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My H is just so fucking miserable when we take our kids out

481 replies

sofingmisreable · 26/01/2025 08:04

He always wants to come back home ' right away '.

He doesn't seem to get the same joy out of seeing them having fun.

Example yesterday we went to a shopping centre. The kids were hungry as soon as we got there so we went for lunch and then he wanted to come home straight after and had a face like a smacked arse on, the whole time we were there.

Kids are nearly 3 and 5. Yes the little one was a whingeing a bit but he actually sat through the meal really nicely and they both ate loads.

Then after, I wanted to pick up a couple of kids for the kids, get them some balloons, let them play on the little cars in the shopping centre, so they'd have a bit of fun and he was just so miserable and wanted to go home at every turn.

It's pretty much always like that. It doesn't matter what we do, he just wants to come home straight away.

Today is my DD Bday party and he was like ' great, another ball ache '.

I get we all have bad weeks but this is very persistent. I try and give him space at the weekend for his hobbies, in the hopes he'll be a bit more jolly when he's with us, but it doesn't work.

I know the kids are stressful and especially our little one, has tantrums etc but they're our kids and I love nothing more than to see them having a good time.

Does anyone else have a Husband like this ?

OP posts:
Nonaynevernomore · 29/01/2025 18:59

Crakajak · 29/01/2025 18:55

Maybe he insisted because op is forceful. He's not here to give his side of the story.

In that case the majority of AIBU is pointless to engage with. If we need both sides of the story.

RawBloomers · 29/01/2025 19:05

Crakajak · 29/01/2025 18:55

Maybe he insisted because op is forceful. He's not here to give his side of the story.

He insisted on going to a place he will hate that OP was planning on going to without him because OP is forceful? And then proceeded to act abysmally and make it miserable for OP and his kids.

That doesn’t really make sense, wouldn’t be a reasonable excuse for an adult anyway and doesn’t address why he never takes them places he does like.

RobinEllacotStrike · 29/01/2025 19:07

Sorry but going to a shopping center with young dc was pretty high on my list of "things to avoid doing at all costs". None of that sounds even remotely fun to me. So I'm with your H on that.

But I am cherry and happy about other things.

katepilar · 29/01/2025 19:55

(Childrens) parties can be a ballache for some people, so that by itself isnt all that bad. Its the context and the tone etc that make it just another straw on the camels back.

Crakajak · 29/01/2025 20:51

So you're saying he's jealous of the attention she gives to their kids?

Nonaynevernomore · 29/01/2025 21:24

RobinEllacotStrike · 29/01/2025 19:07

Sorry but going to a shopping center with young dc was pretty high on my list of "things to avoid doing at all costs". None of that sounds even remotely fun to me. So I'm with your H on that.

But I am cherry and happy about other things.

But he asked to go, then was a misery!! Why ask?

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