Was I so rude???

[Mulberrypie]

I am a new mum so looking for your opinion on what happened to me the other day. I am a single mum of a 4 month old baby who doesn't sleep much. Don't get much help, which is fine and when my baby sleeps I can get some mental brake. Was waiting at the till in Home Bargins and there were 2 ladies extremely loud, laughing and jumping flirting with the cashier, who was giving them bags for free... My wee one just managed to fall asleep so I thought it will be ok to ask for them to keep it the noise down. What a backlash I have received... both ladies shouting at me that I am soooo rude, joined by the cashier. I explained that I only asked politely and there is no need to get upset but was told not to take my child onto the shop... I get that, I wouldn't if I had another option. I left and was crying all the way back home. I think due to being exhausted and also the fact that I asked 2 mature ladies hoping they would understand... Maybe I was in wrong? This really bugs me... What would u do?

I think you meant frightful

If people in your area speak like that to one another then you're obviously living in an especially undesirable area.
I find it particularly funny that you think being called "mate" is as bad as someone calling you a "c*"! Haha.
Also - all other insults aside - what has someone's social demographic got to do with empathy?
You're bonkers you are, mate.

Stupid comment.

Demographic? What a ridiculous notion that only a certain ‘demographic’ shop in home bargains. They literally sell things that everyone needs just sometimes a bit cheaper. So your ‘demographic’ are buying the same stuff but a more expensive and think you are better? Seems pretty stupid to me but ok! Please do confirm which shops you deem acceptable though so that I can avoid them and not have to deal with people like you looking down their noses at everyone.

I'm sorry they weren't more understanding. Hugs

I really feel for you because it's so hard when you have a young baby that doesn't sleep.

But it is unreasonable to ask people to be quiet in a public place, even though it does sound like they were being annoying!

This. Why should women have to be quiet? It's a public place, they can be loud if they want to. It's not Kabul (thank god)
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I’m a raging snob and I love a bit of home bargains.

was in B&M today too 😂

This. ^ As I said, if you want silence, go to a library, or a Church, or for a walk in the countryside or something! I'm not being quiet for YOU. Even if I am a layydeee! 😂

Ewwwwwww, you must be super common and SO POOR! 😂

You'll be telling us you've been in Poundland and Poundstretcher next! 😬

Were all the women in pyjamas?

Chavs. Sorry, but chavs is what that poster means, isn't it obvious?

🤣🤣🤣

Not me, I have standards 😂

I’m a regular Home Bargains shopper and am probably considering a “Loony lefty 2-tier Keir lover” by the Tommy Robinson lot.

Can we all stop with the blatant classism about Home Bargains?

He was probably drunk and mistook it for Home Bargans to be fair.

I refuse to believe a customer of M&S would act in such a loutish manner.

The bar for behaviour in public in the UK is incredibly low, OP, as you’ve discovered not just from your encounter but from the posters here.

How I wish we were more like Japan where talking loudly in public is really frowned upon.

But here, unless something actually has a law created about it, anything goes. So many people don’t know how to behave unless they are told by the state.

I hope you managed to get some sleep this afternoon!

So lads

How do we stand on the Lidl shoppers?

What strange behaviour if I'm out with my very loud very hyperactive 4 years old and see a sleeping baby we make sure he doesn't wake them nothing worse than a baby who's just dropped off being woken

You didn't do anything wrong - at times people are really noisy and just don't realise.
Was on a train once and I asked someone to stop making a loud beeping noise next to me. (Was both annoying and over loud noises affect me due to a chronic condition I suffer from). Boy did I get aggro until she and her friends got off the train.
Big hugs

I put in my monocle and give them a hard stare.

Want quiet go to a library.

First thing I noticed when I moved back to Britain was how rude a lot of people had become. Manners seemed to have gone out the window.
Any reasonable person would have just talked at a normal volume.

If two adults are allowed to be loud and jumpy and the tills then two children are allowed to be loud and jumpy at the tills.

If two adults are allowed to be loud and shrieky in a restaurant then two children are allowed to be loud and shrieky in a restaurant.

I’m 100% right 😊

It’s hard when you’re exhausted and your baby won’t sleep, my 20 month old still isn’t the best sleeper but those early months especially are so so hard. This comes from a place of respect and understanding from another mum. Unfortunately our babies aren’t of interest to anyone else out in public and it’s not their issue. Unless its somewhere you would expect baby sleep to be a priority which really will only be in your own home then other people can and should be free to act however they want even if it’s annoying. One day your baby will be screaming or running around a public place and someone will think it’s not appropriate and you will be oblivious it’s an issue cos they are just being a child.