DD demanding chocolate when she's on her period

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My 14 yo DD insists that all her friends parents buy them chocolates and pamper them when they are cycling -

I'm being told I'm a terrible mum and badgered for chocolates

Am I an outlier to not cater to this?

I thought craving chocolate on your period is pretty standard, so is a mother looking after her child. Even my narc mother was good to me making sure I was ok on my periods when I was a teenager.

I had to read through quite a few messages before I got to something resembling normality. I have never heard of this, my mum was lovely but we didn't do this and I do t know anyone else who does this.Surely your period is something you have to get used to dealing with for 30+ years and whilst sympathy and paracetamol maybe a hot water bottle are all standard, this OTT pander sessions are really odd and surely not sustainable longer term (and then what, they need days off work, partners to run around after them?)

Worth also remembering that teen periods can be awful. I used to faint with pain and the blood loss was huge. Things settled down a lot as I got older. It’s easy to forget what it can be like at the start.

My Dds craving is ice cream, I always make sure we have her favourite flavour in when she’s “due on” she doesn’t demand it as such but loves to be tucked up some calpol, a hot water bottle and some of her favourite chocolate ice cream usually days 2&3 on her cycle are particularly bad
I had a hysterectomy for endometriosis so I’m maybe more soft when it comes to periods.

We always got some chocolate in anyway but when I had periods I could steal a bar out of a small child's hand. My DM never fussed over me (but expected it herself) but I've always fussed over my DSD. It's just makes it a little easier.

What she's communicating is that she doesn't feel cared for.

Tbh, the least I'd do is make sure my daughter had some chocolate in the house to help herself to of that's what she wants.

Wouldn't you like it if DH did that for you?

Do you mean when op was 14? Because it's a ridiculous point otherwise.

Bloody hell op give the poor kid a chocolate bar

I was literally telling DH the other day that when dd is older im going to make her period boxes with chocolate and pads and tampons and stuff. Sounds daft but my mum kind of ignored my period or would buy me one pack of pads for a whole cycle so im determined for her to not go to the lengths I had to to keep clean (wads of toilet roll were my best friend until I earned my own money!)

As for the soldier example, I suspect that women on the front line have the contraceptive implant or injection to avoid having periods at all. So not really relevant.

Unless diabetic tendencies or someone is obese, I'd expect some chocolate to be in the house somewhere. Plus it's early feb and I still have some bought over Christmas. Partly because we don't overdo it and can eat a choc or 2 a day so
it lasts till Easter.

When I'm on my period, my husband gets me paracetamol, a hot water bottle, chocolate and extra cups of herbal tea. And a glass of wine in the evening.

When my SD has her period I always ask her if there's anything I can get her whilst I'm at the shops, try and make an effort to make her favourite foods for dinner and if she shuts herself up in her room I check in regularly to see how she's feeling and offer painkillers/ drinks.

Why would you not be sympathetic and try to make her comfortable?

“Sugar cravings before a period are often caused by hormonal changes, which can lead to blood sugar fluctuations. “

Loads of us have sugar cravings especially before coming on, the time it took you to write this post it’s longer than a quicker Google search

Dark chocolate contains powerful antioxidants. Among the most beneficial is a flavonol called epicatechin. Flavonols are compounds found in plants that fight inflammation

I also find a square of dark chocolate relieves migraines.

Crusts?

I'm far from ''baby'' mode as DS is grown, but I too thought ''pampers''...surely the periods aren't that heavy?
I always associate ''Pamper'' with disposable nappies though.

Mine gets chocolate, crisps and sympathy and she returns the favour for me. Why not?

Just buy her some chocolate, periods are miserable enough

My Mum was always awful to me about periods- only ever bought me one pack of sanitary products and refused to even talk about buying more, and certainly wouldn't have ever offered the mildest bit of sympathy. It certainly didn't do much for our relationship. You don't need to pamper, but there is absolutely nothing wrong with a bit of chocolate, hot water bottle and a bit of empathy.

Oh, and military rations absolutely involve chocolate, so we don't need to worry about our girls...

Sugar cravings are well known at the time of the month...just get your daughter some chocolate.

I'm surprised that pampering DDs is a 'thing' at that time of the month.
It comes over as some ritual that some mums invented.

Never happened in my day and didn't when my DD started hers.

As a family we rarely ever had sweets or chocs in the house anyway.

Mine would offer me a hot water bottle!

At 14 doesn't she have allowance/ pocket money to buy things she needs / wants?

My 14 year old gets £10 a week that evaporates I'm sure! She has the freedom to buy chocolate if she wants chocolate? I don't get why you're being so controlling.

Yes totally spoil my daughter during her period. There will comeca time whdn I won't be here to do it and I want tobas long as I can.
Electric blanket.
Endless tea.
Dinner on a tray.
Cinnamon buns.
Favourite crisps.
Marshmallows.

Glad to be able to do it for her.

A bar of chocolate OK, pampering... Not on your nelly 😂

Of course it's normal to need comfort and lots of chocolate when you have your period!

It's also common to feel in need of extra love and support when feeling emotional.