Possible final straw with DH

[BestMumAva]

I have name changed for this because I'm so embarrassed.

My DH went out with the lads last night, i don't know what time he got in as I was already asleep. This morning my alarm went off for work and I noticed the room smelt absolutely foul. I couldn't work out where it was coming from at first and thought the dog had messed in the house. I pulled the covers back and to my absolute horror, DH had fallen asleep next to me with no pants on and the bed was filled with what I can only describe as fecal confetti. I was absolutely repulsed and really really upset that he had got himself into such a state that this could happen.
As if things couldn't get any worse, the bathroom looked like it had been pebble-dashed - up the walls, over the edge of the bath, on the towels. I'm disgusted by him.
I didnt clean it up and he was still comatose when i left for work. He has texted me around midday wishing me a good day at work as if nothing has happened.
I don't want to go home and i don't even know where to begin discussing this with him,
WIBU to stay at a friend's tonight?

I really don't think the OP was trying to make this into a funny tale to be laughed at.. It was not "story" telling for a laugh.. And by the way you don't need to quote the whole OP, we know who you are replying to.

Clearly she was just joking

Unbelievable indeed...

I’m so sorry. Have a time to reevaluate options while you’re with parents. I think dick head husband needs to go live with his Mammy

The shitting I could possibly get over if it wasn’t every time he went out but the old woman prozzie thing? He’d never see me or my children again.

Ugh, my stomach churned just reading about his 'accident' - leave him to his mum, who clearly thinks he's a wonderful human being, and doesn't baulk at the idea of cleaning up her adult son's faeces.

As for the elderly escort - I'm surprised there's a market for elderly lady porn, but it takes all sorts, there are some weird fetishes about.

LTB.

Humour bypass alert!
When some idiot has cut me up on the roads I often fantasise about seeing their car upside down in a ditch a couple of miles further on and me driving by laughing. Would I do that? I don't know, I've never been in that position.

Please do tell his mum op. She needs to know about her precious boy

Yes, because otherwise the divorce and the issues around visitation with his DD are going to come as a horrible shock to her and she will just blame the OP. Better to have a complete understanding of the context, despite the shame.

It's time to line up those ducks, get a solicitor and divorce the dirty cheat. Honestly, your life will be so much better without him.

And you're allowed to be furious.

@BestMumAva .
Thats all the decision making been done for you then.
I wouldnt waste my time on his mum. She clearly merits the disrespect he demonstrates. - (Imagine TELLING your Ma?/far less get her clean up.!)
I think you do the right thing going to parents. The damage is done- got to process it now.Be gentle with yourself.

Only way from here is up.x

The update about the BJ is truly disgusting 🤢 , good on the friends wife for telling you . Is it possible to wfh in your job or do you get paid sick leave as it’s probably better to get signed off with stress rather than lie .

Couldn't make it up could you?!

I'm more shocked at a woman in her 80s on an escort site 😳

OP, reading that he got his mum to clean it up has really sickened me. I would leave him for that alone.

But on your updates: he's put your health at risk and lied to you. That's more than enough reason to terminate this relationship.

If his mum rings you up to beg you, tell her the truth about the sex worker.

Got to make up for losing their winter fuel allowance somehow. And it would seem there’s a market for it.

Well now we know where he gets his entitlement from! What a silly cow.

If one of my adult ds's called to ask me to come round and clean up their shit I'd think they'd had a brain injury.

Fucking hell just read your update.

Well, there's really no going back from this is there?

And the fact he's told all his mates and their gf's as though it's something funny or to be proud of 🤮

Do you think it's a poo troll? If so report.

Sadly I've been on here so long nothing surprises me about the gross behaviour of men.

Look at Wayne Rooney - a young man with a lovely wife and was getting blow jobs from octogenarians!

I am so sorry you are going through this. It’s beyond shocking and disgusting. I have no advice but to say put yourself first and document earthing while it’s fresh in your head. I wouldn’t hide the fact that he’s in the wrong (without going into detail obviously with those you are not close to). As for his lovely mother ignore the silly cow and put yourself first. Have you any children with him?

As disgusting as Wayne Rooney is, I think he drew the line at shitting the bed. Even he had limits.

Yep!!!

It’s going to be a tough time for you now OP but it’s is so good you now know his true colours. You’ll get through this and come out the other side stronger. Look after yourself.

What a turd.

Oh you sweet innocent summer child!

She said - with grandparents this week.

Honestly, posters who think they've "gotcha" without reading OP updates are just ...