Was I so rude???

[Mulberrypie]

I am a new mum so looking for your opinion on what happened to me the other day. I am a single mum of a 4 month old baby who doesn't sleep much. Don't get much help, which is fine and when my baby sleeps I can get some mental brake. Was waiting at the till in Home Bargins and there were 2 ladies extremely loud, laughing and jumping flirting with the cashier, who was giving them bags for free... My wee one just managed to fall asleep so I thought it will be ok to ask for them to keep it the noise down. What a backlash I have received... both ladies shouting at me that I am soooo rude, joined by the cashier. I explained that I only asked politely and there is no need to get upset but was told not to take my child onto the shop... I get that, I wouldn't if I had another option. I left and was crying all the way back home. I think due to being exhausted and also the fact that I asked 2 mature ladies hoping they would understand... Maybe I was in wrong? This really bugs me... What would u do?

Well they only shit all over the manicured lawn anyway! So why wouldn’t they!

I sort of wish you hadn’t told me about the alioli, I’m duty bound to try an entire tub now!

I certainly wouldn't ask someone to keep the noise down for fear of getting a mouthful. Too many people care about themselves these days.

I shop at quiet times and do the food shop in Waitrose where it's quite rare to see screaming children running up and down the aisles.

Have a rethink on where and when you do your shopping.

The women would only have been at the till for a matter of minutes and having a bit of banter with the cashier which is perfectly normal where I live.

I think all this is a mountain out of a mole hill and the situation probably felt worse than it was because the op is so tired.

As someone who now has a toddler I remember the irrational anger at people being noisy when my baby was asleep as he was such a light sleeper. As long as you asked politely any empathetic person should have quietened down for you and been kind.

i wonder what’s going on in your Waitrose? Do they drug their children I wonder?
I shop in Waitrose a lot as it’s the nearest shop and it’s full of screeching, running children and loud people on mobiles.

You can't ask people to be quiet. Unless you are in a library. What was you thinking?

Everything feels worse when you're sleep deprived so I completely get it. But you can't expect people to be quiet in public and shops across the board are quite noisy anyway. Take out human chatter, you've still got bleeps from the tills and card readers, trolley wheels, those metal cage things the staff use for filling shelves, the bump-bump-bump of bulky items like soap powder being dragged across the tills etc. Shops aren't a haven of peace. Having said that, my local Waterstones isn't bad. Even when there are a few people in the queue it's fairly quiet and there's a chair in the corner. If it's not already occupied, I use it to get my head together while I contemplate a treat for me or DH. They have a beautiful children's section too.

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Sorry you had to go through this op I too am a first time mum of a 4month old so I know how difficult it can be to get a little one to sleep. However you can’t really ask others to be quiet when out in public, you can report the staff member for shouting back at you though! I hope you do so if you haven’t yet.

What's so hilarious about that poster's suggestion?

If you were polite they were unreasonable not you. Being a new mum is so hard. You can get some right rough old, hard bitten ratbags in home bargains. Ignore and don’t waste another thought on them.

Clearly you’re not used to such horrible things in Waitrose or Booths where you shop and everyone looks after children for people 😂

If this is your idea of fun I dread to think what your nights out consist of 😂

Flirting and shouting in home bargains is not my idea of having fun !

I think people should be more considerate OP and I hate how loud and attention seeking people are these days.

I am finding it instructive that so many folks think that just because I prefer to be in a nice environment, don’t want to be surrounded by noisy individuals, that I somehow must be strange. I don’t expect staff in A&E Depts to have to put up with bad behaviour as well, am saddened that so many shops have signs asking customers not to be abusive, and cannot believe just how many children are excluded from schools, but this seems to be the norm for many who perhaps never give this sort of thing a passing thought? That’s fine, I can happily zone out of being somewhere I might feel disappointed by, there’s lots of choices. I would add that there’s nothing wrong with places like HB and their staff, and yes, the uncouth, uncaring types, more interested in their own gratification one way or another do seem to be in the majority and in all sorts of places but it’s not a crime not to want to join in. You pick your times to shop, you pick your shops, (and other public environments)and you hope not to be part of some bun fight where the loudest, most awful are arguing the toss with security guards or police. There’s little respect for anything or others sometimes, but it doesn’t mean you have to join in. Each to there own, my world is a nice one.

Love this response

I could understand the asking to keep it down if the ladies were being lively on a table next to you in a restaurant or maybe on a long coach trip with the baby where you are in close proximity for a long time.
Not having a bit of a joke at the checkout when the cashier is being friendly to them but needs to get her next customer served so won't be hanging about.
This interaction is a couple of minutes at most.

Meh

Word salad

You don't have to be in Home Bargains to experience the low lifes. There's always plenty of em on here <boom boom>

What’s hilarious about this is, it’s almost as if this poster is saying only naice people with naice children (without dummies on clips, I assume) shop
in Waitrose. None of whom would be noisy.

It’s a ridiculous and funny post.

If you'd asked me (not that I'd have been that loud anyway!), I might have inwardly eyerolled but would have been polite and cooperated with you.
There has to be a bit of give and take in society.
Hope you're ok now and that the sleep situation improves

I don't think you were rude (depending how you said it) but I do think you were unreasonable. It's a public place, people are allowed to talk and laugh.

Two of my four had dummies, I wish I'd known about these clips, they kept losing theirs😭

Meant to say, their garlic mayo in the chilled is also fab, as is their chorizo.

Good job you didn’t know about these clips, you’d have been judged by some for avoiding the dummies getting lost or dirty.

I’ll try both those, both are on my like list!

You did nothing wrong. if you asked them to please keep their voices a bit lower, and they were being very noisy, you were just looking out for your sleeping baby.
Normally women are very cnsiderate of sleeping babies.
Obviously, you got the entitled ones, who thought their love life was more imortant than anything else