Wish I said something at the time

[Shannon9955]

Today we went to smyths toy shop with my little girl who is 2, we went to buy her a treat since she's been potty trained and nappy free now for a week. She was so excited, roaming around each aisle to see what she wanted. She had picked what she wanted and we just carried on looking, she saw a little girl run past her, this little girl was miles in front of her parents and my little girl would make friends with a brick wall, she is so social. My little girl thinks this girl is racing, so she instantly runs with her, I of course run after my little girl and the parents have obviously caught up and with their child. When I turn the corner my daughter has run round, the girl she chased was pushing her saying "get away girl, go away now" I heard the parents saying their child's name and stop it before I turned round the corner.

But I was a bit taken a back, it was a silly innocent thing. But in that moment I just thought what a nasty child. My daughter was being harmless. I just grabbed her hand and said come on let's go now and pay for your toy. But it's really bothered me all day and I wish I'd of said something because I feel so bad my daughter has just been plodding along and then randomly gets pushed and told to get away. The parents didn't even say sorry. If my child did that I'd be so apologetic. I just feel so sad in that spilt second that she was there without me and she's getting pushed. It's really upset me

Welcome to the world of children.
Wait till she starts primary/nursery

My 2 year old has on occasion pushed another child and told them to go away. She’s not nasty, she’s 2 and we tell her not to push or shout but children aren’t born able to control their behaviour. I wouldn’t have done anything different to what the other parents did.

I take you're a first time mum with an angel child. Not trying to be horrible but you're over reacting, you can't wrap her in bubble wrap, a small insignificant thing happened, a simple oh dear, let's go and pay was just fine, it didn't have to be a big life lesson for the other child. She's a child, they do things that aren't right sometimes because they don't understand.
but they will in time. To feel upset that you didn't get an apology for a toddler being a toddler is slightly odd.

This is a non event and you have been overthinking it for ages. No one is at fault it's kids being kids. There will be far worse than this to come. Try not to let inconsequential events take up your brain.

How are people calling YOU a weirdo?? I would’ve said something myself lol. Children shouldn’t be physical with each other. Your child is being a normal kid trying to make friends. It’s fine the other kid didn’t want to play, but it’s definitely not fine to push and you have every right to be upset. That being said, I feel like you are similar to me and you’re more upset you can’t protect your child from such horrible things. You can’t and it’s one of the not so nice parts of being a parent. But you have a right to feel how you do. We’re humans with emotions and it’s not wrong to have them.

I don't think that's what anyone's saying

It is a fact of life that everyone is going to have incidents where other people aren't that nice to you. Including children. We can't control what other people do. We can try to help our children deal with it all so they're prepared for life. However in this instance nothing suggests your child was very bothered by it. It seems to be you who was bothered by it

Ah the classic I will thank the one person who agrees with me and ignore all the others.

They are both just little kids. I'm sure they've both forgotten all about it. It's hard when this sort of things happens to your child but I don't think it was malicious. Try not to dwell on it.

@Hunnybunny235 exactly that! Thank you, I couldn't have put it better myself

To play devils advocate here, you said you had just come round the corner when the other parents was telling their child off, how do you know your daughter didn't push their child first? You don't. You only say the end of the interaction. You're assuming your child was wronged, perhaps they weren't.

Yes you do have to teach your dd how to behave when around others and that includes not just assuming she can play and not get too close or run with them if they don’t want her to. You say she doesn’t fully understand boundaries because she’s two, well neither does the other child. This is how they learn, they make mistakes and we teach them. Her parents told her off as she did something wrong. Did you tell your dd off for running away from you and getting in the way of the other child when she got told to go away as the other child didn’t want to play?

But you expect the other toddler to understand boundaries? Why does the other child have to put up with being scared by your DD? You can't have it both ways.

Oh yeah for sure, my little girl wasn't phased. She just wanted to open her doctors kit and be on her merry way. I've just had the thought in my head now I've sat down for the evening and just thought about it briefly and thought wish I said something, should I of said something

If you say you already tell her not everyone wants to be friends then there is no issue? She can still be herself?

Reins or holding hands to stop child running off is one idea or if they still go in a pushchair put them in that if you are genuinely looking for suggestions of 'controlling' a 2 year old and don't think your child is capable of not running after others?

No because the parents told her to stop it

But again said what?

One piece of advise, read the let them theory it will change your perspective about a lot of things and teach you how to let go of negativity. Next, I know how isolating motherhood is but don’t look for opinions of people online. They’re more likely to just judge you more than be kind.

@Overthebow I didn't tell her off no, I simply said we can't run away. Please stay by mummy. I don't think I needed to tell her off angrily

What age was the other little girl?
What do you think you should have said?

@Tobycarvery11 why was there pushing going on? What happened?

That child is still young themselves and still learning. Have grace

Yes.
You will have to explain your child about boundaries.

I would say about 4/5 years old

Yes you should have said something.

Sorry my child has upset yours to the piunt she feels she need to protect herself.

No in reality the other child's parents told their child No. You should have done the same to yours.

We all got a bit like this when our tiny children were first growing up and seeming older by doing things like potty training, projecting a more adult response and expectations onto very young children. It's only obvious in hindsight though, when you have an older version to compare them with.

When you have a 5+ child you'll look back and realise how completely small and unformed they are at age 2. The parents might have talked to her about being nice in general after, but they were right not to escalate it or performance parent for your benefit, it would have kicked off. I doubt your DD even remembers, I hope she found a nice toy and it didn't ruin your day.