What do you have no bandwidth for

[ToxicFrenemy]

Having caught up with women's hour from the other day there was a chat about what fo you no longer have the bandwidth for. What are you now no longer doing, to keep yourself sane! Eg not making everyone's beds or picking up socks whatever

Anyway as it was an old one now, I couldn't text in but found that really interesting so wanted to ask "what do you no longer have the bandwidth for..."

I'll go first!!!! 2022 dh and I gave far too much of ourselves to friends who were going through a hard time, they seperated and it was awful They both needed alot of emotional support it was constant. We were supporting on both camps. Our marriage suffered with the emotional strain. And I get divorce is HARD but it nearly brought us to divorce and so we now no longer have the bandwidth to overly emotionally support others in that way outwith our marriage

Aibu? Or what's your own bandwidth boundaries

An intimate relationship.

I'm 61, have a ds(16) and a full time job.

My standard week is
Weekdays - up at 6.45, shower, dress, get ds up, make breakfast, leave at 7.30.
Start work at 8am, leave at 5pm, collect ds from bus, go home, relax for an hour. cook supper, tidy up, maybe do a bit of ironing or clean the bathroom. Eat with ds, be interested in ds' homework. load the dish washer. Watch tv for an hour, go to bed.

Saturday - ParkRun, shower, food shop, breakfast with ds. Washing, shopping, lunch, spend time with ds, haircuts, maybe coffee with a friend. Cook supper, eat with ds, maybe plat chess or scrabble, or tidy up, sleep.
Sunday - Batch cook, clean car, tidy the garden or go biking with ds then a shared fitness class. Cook, eat , make sure we are ready for the new week. Sleep

How does anyone find time for a partner?

Listening to my mum moan shout my dad! They’ve been married 55 years, he’s always been the same, you’ve accepted it all this time. Why do you think he will change now?

The expression "to (not) have bandwidth for".

Most things… being unable to open a jar, for enamels.

Other people's opinions of me.

OP are you Scottish?

People saying ‘bandwidth’ when they mean ‘time’.

Self service check outs for a big shop. They do my head in. I just queue for the proper check outs now.

Totally this! Always ends up taking me longer because the scanner whinges at so many things, plus waiting for an assistant... ugh.

Haha no! I'm actually from the North East! Why

Thank you!

Miserable bastards who have no joy in life, and no interest in finding it. Those sorts who just complain about everything, from special occasions to the weather. It's grating and so bloody dull. There's a woman in my village like this, and my God. She could talk the hind leg off a donkey with her whinging. Can't imagine going through life being so whiny!

Fun sponges, basically.

’Bandwidth’ and Woman's Hour!

I thought only Scottish people said 'outwith' - seems not!

It's really not the same thing.

Supermarkets, i just get it delivered

People being pedantic about the word bandwidth

It’s not really time, it’s the emotional energy.

Turning peoples sleeves/socks/trouser legs the right way out before washing. If they leave it in a ball or inside out, that's how they get it back, even if it's all scrunched up and damp. And ironing.
(Laundry-based bandwidth problems this evening, clearly)

Cooking

The dcs have left home and I rarely cook a meal now. Me and dh fix up our own food and it's bliss not having to worry about cooking at the end of the day. Plus I've lost weight. And the kitchen stays tidy.

I never knew that! Berwick-upon-Tweed and worked with many a Scot! Must have picked it up 😄

Accepting calendar invites on my work calendar.

Making an effort with people who will not make any effort for me.

Political 'debates'. People 99% of the time just want to spout their opinions and have no interest in changing them, or hearing yours.

I spent too long in local politics. Do not recommend.

Any type of child related fuckery