DP hasn’t invited me

[Bigredchair]

so I know this is silly and I just want some perspective if I am being unreasonable so do tell me if I am so I can get over it and not cause an issue over it.

So DP and I met 5 years ago working at the same company, I worked there for 5 years, he has worked there about 15 years, I left 2 years ago, he still works there.

one of our former colleagues has just retired, DP is his boss and I worked with him often and we still see him occasionally outside of work.

now DP has organised a big retirement do for this colleague, he has invited all sorts of people who we used to work with, current colleagues, ex colleagues, clients etc, arranged a quiz and done a speech, food money behind the bar etc, alls sounds great. However my issue is that DP has not invited me!

we have a blended family and he has his kids this night and he has just gone and arranged this do on this night he has his kids, not invited me and just assumes I’ll be home watching the kids.

now I have no issue with having them but I just feel like he has invited everyone our colleague used to work with and not me even though I know this colleague well and worked with him myself and maybe it would have been nice if he had considered me and said to me I know you would have liked to have come but it’s the only date that works so would you mind having the kids for me as I really need to be there instead of just assuming I’ll be at home minding the kids. I still speak to other ex colleagues from the same company who have been texting me asking if I’m coming and I feel quite hurt that I wasn’t even invited.

AIBU to be a bit miffed by this?

Oh I'm out that night too...

No you’re not telling it how it is , you’re not being nice , or you wouldn’t be using the word “mug “ “OP hasn’t said he is always going out & leaving her ..
Yeah , he’s acted the arse here , I’m with Fairycakes on this one …
I’m sure it will all work out ….

Why on earth would you respond directly to a post that you can't even be bothered to read? As reading doesn't seem to be your thing, you have probably missed that 96% of posters think that OP is not being unreasonable. Telling other posters to 'calm down' is often a sign of a particularly twatty and self-satisfied poster.

I missed the word all, I didnt read it all...anyway I replied to the poster, she answered back and it's all good thank you. By the way I never care about the polls, I don't even look at them, just give my opinion, and I never said anywhere she was unreasonable if you read my posts, I was answering other posters, have a nice day x

I would be asking why hasn’t he invited you? Out of order

This!

😱 Why on earth are you not asking him, “Why am I not invited”?
I would be upset, suspicious, angry, confused, disappointed, let down, but most of all I’d be asking myself,
‘Why doesn’t my DP want me at this party’? It’s a deliberate decision by him to exclude you.
Ask him, and tell him he’s bang out of order for treating you like bloody Cinderella.

Why can’t your 16 yo babysit, even if just for a couple of hours?

No updates then?
I thought the whole point of having regular, arranged contact times for him to have his kids was so they could spend time with their non-resident parent?
not for them to be looked after by that parent's new partner while their actual parent's off at a party?
This was planned well in advance. he should've either swapped the dates of this 'contact time' with his ex, arranged the party on a different date, or made alternative childcare arrangements of some kind (which could have included paying your 16yo to babysit for a few hours).
How deeply inconsiderate and disrespectful of him.

I would see if there mother has plans so you can swap dates

That.

just tell him he is mistaken and that you are going. If he can’t find a babysitter, I suppose he will be the one staying home 🤷🏼‍♀️

They're not new, together 5 years, I
am assuming no updates is because the matter was resolved, but yea nice to hear that from OP I supose.

I would not be happy. I'd tell him I'm going to the retirement do and he needs to sort out child care. He's taking the mick thinking you will be his childcare without asking.

I see the date of the party has passed by now, but I would have arranged a sitter for his children - so let him pay for it - and go to the party. As his partner, not as the hired-help.

He should of been more considerate , tell him how you feel though so in future he thinks before just assuming and going ahead regardless.
Tell him it would of been nice to go together .

@Bigredchair - what happened, in the end ?

What was the outcome @Bigredchair ?