Was I so rude???

[Mulberrypie]

I am a new mum so looking for your opinion on what happened to me the other day. I am a single mum of a 4 month old baby who doesn't sleep much. Don't get much help, which is fine and when my baby sleeps I can get some mental brake. Was waiting at the till in Home Bargins and there were 2 ladies extremely loud, laughing and jumping flirting with the cashier, who was giving them bags for free... My wee one just managed to fall asleep so I thought it will be ok to ask for them to keep it the noise down. What a backlash I have received... both ladies shouting at me that I am soooo rude, joined by the cashier. I explained that I only asked politely and there is no need to get upset but was told not to take my child onto the shop... I get that, I wouldn't if I had another option. I left and was crying all the way back home. I think due to being exhausted and also the fact that I asked 2 mature ladies hoping they would understand... Maybe I was in wrong? This really bugs me... What would u do?

Realistically, asking people to keep the noise down in a shop is probably not going to get the best response. You don't own the shop. It isn't your place to tell customers what to do. I had a migraine today and had to go to Sainsbury's. My head was pounding and I felt sick. Would it have been ok for me to ask people in the shop to keep it down a bit? Like the kid screaming "BUT I WANT IT!!" right next to me?

100% YABU! @Mulberrypie You can't tell people how to behave, and that they can't laugh and talk and chat and giggle (and be a bit loud in a public store.) That's just daft to think you have the right!

If someone told me to STFU in a public place 'so their baby can sleep' I would laugh at them, and purposely be louder. Don't tell me to shut up! Go to a library or a Church if you want silence!

And people can just pack it in with this 'there's a certain type of person that goes in Home Bargains' shit as well... People from all walks of life go in there. Stupid fucking shitty comment!

Oh and as for 'they weren't ladies........' Actually pissing myself laughing at THAT comment. How should a laaayyydeee behave pray tell? 😂 Should we all be quiet and demure and only speak when we're spoken to?! LOL fuck off!

I feel for you, OP.
You probably shouldn't ask people to be quiet, but I also think it's just consideration and good manners not to be loud around someone who is asleep, especially a baby.

You were rude. You can't expect the world to rearrange around your baby.

YABU to police how other people behave.

The world doesn’t revolve around you and your baby unfortunately. If you want silence then stay at home where you can control it.

And Gloria Hunniford😬

God the cackling and screeching from groups of girls sometimes in coffee shops sets my teeth on edge! People treat public areas as their private spaces now! Sick of it

Wow. You should emigrate to Afghanistan. They forbid women to even whisper to each other there. They have to remain silent because only men have the right to speak. You’d love it.

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I actually have a bit of sympathy for OP as she's overtired.

Bit the absolute snotty shite I'm reading on here from some posters about demographic is far more fucking rude than she was.

Poor, common people.

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Exactly this. Fucking pathetic generalisation! I know many people who go there who are savvy, well-educated professionals with homes worth 7 figures, and tons of surplus income. They didn't become well off (and stay that way) by doing their shopping in fucking Harrods, Waitrose, and Fortnum and Mason!

Both were unreasonable. You can't dictate whether people are talking, loudly or quietly in public, and they should have given you an eye roll rather than sarky comments.
There are bigger hills to die on though and it isn't worth crying over - you won't have to see them again. I wouldn't have challenged them tbh - it looks a bit entitled even if noisy people are annoying as heck.

This .... like you just can't ask people in shops to be quiet ...its really odd.

There is no fury like you feel when you have just got your baby to sleep and then somebody wakes them up! I’m not sure I have forgiven my mother-in-law yet for when she woke my daughter up in 2004…

Just put this behind you and move on. Hopefully those women will have forgotten about it so don’t take it to heart.

I would not have dared to ask strangers to keep quiet, but it is not the end of the world.

I am sorry OP, i think you were being rude. You can't ask strangers to keep their voices down bc your baby is sleeping. They are not family or friends. They were also probably embarrassed to be told this in front of the cashier who they were flirting with. If I were you , I would have left the queue, walked round the shop and joined back again when they've left.

Yeah, you were in the wrong OP. While I have sympathy for why you felt compelled to ask them to be quiet (through the sheer exhaustion of new motherhood), imagine their shock at hearing you interject and essentially pour a bucket of cold water over their fun. I can't imagine they continued to have a laugh after that buzzkill interruption. I'm sorry you were upset on the way home, but I'm sure your words lingered with them too.
It's hard enough to find moments of levity in life. As plenty of ppl have pointed out, you had other options available to you. I don't think you chose the best one, unfortunately.

If someone told me to STFU in a public place 'so their baby can sleep' I would laugh at them, and purposely be louder. Don't tell me to shut up!

Would you have done that to a tired mum with an exhausted demeanour and a little baby? I would not do what the OP did, but I would not behave so nastily in return to a shattered new mum. You sound a little aggressive in manner.

Ah OK that's me then. I have tattoos

I wouldn’t be offended if someone mentioned their sleeping baby. But I wouldn’t squeal and shout in a shop, it’s so odd and just generally shows a lack of consideration.

Hope you start to get more sleep soon.

Wow. Aren't you delightful?!

Some men are loud too. Tbf.