To ignore the letter and go anyway? Toddler day case procedure

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My toddler is due to have a small procedure done tomorrow. Only a day case but first time under GA and I'm terrified.

The letter says 2 adults only. No siblings due to lack of space. I have a 1 month old baby who's currently breastfed. Don't have any childcare anyway but if I did I couldn't leave him as he won't take a bottle..

The plan was just to send DH with toddler, but the closer it's getting to it the more anxious I am. DH is brilliant but I can't shake the feeling my toddler needs their mum after something like that. I'd go on my own with newborn but I think it'd be too much to handle, having to hold toddler whilst put under with a newborn in tow.

Would it be completely ignorant of me to show up with my newborn and DH? Baby in a carrier maybe? No pram to save space? Would they just send me away do you think? I probably should just listen to the letter and send toddler with DH. I'm just worried and being at home will drive me up the wall not knowing how it's going 😭

Newborn strapped to you in a carrier doesn’t count, don’t worry. They just don’t want 100s of kids marauding about. Some people treat hospital as a day out for extended family. I hope the op goes well.

This.
Be the responsible adult.
Plus, save your new baby all the germs.

I expect the toddler would want a parent there who could give them all their attention. Not a parent juggling a baby who might cry /need a feed/need a nappy change /get in the way of cuddles.

I think you have to take note of this.

Agree

Agree, the key here is to ring and explain. They’ll probably allow you to take baby but it’s rude to just turn up. Also echoing what another poster said, if you’re feeling really anxious, it may be better for dh to take him anyway. You will subconsciously pass your anxiety on to ds and make him more afraid. You could make the whole experience more traumatic for him.

It was two days ago

Hey I work in theatres and deal with kids dental , you need two adults if someone is driving you need someone to sit with the child in the back as they can be floppy and drooly and sick so we don’t let you leave unless there’s two people .