Dumped by a voice note after 12 months

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Been in a situationship and he's ended it by voice note after 12 months. I knew it was coming and wanted to stay friends (he has requested this too), but don't think I can because he's not had the decency to say this face to face. AIBU? And how would you communicate this?

I just wouldn’t reply and I would also block them.

I would reply to say that cowardice is not a trait I value in a friendship so never contact me again. Then block.

Yeah that. Also the friends thing is unlikely to work and you shouldn't feel obliged to go along with it.

@Mymouseisonfire ok, thats an option 😂

What exactly is a situationship?

I wouldn’t want to stay friends and I would simply say “I don’t want to stay friends any more, so please don’t contact me again.” It needs nothing more than that. In fact, it wouldn’t even need as much as that. I’d probably just block them. No need to over complicate things.

@RocketNan love that! @PullTheBricksDown I honestly always thought we would stay friends so it's been quite upsetting the way he's gone about things

Ditto.

@devastatedagain a situationship would be more like a friendship but with intimacy, less serious than a relationship

I wouldn't respond. I wouldn't block. I wouldn't decide anything right now.

He's really upset you. Just focus on looking after yourself.

There's way too much high-speed reacting these days, a bit of quiet is usually the best course. You don't have to have your say or do anything.

I’d just reply with an emoji and block. Maybe 👍 or 😂

Silence is deafening, as they say. Don't reply, as above, and block him. Cut all ties because a clean break is easier to get over than bitting and batting with attempts at friendship that just feel weird.

@verycloakanddaggers I appreciate that. This hapenned a couple of days ago so I may indeed leave it for longer and see how I feel. Right now I just feel like I've lost all respect for him

@BitOutOfPractice 😂😂😂

oh, like a "friends with benefits" type of arrangement?

And now he's asking if you can just be friends? without the sex?

What do YOU want?

Block and move on.

@BeachHutsAndDeckchairs I love thay quote, silence is deafening...

Any dumping is horrible, I don't think face to face is easier, telephone call or message would be my preference, I hate voice notes they irk me anyway.
Ghosting would of worse, I think you just need to some time to get over it, it will be fine.

"Thats not going to work for me". Block.

@devastatedagain Yep esentially. Like I've said, I always thought we'd end things on good terms and stay friends. I have a lot of love for him. But I've just lost all respect at the way he's treated me.

@smallsilvercloud I just wanted to be able to talk to him face to face so we could have shut the door and stayed friends. He's not given me the chance.

Tbh that's why I wouldn't care that much how he did it. I'd text him something to say that he could have at least called you. But I wouldn't block or anything. Maybe because I'm used to FWB. It works until it doesn't anymore. If you no longer wish to be friends (which is fair) just say that if he tries to get in touch about it.

Leave it a while, no need to reply. See how you feel in a couple of weeks.

I don't think the method of the dumping is that important (although the words used are), it's how he treated you within the relationship that matters long term although it no doubt feels raw at the moment.

Dumping by voice note still leaves the door open for the kind of conversation that you want in a week or 2.

What is the point of blocking someone? I would only do that if someone was abusive or harassing me.

I was dumped by a Whatsapp message after 10 years together. I'd only gone away on holiday for 2 weeks.

I messaged back saying after 10 years I was worth more than a message but ok, I got the message and that was it.

@DinosaurMunch I think that's probably what's best for now!