SIL getting upset over something I said to my DOG

[Poitoi]

I recently spent a day with SIL, brother and their wedding planner. I am best woman and have quite a lot of responsibilities. It was intense but productive - we actually had a laugh.

Anyway, we went to my parents’ house after the day of planning. Here SIL heard me fussing over my dog who I hadn’t seen at all that day. At some point I said something along the lines of “Oh I missed you. A day without you is a day wasted in my book” to my dog. Obviously over the top and non-serious, I was just being silly with my dog.

Brother has since told me that SIL was really offended by this comment and is hurt. I just find that ridiculous. I told SIL on the way to my parents I had had a lovely time. I think dog people will see I was just being ott. My dog was being all snuggly and excited to see me so I just played into it.

AIBU?

How is she selfish for having a nice moment with her dog, that her SiL overhears, and ultimately makes it about her?

I honestly can't keep explaining this to you.

And me to you. Agree to disagree?

Please don’t bother replying to Unicorn. They are getting off to basically calling you thick. That must be a happy way to exist.

You're not actually making a point tho.
You're just twisting everything anybody says to make it a personal attack on you.

It's not about the bond with the dog. It's about the self indulgence throughout the thread.

WOW - You are NBU! That girl needs to grow up.

I have never called her thick.

I have said I can't keep saying the same thing to someone who doesn't see what I'm saying (as she did to me].

That poster has already shared they're ND, so that's a particularly nasty stir.

I think you are right. It is sad.

Back to the OP.

Jeez, what bridezilla.

“I honestly can't keep explaining this to you”

”I'm not sure why you're continuing to engage on a topic you don't understand”

A lovely way to talk to someone you acknowledge is ND.

Edit: Sorry quoted wrong post. Meant to quote:

“I have never called her thick”

But back to you OP after your deflection, with someone neurodiverse as collateral.

You made a comment which hurt her. You have made a thread, engaged with the very few people who agree with you but ignored the vast majority who didn't

I think your SILs feelings about you go deeper than this one comment. Even your recollection of her day was only that you enjoyed it because it suited you. Don't be surprised if she's had enough of you ...but there's always the dog to blame or vulnerable posters to manipulate rather than accept you're the problem and that the person with main character energy isn't her.

Exactly...you can say anything to a dog why specifically that it's a bit specific

Keep believing Ops narrative who is using your very genuine intentions to deflect from her own wrongdoings.

I stand by what I said.

Stop trying to deflect and make this about something else, when you clearly are the problem

In everyone of your comments you come across badly, you twist and turn things and are entirely incapable of accepting that you caused offence

You have a very poor character

Completely agree, the more I read her comments I definitely think she fully meant the SIL to hear and cause offence,

Thanks.
True colours shown there.

Actually I saw @YeOldeGreyhound say how someone made them feel inferior for finding comfort in their dog and that just made me feel bad for them. I just don’t want that poster defending my position and getting shit for it.

It wasn't me that said that

You didn't feel bad for anyone.. you saw an opportunity to manipulate her.

When you hurt someone's feelings, even by accident, you apologize. I learned that from Sesame Street when I was five. It's served me well in life.

That was a really tactless thing to say and does sound like a PA insult.

I think it is understandable the SIL was a bit at hearing the day was wasted.

OP doesn't seem very aware of others' feelings or willing to accept this was a minor fuck up that just needs smoothing over.

What language does her dog speak I wonder 🤔

Again deflection, you are trying to show yourself as an understanding person, yet you are incapable of understanding the position of your SIL

Believe what you like.

I had sympathy for @YeOldeGreyhound as they described their dog as a lifeline. I’ve leaned on my dog for emotional support too in the past. I just didn’t like seeing them being spoken to so disrespectfully by you.

I don't feel manipulated.

All I see here is OP was talking nice to her dog, and her SiL took offence by it.