SIL getting upset over something I said to my DOG

[Poitoi]

I recently spent a day with SIL, brother and their wedding planner. I am best woman and have quite a lot of responsibilities. It was intense but productive - we actually had a laugh.

Anyway, we went to my parents’ house after the day of planning. Here SIL heard me fussing over my dog who I hadn’t seen at all that day. At some point I said something along the lines of “Oh I missed you. A day without you is a day wasted in my book” to my dog. Obviously over the top and non-serious, I was just being silly with my dog.

Brother has since told me that SIL was really offended by this comment and is hurt. I just find that ridiculous. I told SIL on the way to my parents I had had a lovely time. I think dog people will see I was just being ott. My dog was being all snuggly and excited to see me so I just played into it.

AIBU?

I think you’ve completely missed the point actually. No one is jealous of the sodding dog.

It's not about you or your interests!
You are so self centred it's ridiculous.

Thanks. I am ND and do struggle with people at times. My dog is my life line.
Thanks for making me feel inferior for finding comfort in my dog.

Exactly, the poor dog is entirely innocent in this, it’s the owner who is at fault

Try seeing it from your SILs.

You were making some very nasty ridiculous comments

I kinda feel like you’ve asked for people’s opinions but you’re really pissed off when you get them. Plenty of what you say does actually sound fairly unpleasant. It was a weird thing to say to your dog imo and it did sound a bit passive aggressive and I get the whole ‘did I leave you alone and abandon you all day, I’ll never leave you again’ chat, I do that too. But I also get why ‘ a day wasted’ didn’t sit right, it is a bit of a strange thing to say. What’s honestly the big deal of just phoning and saying sorry if you hurt her feelings you really didn’t mean it like that at all. I wouldn’t think twice about saying that to someone. Yes, if they were starting to act like that too much with me that would be different but I feel like you want everyone to say what you want to hear when you asked for honest opinions.

Not really. My sister thinks everything is about her. If she overheard me tell my dog that she is the best thing ever, then she would be offended,

OP loves her dog, and SiL loves herself. It is a clash. Maybe no one is wrong, and no one is right.

There is absolutely nothing here to point to SIL loving herself.

Please don’t feel inferior. There’s no hierarchy of what “should” bring you joy or comfort.

The bond you share with your dog is real and meaningful.

You are completely wrong, the OP said something that was offensive and thoughtless and the SIL was offended, the OP is in the wrong not the SIL

And you have a bond with your dog too... hence your conversation with her.

I feel like I am going mad here. You spoke to your dog, and your SiL overheard and took offence. I just can't understand how people are saying YABU.

Her SiL overheard a private conversation between OP and her dog.

A conversation requires two parties

Agreed. But OP is incapable of seeing that.

If she said it within earshot of SIL it wasn’t private, it was thoughtless and offensive

Dogs are not people. Was insensitive after a wedding planning day. But you all sound a bit mad.

I talk to my dog all the time. I live alone, and she is my world.
She does not reply, but she listens.

Are you implying that me talking to my dog is somehow a waste of time, or a sign of some sort of disorder?

That’s exactly it, you cannot seem to grasp this at all, no matter how much it is explained to you

Are you implying that me talking to my dog is somehow a waste of time, or a sign of some sort of disorder?

No one is implying this….where are you getting that from, you are going off point again

I didn't say anything like that so don't put words in my mouth.

I'm not sure why you're continuing to engage on a topic you don't understand.

Same victim complex as OP, nobody understands me.

It is a different of perspective of things, But OP is called selfish etc

Because she is.