but too many of you are making assumptions, and taking sides. What is a kitchen sink drama one day may be worse on another.

The OP may be innocent. No one knows though, do they? Now she has all the backing of many posters on this thread, which may or may not allow her leverage on another future occasion.

Please, be wary of whose side you take.

You should be surprised.

All this argument because I advised looking at both sides.

Violence is wrong. Losing tempers is not necessary. You have to be certain that any act of violence is unprovoked before you condemn people.

We have a good justice system in Britain. If a crime has been committed those involved are brought to court. They are tried, given an opportunity to tell their story, even if it might be clear they are guilty.

What sort of world is it where now, people online can judge one another so easily?

How far away from you was she when she threw the item and what part of your hand is injured?

@llizzie attached is a post from you on another thread….

Why should you be believed above any other poster?

It’s in the OPs posts, you’ve already commented on it looking like a burn, so you know where it is.