Wish I said something at the time

[Shannon9955]

Today we went to smyths toy shop with my little girl who is 2, we went to buy her a treat since she's been potty trained and nappy free now for a week. She was so excited, roaming around each aisle to see what she wanted. She had picked what she wanted and we just carried on looking, she saw a little girl run past her, this little girl was miles in front of her parents and my little girl would make friends with a brick wall, she is so social. My little girl thinks this girl is racing, so she instantly runs with her, I of course run after my little girl and the parents have obviously caught up and with their child. When I turn the corner my daughter has run round, the girl she chased was pushing her saying "get away girl, go away now" I heard the parents saying their child's name and stop it before I turned round the corner.

But I was a bit taken a back, it was a silly innocent thing. But in that moment I just thought what a nasty child. My daughter was being harmless. I just grabbed her hand and said come on let's go now and pay for your toy. But it's really bothered me all day and I wish I'd of said something because I feel so bad my daughter has just been plodding along and then randomly gets pushed and told to get away. The parents didn't even say sorry. If my child did that I'd be so apologetic. I just feel so sad in that spilt second that she was there without me and she's getting pushed. It's really upset me

What? Caring about her kid?? I'm a secondary school teacher in a SEN school and her post seems perfectly reasonable to me.

It just seems to me like your kid ran off and she shouldn't have. The other kid pushed her and she shouldn't have either.

Two kids both doing something they shouldn't - you chased after your kid, the other parent told their kid to stop. It just doesn't seem like a big deal. Shit like this happens quite a lot in parenting tbh because kids are imperfect.

If you're still thinking about it now though, can I kindly suggest you stay away from any soft plays. Those places are lawless!

It's a shop not a playgroup. Keep your kid with you.
Yes it's normal for toddlers to push. Some bite and kick too.
You are being ridiculous.

Never seen such a "PFB" post before

The situation was dealt with. Get over it and move on

Still reading the thread but find it absolutely hilarious how your having a tantrum that people are "making your child out be a monster" when you did exactly that to the other child.

Your child is not special, she has no right to be running next someone or to be invading their space no matter the age or intentions. Should she have been pushed? No but the other girl was also a young child that was told off. You, however, apparently just told yours not to run off without you. No mention of staying out of people's personal space or trying to force themselves on someone (in terms of playing).

You and your child were in the wrong.

The other child was wrong for pushing but her parents actually did some parenting and told her off straight away.

This whole thread is ridiculous, as are you. You were wrong. Your child was wrong. Maybe you should learn boundaries and then you can teach your child some.

Also as an aside, I cannot stand children running around and parents thinking it cute. Is fucking annoying.

You need to get a grip. Maybe the other child did think she was being chased and regardless of that your daughter was invading the other child's space. Not everyone has to play with your kid.

Who said she was allowed to run? Maybe the parents took her hand and told her not to run off? Like you apparently did with your child.

She clearly wasn't allowed to push because she was told off instantly.

Are you mad? 😂 You're pushing the narrative of the FOUR year old being a monster because she pushed which was told off for by her parents but you're trying to push the narrative that your daughter is a perfect angel and she just wanted to play sad face 🙄..

maybe because she's 2 and that's probably how a 2 year olds mind works. Sees more than one child running and thinks it's a game

So maybe you should be a parent and teach her that not everything is a game. Not everyone wants her in their space. Not everyone wants to be chased after...sorry "raced". The little girl obviously felt uncomfortable, maybe she thought she was being chased. Maybe she was scared but no, she's a nasty monster.

Maybe the 4 year old is still just learning, they don't know how to be mature and say "no thank you, I don't want to play or want you in my space" so she reacted in a way that small children often do and her parents rightfully told her off straight away for it.

But I can see that you're not going to listen. Your daughter is a perfect angel and how dare other kids not want to play with her or let her invade their space.

I'm sure that's learned behaviour.