DD demanding chocolate when she's on her period

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My 14 yo DD insists that all her friends parents buy them chocolates and pamper them when they are cycling -

I'm being told I'm a terrible mum and badgered for chocolates

Am I an outlier to not cater to this?

And yeah I do pamper my dd a bit when she is on run a bath and tidy her room up to make it nice, cook her her face dinner mainly cos it's nice to be nice and we suffer really shit period is in our family. I think we treat our kids how we want others to treat them and how we want them to treat others

She's got another thread running complaining that she doesn't want to spend a couple of quid in Aldi on makeup remover for her. 🙃 Facewash only apparently! Can't push the boat out!

Oh ok. Not my style of parenting.

Me neither. I'd rather go without something than see the DC miss out. I'm not a martyr and they're not spoiled by any means, but if there's something they want that I can give them and there's no reason they shouldn't have it...I don't see why they can't.

Erm last time I checked there was a crisis in this country with fatties. Why encourage chocolate as a go too. I eat way too much chocolate to feel better it doesnt work you just feel shit after and fed up.

Also periods are annoying and everything else that goes with it. Butttttt got to get on with it. Send girls to school because when they have full time jobs they cant take a week off every month.

I don't like to see my kids go with out. But I would rather buy them good skin care products and nice clothes than chocolate / sweets / pop

What a silly post. I'm a size 6 and always have been. I eat chocolate probably once a month as that's the only time I have a sweet tooth. I also have a PhD and work in an extremely professional career. Treats and love from family once a month when you're feeling shit aren't going to hinder that.

My DC also don't really have sweet tooths. They also don't care about clothes or skincare. But if they've done well or feel shit, too right they're getting the chocolate. I teach balance. Worked damn well for me.

I'm sorry BC didn't work for you, it really was a life changer for me. Wfh and a hot water bottle, also lots of choc lol 😆 xxx

I'm glad it was a game changer for you, though! I've heard amazing things and I'm jealous. 😁 And hey - even Remus Lupin said chocolate was good, so I'm taking it as fact haha! 🤣 xxx

Oooo bloody hell size 6, PHD and treats once a month. This is why mumsnet is ace. Its so extreme 😂

Again, you're being silly. I'm pointing out to you that eating chocolate and being looked after when you're on a period does not equate to obesity and an inability to work and study.

Are you okay?

Have YOU not had this craving?! I always get my daughter a choccy treat on her period. I have the same. We live a healthy lifestyle. Life is about comfort sometimes! Buy her some frikkin chocolate

I have chocolate when I'm not on my period 😳

Only read the first page but the consensus seems to be 'buy chocolate'!

I agree in principle. But it depends if your DD has problems with her periods. Some do and I would buy anything that made them more comfortable. My DD (16) has no major issues (obviously no-one loves being on) so if she used it as an excuse to demand chocolate I'd just laugh.

We don't usually have chocolate bars in the house unless it's just after Christmas or Easter, but do have biscuits and chocolate biscuits, and probably chocolate sponge puddings. Plus hot chocolate. So I wouldn't do extra......

Wow, that's lovely. My DH gets cross that things aren't done around the house. I do have PCOS and struggle massively though. There is no understanding from my house of boys/ men.

@MyNDfamily ah, so you are the "appliance" ie when you "break down" and don't perform your usual duties it is an inconvenience. Totally shit realisation.

There are lots of Period Simulator videos of men who can't handle the pain for a couple of minutes never mind days, nights, and going to work and expected to function. You could show your family these for fun, find the best ones where there is also a woman on her period and attached to the same machine at the same level and the man is not coping. It might help your sons to understand. Maybe ask your Dh if you can kick him repeatedly in the balls whilst expecting him to continue functioning.

You really do have my sympathies.

I'm so sorry. That must be absolutely miserable for you. I'd be telling the whinging sod to get on with it himself while you have a bath and some chocolate. You deserve far, far better than this.

Oh the medicinal values of chocolate and wine can never be underestimated! Xx

Oh, I have to show dh this, please post the link!! 😂

Surely a teenager has pocket money and can buy her own chocolate? Poor mum - who 'pampers' her when she is on her period?!

A decent DH/DP with an ounce of empathy.

I demand chocolate from my husband when I’m on! There’s got to be some consolation prize, right?

FFS. Maybe you have never had the choc/sweet cravings but your daughter obviously does. She's not a baby for gawd sake, she's a young woman by nature (though still a child really) dealing with her shitty periods. Some women struggle more than others or have different symptoms/cravings. Either give her the money to buy it or keep a special supply in the house for her when she needs it. Chocolate is not drugs FFS. A bit of female empathy needed here. If my mum had done.that to me when I was 14 I'd hate her forever! Lighten up.

I don't remember any special chocolate or pampering from my parents, but we did tend to have some sort of treats in the house most of the time, so I wasn't exactly deprived. I think it's odd to expect to be pampered, unless you're actually ill. Obviously provide access to ways to alleviate the pain, if she's uncomfortable, but I wouldn't be lectured to about a lack of pampering. Similarly, a polite request for chocolate is fine, but not a demand.

I don’t feel shit after eating chocolate. I love chocolate but preferably Belgian or Swiss.