“I find women too difficult”

[calvermegan]

Having a conversation at work about funny house share stories. I mentioned I lived with 6 other girls during my uni years (we got on great and are still friends now).

Colleague said I’d hate that as I just find women so difficult and they always dislike me. Colleague is female and constantly says how well she gets on with men.

Aibu to think saying this is just bizarre? All men and all women are not the same. I’m not going to like or dislike you based on your gender.

Hmm. Doesnt get on with women but hey!connects with men and they like her too
Okaaaaay

I'd much rather spend time with males than females. Females in my experience tend to lie. only look after themselves and have tried to drag me down. Men say it as they see it and never hold grudges. They tend to have a better sense of humour too.

Almost all my friends are women. Probably partly because I’ve met a lot of them through feminist campaigning & lesbian groups, but I’m generally more comfortable socialising with my own sex.

Are you female?

If you are then I guess you also lie, look out for yourself and try and drag other women down?

Or are you the 1 in 4 billion that’s different from all the other women?

Oh yes she is just "not like other girls" 🙄

It's giving pick me energy.

So you are a lesbian who prefers the company of women?
Shocker

My best house shares were always with men (those men that have the power of speech obviously, this is not always a given so check first).

I've always felt more comfortable being around men. I don't have a preference for either sex though so I couldn't tell you why. It's especially weird because all the men in my life growing up were abusive.

People are weird.

Was just about to say that 😂 she's obviously so unique.

My best house shares were with women. We mostly got on really well and enjoyed spending time together.

A mixed house share was difficult because there was a lot of jealousy involved, when some of the girls fancied some of the boys, and got a bit possessive over them.

My worst house share was with two men who stereotypically never did any cleaning and pissed all over the bathroom floor. It was grim.

'They'? As in all women? Bonkers victim mentality

I was on your side until you put the many aaaa's in okay. What does that mean?

What are you talking about? I’m genuinely confused.

https://genius.com/Gillian-flynn-gone-girl-cool-girl-monologue-book-annotated

It’s just lengthening the word … so it’s spelt how you’d actually say/sound it.

Rather than a short “okay.” It’s a prolonged “okaaay”

Much has been written sbout certain sectors of the male population holding grudges against women - incels and the like

It is, but let's remember where that comes from.

Years upon years of women and girls being raised to believe that their goal in life is to be approved of by men. Or to be found attractive by men. And to see other women and girls as competition. Someone to compare themselves to negatively rather than celebrate the successes of.

Lots of women play this out in the worst way because they don't know better or can't see it, and then lots of women feel the need to avoid other women incase they're treated badly by them as a result.

It's not bizarre when you think about it but it certainly is sad, my group of female friends are each others biggest champions and I can't imagine going through life not having each others backs.

Yes.

And I find it more strange that she said this to me and another female colleague.

We also do a few things outside of work like get dinner together sometimes. And it’s usually her that asks me. So am I the only female in the world besides her who’s not difficult? 😂

I did a maths and computing degree which was a shared school with physics. Even in the 80's, there were several woman other than myself but obviously the majority of undergrads in the school were men so that set who I house shared with. I don't want to stereotype but physicists can be an odd bunch, they aren't all like Brian Cox unfortunately. I knew one that spent a summer looking at the lawn. I left him sitting on the carpet looking out of the window in July and returned in October and I swear he hadn't moved from that position.

The only time I shared with women it was godawful. Screechy and bitchy. Every flat share until I married after that was all guys and it was great. Like having constant big brothers around. Still in touch with all of them and my husband gets on great with them. Was even best man at one of their weddings.

female friends are a relatively new thing for me, only since having children.

I’ve no idea why you have such an issue with someone else’s preferences.

This is common among autistic/adhd people. It's not malicious so why be upset about it? It's an observation this person has made about themselves

Lots of women have significant internalised misogyny and this is one way it presents.

The poster above who thinks 50% of the population is ‘screechy and bitchy’ is another good example.

I'm guessing it means the poster has heard it all before. As have I.