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Was I body shamed at Mcdonalds

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L9ucy · 04/02/2025 21:12

Went to Mcdonalds drive through as a treat, my DD wanted to pay, so handed the 5 pound note from the back seat. The man working on the drive through thought it was funny and said ''it's a good job I'm slim'' I have no idea what being slim had to do with it, he could reach but not because he was slim.. feel it was a dig at me

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ChessorBuckaroo · 04/02/2025 22:06

Kibble29 · 04/02/2025 21:55

McParanoid.

You've reminded me. Years ago my brother's friend Aaron went into a McDs and straight faced asked "Excuse me, where are the McToilets?"

YeGodsandLittleFishies · 04/02/2025 22:07

People working the window at McDonalds are generally trying to get customers through as efficiently as possible.

He made the comment not to highlight your weight but to highlight the fact that leaning forward to take the money from your child makes his job more difficult.

If you do it another time and your child drops the money it could seriously hold up their line.

He doesn’t care in the least about your weight, he cares that you were inconsiderate.

ClaredeBear · 04/02/2025 22:08

Bet he says that every time he has to stretch. It's not the most exciting job so he's making an efffort.

Rachmorr57 · 04/02/2025 22:09

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Sugarnspicenallthingsnaice · 04/02/2025 22:12

Idontjetwashthefucker · 04/02/2025 21:54

Unnecessary, it won't do any harm once in a while

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One meal won't do any harm, no.

But the deprivation/reward thinking behind it does. Conditioning kids to think that a tough day/a good day/being sad/celebrating = I should comfort and/or treat myself with fatty or sugary processed food? That's a huge factor in obesity and ill health.

PurpleTinsel555 · 04/02/2025 22:13

sigh.

Trumptonagain · 04/02/2025 22:16

Weight wasn't bought into it...

The man working on the drive through thought it was funny and said ''it's a good job I'm slim''

Had he of said "good job I only weight 7 stone and can stand on this rickety old stool to reach over without it breaking, unlike you by the look of it" you might just have a post to write about.

Think no more of it, he was probably to busy collecting the cash from your DD to be noticing what you think you look like.

Futurename · 04/02/2025 22:17

Sugarnspicenallthingsnaice · 04/02/2025 22:12

One meal won't do any harm, no.

But the deprivation/reward thinking behind it does. Conditioning kids to think that a tough day/a good day/being sad/celebrating = I should comfort and/or treat myself with fatty or sugary processed food? That's a huge factor in obesity and ill health.

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Bore off.

Floralnomad · 04/02/2025 22:18

Good grief it’s an assistant trying to make conversation stop being so sensitive .

Sugarnspicenallthingsnaice · 04/02/2025 22:18

Futurename · 04/02/2025 22:17

Bore off.

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Did I hit a nerve?

Futurename · 04/02/2025 22:19

Sugarnspicenallthingsnaice · 04/02/2025 22:18

Did I hit a nerve?

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My last one, yes.

Myheadhurtsagain · 04/02/2025 22:20

What a snowflake you're being OP! People lose their jobs because of snowflakes like you.

Imin · 04/02/2025 22:21

Are you ashamed of your body? If not you can't be made to feel shame. And if you are ashamed, it's hardly his problem is it? But as it goes, no, he was not trying to be unpleasant. McDonald's workers just don't have the time.

JudgeBread · 04/02/2025 22:21

Mate have you ever actually worked in a fast food place before? You were one of 300 vaguely human shaped blurs he saw that day.

You're only the main character in your own story, literally no one else gives this much of a fuck about you, especially not the minimum wage guy selling you your happy meal. Chill.

Melancholyflower · 04/02/2025 22:22

Did he say good job I'm slim, whilst looking pointedly at you, or add on 'unlike your mum'?
If neither of these things happened, then no.

Eenameenadeeka · 04/02/2025 22:22

I'm sure it wasn't anything to do with your size.

brunettemic · 04/02/2025 22:24

Some people really go out of their way to be offended don’t they OP…?

WilmaTitsDrop · 04/02/2025 22:25

Serenandnova · 04/02/2025 21:53

Omg, I doubt it but if Macdonald's is seen as a treat you're not exactly teaching your child about good food, it's an emergency not a treat

You're trying to project your unhealthy relationship with food onto the OP.

Not good.

ManchesterPie · 04/02/2025 22:29

Wow. The world doesn't revolve around you. It was a comment he made about himself and had NOTHING to do with you.

WilmaTitsDrop · 04/02/2025 22:31

I don't understand how he could see from leaning out of his little window and looking at you sat in your car, that you're a stone overweight?

Unless you were draped across the bonnet eyeing up his McNuggets?

Turkeypie · 04/02/2025 22:34

I fear for anyone in the service industry trying to interact or humour without it being over analysed and claiming is discriminatory.

FrauPaige · 04/02/2025 22:37

Sugarnspicenallthingsnaice · 04/02/2025 22:12

One meal won't do any harm, no.

But the deprivation/reward thinking behind it does. Conditioning kids to think that a tough day/a good day/being sad/celebrating = I should comfort and/or treat myself with fatty or sugary processed food? That's a huge factor in obesity and ill health.

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This is correct - we have to address the normalisation of comfort/emotional eating which affects women far more than men and contributes to the rise in diabetes, obesity, heart disease, etc.

But this is borderline irrelevant for this thread, no?

Badbacklife · 04/02/2025 22:38

It’s not about you, he’s making a joke about stretching out of the small drive through windows

Dustyblue · 04/02/2025 22:39

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It's morning here and this has 1) made me snort coffee and 2) brightened my day. Thank you.

WonderingWanda · 04/02/2025 22:40

Op you are being way beyond over sensitive here. He was just making light of the fact he would need to lean over. In fact what he probably should've said to be more accurate is "Good job I've got long arms" if he's said that would you be feeling angst that he shamed your arm length.

Also you might feel you are a stone over the weight you want to be but in reality that doesn't really put you in the fat bracket (unless the weight you want to be is 20 stone) I'm a stone over weight and I don't think anyone else even views me that way. I know I'm not fat compared to many people but I just feel fat for me. I doubt you are even fat and you are just feeling very sensitive about it.